Parents have too many high requests with oldest daughter/son
By Polang
@tkonlinevn (6438)
Vietnam
July 21, 2011 2:34am CST
Are you an oldest girl/boy in your family?
I'm an oldest sister in a five siblings family. When I was a child, my parents cared me carefully. However, when I have grown up, they have spent much time to my siblings.
They almost don't call me to ask about my life or my job. They only call me if there are some problems which occur to my siblings or occurring with them. They want me care my younger sisters and younger brother.
If I have difficult, I must solve it by myself. I can't call my parents because they don't want to listen it. I can't call my siblings, because they can't help me.
My parents always want to hear the best things about me or they want to hear that I'm successful at company. They don't like if I call them and saying that I need helps.
I don't angry my parents because I love them. But I sometimes feel sad about this. As a daughter, I really want to have my parents' cares.
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7 responses
@thetis74 (1525)
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22 Jul 11
You don't have to be angry at them, I think. Because I believe that they love you too and that is only that the know you are already grown up that they believe you are big enough to handle yourself well, because it is your younger siblings that needs more attention now. Maybe they have already trust you with so many things that they know you can handle everything well. If they want to hear about the best things that are happening to you then I guess it is a good sign that you still have their attention. Maybe you will understand the moment you will become a parent too.
@tkonlinevn (6438)
• Vietnam
26 Jul 11
Right. Maybe they only wish the best things to me when they don't want to hear my difficulties. I hope that my uncomfortable will be off in the sort time.
@vovandat1988 (1121)
• Vietnam
23 Jul 11
hello tkon...,
I am not oldest brother in my family. My oldest sister always helps me and younger sister.
have a good day
@tkonlinevn (6438)
• Vietnam
26 Jul 11
You're very happy because you're not an elder sibling. Do you feel that?
@GemmaR (8517)
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21 Jul 11
I am the oldest sibling in my family, and I often believe that there is a lot of pressure on me to make something of myself. When a couple have their first child, they have big dreams for them to lead a perfect and highly successful life, and more often than not, this dream won't become a reality and won't be possible in the slightest. By the time they get to the younger children, they've learned the lessons, and are much more laid back about their parenting skills. As a result of this, it might seem as though the youngest is favoured. They may be treated favourably, but this doesn't mean that they'e favoured, if that makes sense.
@tkonlinevn (6438)
• Vietnam
26 Jul 11
I always wish that I was not an eldest sibling. I want to have a normal life. I feel stress with my parents' wishes on me.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
21 Jul 11
I am sorry to hear that they do not inquire about you. Perhaps they feel you are very successful and are not having issues. Though it is not right because I can sense that not asking at all would make me feel like they did not care.
Everyone has issues and everyone who cares about us should inquire from time to time if we are doing okay.
@tkonlinevn (6438)
• Vietnam
26 Jul 11
It's a part my faults. Because I rarely tell them the difficulties of my life to them.
@Jlyn10 (11965)
• Malaysia
21 Jul 11
Your parents do care for you, even though they never show it. Which parents do not care for their own children? When you become a mother and have your own children, you will know how it is like to be a parent. Always remember that a mother's love will never die for their own children. 
@tkonlinevn (6438)
• Vietnam
26 Jul 11
Hi Jlyn,
I'm not a mother now. So, I can't understand all love of my parents, maybe. But I want to say that parents expected too much on their children, special is their eldest daughter/son.
When their children can't become persons who they wished, they feel disappointed. And they begin treated rigorously to them.
I'm in this situation. I feel sad. I only need their love and showing my love to them. But they always express that they don't need love from me. They need me leaving them money and reputation.
@sswallace21 (1824)
• United States
22 Jul 11
Welcome Back! I haven't seen your name in awhile. I can tell this is a difficult issue for you. Sorry to hear you are struggling with your parents.
I happen to be the only girl with two brothers. However, I'm in the middle. To be honest my entire family only talks to my husband and I if they want something. I have completely gotten use to it. I'm quite content to stay away from the family. It is truly less of a hassle for me that way. We would rather do things on our own then get wrapped up in the family drama and rely on others. Best Wishes!
@tkonlinevn (6438)
• Vietnam
26 Jul 11
Hi dear,
I have been busy for a long time. So, I'm not here. Now, I can begin to write.
I think that I'm struggling with myself is more logical. Because, I still love my parents moreover I fell sad because them. I know that I can't do anything to change them. I only can thought and living optimistic now.
@aprilmom (172)
• United States
22 Jul 11
I am a only child and still lack getting help or anything from my dad. I do like doing things for myself or by myself though. Also sometimes it agervates people when they don't ever hear good things but only bad things :(. Got to try to stay/be more positive.
