Why should i forgive?

I'm sure you have heard about the bitter old people that are always angry? They never seem to die even though everyone around them secretly wishes they would just o to have the black cloud that person carries go away? These people did not forgive. Holding a grudge is a poison. To hang onto a wrong is not only to make yourself stuck in the place, it is also the beginning of poisoning yourself. The longer you hang on the more damaged you become. Holding anger inside is not only bad for your health, but your overall satisfaction with life to.

You can forgive even if you don't tell that person unless he or she asked for forgiveness. the real essence of forgiveness is when you forget the pain and move on. but there's no way you can forget what the person did to you as to serve a lesson to avoid such inclining mistake in the future. . It's not easy to forgive, but time help me move on..probably moving on is the best way to say that I've forgiven that person

thank you for sharing the excerpt from the article you have read. I always try to see the best of me, and would just find it in my heart to not think about the instances that caused me pain. I know it will go awa in time and i sure have to pray a lot for it especially when i am close to tears because of again remembering the pain i have gone through...

The lines which you have quoted appear very meaningful and should be adopted by all of us. Hope you would have taken a leaf from these lines and may forgive the person soon.

You can only forgive if that person asks for forgiveness. And the asking must be sincere. I think you have the capacity to forgive, and eventually forget, but it will not come if the other person who had done you wrong does not realize it. If it hurts you, feel the pain, but don't let yourself suffer further. What had been, had been. It is in the past. Ignore the person who had wronged you and live your life. Forgiveness will come in time....

It is really hard to forgive someone sis, especially if what he/she did is really unforgivable. But I agree with the article. It will give us peace of mind and we will not think of it anymore. Well there will be times that we can't help but reminisce what this person did to us. In every thing that happens to us surely we will learn a lesson or two. So I hope you learned a lesson from it. When you forgive someone you really feel relieved. Hope every thing is fine and all will fall in to its right places. Cheer up.

That are wise words, forgiving don't leave them off the hood but seriously, being angry, tied up about something is so bad for our selves, that only when we forgive we can feel the weight being taken away. There was this time that it took me years, I didn't think I should forgive, so I kept repeating I forgive the person in my mind and meaning it. It took like 2 months, daily, but I ended up forgiving and now I don'y feel angry, but the good thing is: I don't even remember this person, when I didn't forgive the enemy just pop up in my mind. It was not excusable what it was done but I don't need to carry it.

Same here toniganzon, I am experiencing a struggle in my life too. The man I loved the most, the father of my son hurt me physically, emotionally. He even have other girl in his life. It was one of the most hurtful situation in my life. It's hard for me to forget and forgive. I keep the pains for many months, and I hated them so much. But then as time flies by, changes happens, and somehow I slowly forgive them and move on. It does not mean I forgive him that I live together with him again. I'm forgiving them because I wanted to move on, have a happy life, be better. After all my life does not revolve around them. I should enjoy this life, Life is short!

Hi Toni, I think it isn't easy to forgive, actually is very difficult. To forgive could be last a long time because we are ever remembering an offense commited against us. We've memory and are able to remember easily. However we need to forget like as we need to sleep. I know it's easy to say, but if we don't forgive, we will become angered and that isn't good too. Cheers:)

What you have quoted is right toni, People like us has many driving force in our lives, we could be driven by our goals, reams, guilt, fear, and hurt. there are the things that makes people a prison, when we do not forgive it is not the other party who suffers because of many reasons they may have already forgotten the issue or they have smply forgiven you and themseves so those who do not forgive lost much, it is very hard at the beginning but very comfortable after you have let it go. Pray for the hurt, pray for God's direction and healing, when all those were gone it will be easy to forgive, just like a would it will heal in its own,let God do the healing. Thanks.

additionally in forgiving, yes we learn to for give every one that make some mistake to us in order to live a peaceful and happy life mate because if we will not forgive someone we are living in the wrong path, similarly we are not all perfect very one can do mistake even do we did not do in action but we still get some mistake in the way we think that's why it important to learn how to forgive each other no one is perfect but as long it will not keep on doing the mistake, but if know already that is wrong and keep on doing maybe its not right to give any excuses.

I am so glad that you shared it, because it was the same with me since I thought that forgiving is for the benefit of the person who has hurt me. Sometimes, I would just say that it's okay I'll just forgive but not forget. And I am not even understanding myself there because when I thoroughly think of it, there really is no forgiving. Now I see and got the real point. Thank you.

It is really true and easy to understand or to tell to other people but its one of the hardest thing to do specially if you don't trust the person anymore. There are a lot to be consider but one of the most effective is to heal by time to think and move on. Its indeed a good feeling to vanish worries but as we all know every wound theirs a scar like the old saying goes its easy to forgive but hard to forget. The mark is already there and we can't deny that its hard to trust people we forgive who hurt us and thats the consiquences. I got a question in mind, what if the person you forgive hurt you again and much worser than the first time. What will you do?

I agree with you. As the article said, forgiving will also free you from the bad feelings. Forgiving someone who had done you wrong will be good for the person you are forgiving, but better for you too. You start anew and start the slow process of healing. You don't have to be same as like before towards that person, but the thing is to let go of the burden and make it a lesson for yourself, not to let that person hurt you the same way again.

You right, friend. It's really hard to forgive someone whom we trust and love so much. But we need to forgive them to make our heart free...

Hi, I think the basis of forgiveness is to be letting go of a hurt and leaving it to the greater divine beings to deal with the situation. The passage you shared is so right coz it frees you of the bitterness that weighs on your spirit and soul and perhaps hinder you from truly enjoying a lot more things or for you to reach out to greater heights. If it is difficult to forgive, practise and practise so that you can truly move on. Cheers.

hi, yes, you are definitely right that its really hard to forgive someone especially to the person who really part of our life,but we are only a human that needs to forgive other people,the hardest thing is to move on and forget on what they have done to us that we really in deep pain.

One way you could is try to think that when you have something (bitterness or anger) in you heart, it could contribute to heart ailment. So, in able to prevent this, you should remove all the resentment, anger or bitterness from you. By thinking that you are the one to benefit when you have forgiven those who have sin to you, then you could easily forgive them.

Definitely right! Forgiving someone who caused you so much pain is hard to do. But we're only human. We must forgive the ones who hurt us. We must learn to forgive them and move on with our lives.

i have had several conflicts with people around me. it was hard to give forgiveness. it was hard to ask forgiveness. because the timing is important. and i would like to share what i have read about this issue. before you are able to forgive, you should dwell on anger first. release all the toxins of anger that's eating you inside. feel it. it's natural and humanly. however anger has a deadline, and expiration date. when you dwell too much on that negative emotion, it becomes bitterness. you don't want to stay longer in this phase. this is the hardest part. so move on. when you feel that the anger is exhausted, accept forgiveness. and then forget later on. hope that helps. - kat