You definitely don't have any work ethics old ugly lady!
By jdex_143
@jdex_143 (1093)
Philippines
July 19, 2011 11:36pm CST
I'm really pissed off with this old office mate of mine. (Just because I'm a new employee, that doesn't mean that she can treat me like that. I just hate her now.)
Here's what happened. Our departments supply of OR run out and I badly needed one to give to the driver in order for him to collect the rentals. The driver has to go and I have no OR for him to bring. He has other appointments that needs to be addressed also. He was in a hurry. So, my office mate referred me to this old lady's table. I walked through her table and asked her how could I get an OR. I asked her in a very polite manner. To my surprise, she yelled at me saying that her OR is hers and that we should secure one for us. I didn't knew yet their system regarding the OR's. I was thinking that only one person keeps it and she was the one keeping it. I just hate what I've been through this morning. I can't go to our head because she didn't arrived yet and I was not oriented that much.
I'm really pissed off with her. Why can't she explain to me in a polite manner what I'm supposed to do and not yell at me directly? She had me thinking that she don't have any work ethics. If she don't like me, at least she should've answered me in a professional way. She just broke my respect on her. I hate her and my hate for her will definitely last.
11 responses
@ptower76 (1616)
• United States
20 Jul 11
When you hate, you hurt yourself more than you hurt the person you hate. That old lady will most likely go home to her family and not give you a second thought and here you are emotionally tied to the stress it caused. I think I would have been more upset with the office mate that referred you to the old lady's table in the first place. Don't let those individuals that lack work ethics take you outside of yourself. You'll live longer. And so, if you hate her and if that hate definitely lasts, who will feel the pain more you or her?
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@jdex_143 (1093)
• Philippines
20 Jul 11
Hi, there!
I think it depends upon the person who hurt you. If the one who hurt you is really important for you, maybe you'll be hurt if he/she hurts you and vice versa. In my situation right now, I'm not hurt. I'm pissed off the way she treated me.
But I will not take it personally.. It will just upset me every time I see her face. I'll just chill.. Walk and walk in near her table.. Hehehe.. I'll piss her off too.
@rog0322 (2829)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
20 Jul 11
Hi jdex,
People like that need no respect. If I am in your sit, I would take out my .357 Magnum and blow her out to kingdom come (just kidding). You should assert your professionalism even if you are a new comer, that way would make her realize how barbaric her actions were.
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@jdex_143 (1093)
• Philippines
20 Jul 11
Yeah, she doesn't deserve my respect.
If I was not raised by my parents with good morals, I should've talked back to her. I just found out earlier that it's her responsibility to keep the OR and whoever needs it, she must give one. I really hate her now.
However, since I'm more professional than her, if ever I'll have any transaction with her again, I'll not address her as polite as I've been to her the last few days. I'll treat her with authority. She's not my boss anyway. She really pissed me off.
@miessy24 (235)
• Philippines
20 Jul 11
I'm amused with your story jdex...The woman is so old and grumpy! but yeah you are right, it was good that you didn't talk back at her. That way you didn't stoop down to her unprofessional-ism manner. You are way better than her if you continually do the right thing towards newbie you once were.
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@celticeagle (167015)
• Boise, Idaho
20 Jul 11
She isn't very professional is she? The old lady sound like a real corker. Can you report her? Once someone does something like this to me it would take alot for it to change. First impressions and all. It used to be important to act with professionalism in the work place. Not so much anymore. People just put in their hours and go home. They don't care who they walk over.
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@celticeagle (167015)
• Boise, Idaho
20 Jul 11
I would write out a greviance. She needs to have action come against her.
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
21 Jul 11
people like her definitely do not know ethics and respect even.
Well find the opportunity to get back at her..kidding. but ignore her. people like her do not last. 1 person likes this
@writergirl74 (802)
• United States
20 Jul 11
Hating her is only going to hurt you in the long run. In my opinion, people like this need to be shown how to treat others. It is hard to say what is going on her life that may cause her behavior. My Grammy always said, "you can catch more flies with honey than vinegar". So now, I use it. Even if someone is mean to me, I am still polite to them. A soft answer turns away anger you know. I would not have responded at all. You still have to work with her and maybe, just maybe one day in the future your kindness will draw her to a greater respect on learning how to talk and treat others. If we all behave this way then there can be no change. Change starts with you :)
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@writergirl74 (802)
• United States
21 Jul 11
It just seemed to me from the post that you are a pretty level headed individual who clearly knows how to treat people. We can't all go around giving up on everyone. Sometimes we are placed in positions to make a difference. Not saying they will be easy. Anyone can treat her like she does. It is easy to follow suit and treat her as she did you. We should love each other. Sometimes that means we have to hold each other up in that love. We all miss it and make mistakes. We can't just go around writing everyone off. Of course it is your decision how you handle it. I just think you could make a very large difference in the life of a lady who probably has some deeper issues than refusing and OR, whatever that is, :)
I seek the best all the time. I think negative reactions will only get more negative reactions. Have a wonderful day at work today!
@icantthinkofaname (135)
•
20 Jul 11
LOL I have no idea what an OR is!
But I do agree that this womans conduct with you was unproffesional and her attitude was completely uncalled for.
Perhaps she was having a bad day? No excuse. But maybe she won't be as bad in the fuure once you become more acquainted with her.
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@najibdina29 (1309)
• Indonesia
20 Jul 11
fine home well lived, but beware of boredom will usually faster hit couples who are always close
@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
24 Jul 11
I have dealt with nasty co-workers before. I would go to the boss as soon as the boss arrives. I will never let that go, but thats me. No one, and I mean no one has the right to talk to you that way, not even the boss. So, If I were you, I would cool down and approach the boss and say exactly what happened and make it clear that you are not pleased about it. But do it diplomatically.
@nurseclare (2209)
• Philippines
20 Jul 11
I hate her too,
She's acting like a person without work ethics,crap!
In the end, you still need to respect her, for PLASTIC's safe..lol
Be nice and don't be irritated on her...
Chill
don't waste your beauty on that ugly old lady..
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@thetis74 (1525)
•
20 Jul 11
She really does have no work ethics indeed. Whether or not you are oriented about securing you own ORs she should know that every OR is for the benefit of the whole company that you are working together as one. She is the older employee and she was expected to act accordingly and for what she did, not only does she deserve no respect-it is as though she doesn't have respect for you and the company she is working for and for herself. I can understand how you feel. But it is not healthy for you to get angry like that especially now that you already have grudge toward her because you could easily get angry with her again.. Maybe she issues where she vents it on others. Just calm down. She is not worth it.
@jdex_143 (1093)
• Philippines
20 Jul 11
Indeed! She should've been considerate knowing that I'm new and she's the one who knows well the system. And to think, it is her responsibility to keep the OR's. I was really pissed off with her.
But I'm okay now. You're right. She's not worth it. She'll just make me upset if I think of it more often.
@katzar0712 (324)
• Philippines
20 Jul 11
aww! this looks like a bad start.
sorry, i'm kind of a peaceful-loving person so you might not like what i will say, haha.
i've had several "conflicts" with my teammates. when i mentioned several, i mean 40% of the team members, i had severe to moderate (baligtad ba?) issues.
and most of these issues rooted from misunderstandings.
how does this happen? fairly self-explanatory...
you missed understanding the other person's mood? tone? attitude? purpose?
it's easy to lose your cool when you feel that you are unfairly treated. but try to keep an open mind, as much as you can. if you have plans of staying longer in a company, it will be to your advantage if you befriend everyone (because you don't know when you'll need them, haha). it doesn't help holding grudges
at saka lumiliit ang mundo kapag may kaaway, friend! (translation: smile at your enemies, nothing pisses them more than this, haha)
chillax!
- kat
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@jdex_143 (1093)
• Philippines
20 Jul 11
I liked what you said.. I think, I got an idea from you how to piss her off. Hahaha.. Devil me.
I don't need to befriend her. She has nothing to do with my endorsement in this company. I never also planned to stay here longer. Hehehe.. For now, I'll think of other things to piss her off. I guess that's the only way I can have my vengeance on her. Hehehe.. I know it's bad but I kinda like pissing her off. I like to see her brows almost joined together. Hehehe.. I think, this is better. To piss her off than I'll have myself think that I hate her. It will just give me a negative feeling. It's exciting to find ways how to piss her off. Hahaha
