White lies that pile up

Sometimes when someone needs a correction, good advice, much needed criticism it will not always feel good in doing so. You may have to let her feelings be hurt now in order to save her from a bigger hurt or embarrassment later. Be a true friend to her and explain to her that this is just not a good idea. I would rather talk it out with her than see her be a bigger fool of if she is caught in a situation where these "white" lies catch up to her...

Most often, lies that pile up are pretty hard to clean up. Although I'm not saying she can't come clean. She can always do that if she chose to. It's always going to be her decision in the end.

Probably the best way is to get proof that she is lying and exaggerating. Once you have the proof, you can show her. After that, inform her that you are willing to offer to help and guide her in the right direction. That is probably the only way to tell her. The other thing is, just to leave it as is. Know that she is tell you lies but make her believe that you believe her. It is not an easy situation as you don't know how she would react. The is only advice. It is not right or wrong. It is up to you if you take this advice.

Hi ddaguno Sad when people are so use to saying white lies and they actually believe them too. The only thing you can do is when the next time you do find she has lied is calmly explain that is not so. Maybe pointing them out more often will get her to think twice before saying another one. Some will think twice but then there are those who will argue to no end. I hope she is not so far wrapped up in her stories that she takes a moment to re-think.

if you tell her she will probably deny that she is so you have to wait till the moment she does then after that tell her to go with you and then tell her that she's done that at that moment

Shoot for it. At the end of the day you tried. I get that you don't want to hurt her feelings but sometimes you have to ignore all that and d what's best for your friend.

Its like the story about the 'boy who cried wolf'. I am sure you know the story and if you do tell her and also tell her that her telling white lies will land her in trouble one day and nobody will believe her even if she is telling the truth,just like in the story.Once in a while it is good to tell a white lie if you want to save a person from falling in some trouble but to keep on repeating it everytime....definitely not. If you are truly her friend then tell her not to do it ina nice way so as not to hurt her feelings.If she is a sensible girl then she will understand and stop doing it.If not,then it is her problem and leave her to her to face the consequences. she will have to learn it the hard way.she needs a hard knock to bring her to her senses.

You can try, but she is probably not going to listen. Does she even realize she is telling such lies? If she doesn't, that might, in some ways, be more troubling. Maybe you could start by joking about it--pick an obvious one, and say something like "that was a good one--I almost believed you for a second." Maybe if you deal with it in a humorous way at first, she will get the message without having her feelings hurt or becoming too embarrassed. Good luck!