Do you think disatisfied people always get sweet success in life?

Offense not felt or taken. I had several talks with him about his complaining behavior, but things go back to square one. I see that there are many people working hard to reach their aim. But somehow something beyond their control always comes in front of them as obstacle and because of this, they can no more continue working. Yet these people are optimistic. Meanwhile, the dissatisfied ones worry too much and don't like what they do. Still they are always enjoy good results. Don't you think that is injustice from the nature? Of course, I am happy that my boyfriend is always lucky in what he does, but he is just not happy with all that. But look to the other side of the planet. Many people up there cannot even get two meals a day. Yet they don't go around letting everyone know that they are unhappy in their lives.

Maybe he really is not happy the way life goes for him, one is never really happy until he gets what one wants right? Lets face it, what he has is just not what he wants in life. Or maybe he is just show his happiness facedown or backwards, if you know what I means. He choose to complain instead of rejoicing, somewhat suppressed happines. But then that is just my theory of your loved one. Maybe sometime he will understand reality as you see it, all the luck.

Thanks, I am just beginning to think it is his habit to complain. He has everything he needs. But he always tells me he hates people. I guess that is the reason why he complains. After all, we come across people in our day to day lives. We cannot live without them. His kind of world exists, perhaps, just in dreams. But again, a person who has healthy parents, happy stable relationship, job, a great resume and so on should not be so dissatisfied. I find him contradicting with himself sometimes. He wants to be controlled by people around him, but when it happens he gets all angry. He has no complaint against me though. I am not controlling. But at least once, I expect him to say that his day went great. It has been 3 years now. I never heard it from his mouth. The conversation always begins with him complaining.

I totally agree with you. They need spiritual healing. Have you met anyone like that? I see that it is usually the men who complain more. In the mainstream media, however, the spotlight is on women. I tend to disagree with them though.

You make me think now. The people who hate life tend to complain. So do you think that by allowing them to have all the happiness despite their complaints life is trying to make them realize something? There is a difference between today and tomorrow. Today they have everything, yet they are unhappy. What if tomorrow this everything gets taken away from them? I suppose this would make them realize what they have lost.

The last thing we need to ask these people is what they really want or what they are really looking for. Life is not a bed of roses. But if we apply your description about them here we will see that even the bed of roses will not be enough to make them happy. Unfortunately, there are many people like that in this world.

Of course, optimism without action is nothing. But there are several optimistic people who work hard. Yet even if they do not succeed in achieving their goals they do not go around complaining. Like you said, peace of mind is the best thing. Do the whiners realize that? I do not think so. Who is going to teach them that they are better off than most? They might hear it once, but the next thing they do is to take it out of the other ear. So the whining continues.