Is it a character flaw?
By carpediem17
@carpediem17 (1315)
Singapore
July 21, 2011 4:54am CST
I have a friend who is quite fickle sometimes and indecisive. Often times, you would rather be the follower than the leader. As a friend, I know I have to see beyond her fault but I do find this tiresome trait of hers from wearisome on me. And I do hint sometimes that she needs to be more decisive. 
Do share your experiences with your friends.
Do share your experiences with your friends.3 responses
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
21 Jul 11
Sadly I have encountered people like this in life and no matter how much I have calmly explained that they had to change their ways they won't. I do have to consider the negativity aspects of the relationship and though I won't be rid of someone easily I try to place a little distance. I can love someone from afar.
I do try and help but everyone has to be able to want to help themselves too. If they are willing to accept some advise then I will certainly help, if not I can still be a friend and just not touch the subject and simply listen. If they are expecting a response then I will somehow say of course it is your decision but why ask if you can never decide. It is exhausting sometimes but given the nature of certain friends we somehow bear through it.
@carpediem17 (1315)
• Singapore
22 Jul 11
thanks hwg for your sharing. I share your sentiments exactly. I will distance myself from them and love them from afar. It is more manageable that way - at least for my nerves haha.
Or just bear and grin. C'est la vie.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
22 Jul 11
I heard this on TV once where a judge says to people, that sometimes you truly have to love someone to let them go. I do live by those words because though I care for people sometimes trying to change them hurts us in the end.
Thank you for the BR! 
@Alechin (217)
• Slovak Republic
21 Jul 11
I have some friends who suffer the same kind of curse! Most of them are, naturally, women. I think it is them who mostly suffer the fate of being indecissive. I dont know why they are like this. I have a couple theories tho. Not all of them are this way. And you gotta be patient with those that are, tho it goes on your nerves big time.
@carpediem17 (1315)
• Singapore
22 Jul 11
thanks for your sharing. Indeed it rakes my nerves big time and I often have to focus that she is basically a good person.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
24 Jul 11
I think you need to talk to her about her flaw. Sometimes just presenting to her the flaws she has can often make a difference.
