Instant Engagement and Instant Marriage
By smilywomen
@surekharathi (14146)
India
July 21, 2011 11:24am CST
Wow I attended a great instant marriage in the evening in a temple. My one relative elder father in laws daughter get married with in 2 hours.
A boy and their family members are came to see my father in laws girl and after seeing and asking something they tell to our families they wants to get married now. They all are decided first they will do the engagement and then after two hours they will get married. Tho boy is well educated (CA), smart and doing job in Nagpur, girl is also an Engineer.
Our family members talk with mediator and mediator was friends of elder father in law so they said dont worry I know about this family. They are well reputed person so you can do it. Then our family is also ready for instant marriage. I think the boy family think in our community girl is less than boy, so if they performed marriage immediately than good.
Share your views what you think this instant marriage decision is good for us or some time its necessary before thinking. Will this marriage is successful and you are attend this type of instant marriage any time.
A boy and their family members are came to see my father in laws girl and after seeing and asking something they tell to our families they wants to get married now. They all are decided first they will do the engagement and then after two hours they will get married. Tho boy is well educated (CA), smart and doing job in Nagpur, girl is also an Engineer.
Our family members talk with mediator and mediator was friends of elder father in law so they said dont worry I know about this family. They are well reputed person so you can do it. Then our family is also ready for instant marriage. I think the boy family think in our community girl is less than boy, so if they performed marriage immediately than good.
Share your views what you think this instant marriage decision is good for us or some time its necessary before thinking. Will this marriage is successful and you are attend this type of instant marriage any time.6 people like this
15 responses
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
21 Jul 11
Good to hear about the instant marriage like instant noodles. Fine. If boy and girl ok and families also ok then it is ok to get a marriage solemnised in two hours. I wish they should get the marriage registered also tomorrow itself, if possible.
In this case boy's family is well known to elders and I am sure the marriage will succeed well.
What about the dinner after marriage?
What about the dinner after marriage? 4 people like this
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
21 Jul 11
Hmmmmmmm why you take the name of noodles now I need it because I like it so much. Now I will crying 
Yes friend boy and girl both are nice and boys family is also good two small sister in law the boy full family is well educated. You are right this marriage will succeed. Thanks for sharing your view.
Dinner is complete in the evening 7 O'clock I came from there at 9 O'clock.
Yes friend boy and girl both are nice and boys family is also good two small sister in law the boy full family is well educated. You are right this marriage will succeed. Thanks for sharing your view.
Dinner is complete in the evening 7 O'clock I came from there at 9 O'clock.3 people like this
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
21 Jul 11
Excellent. dinner was also arranged at short notice. good. This only confirms that things happen as they are destined. Hope all ur family members attended the wedding. good.
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
21 Jul 11
Ravisivan, that was really cute @"like instant noodles". Really I was more happy reading this discussion as I see that Surekha was dressed really nice and had a very nice time today. She needed a little fun. Therefore, I am glad she attended the wedding.
Really I was more happy reading this discussion as I see that Surekha was dressed really nice and had a very nice time today. She needed a little fun. Therefore, I am glad she attended the wedding. 
@SpikeTheLobster (6403)
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21 Jul 11
With no disrespect intended to your country, culture or traditions... that's horrible. It's even worse than arranged marriages, and those suck. Why even bother marrying if it's just a piece of paper and a financial arrangement? It's more like starting a business. 
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@SpikeTheLobster (6403)
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21 Jul 11
"the boys family seen the girl and family is good and girls family seen boy and his family is good"
Didn't notice the word "love" in there anywhere. It's still an arranged marriage, it's still horrible, it's still like signing a business document in my opinion.
But then I'd rather saw my own legs off with a rusty knife than have to be a part of an arranged marriage, which is a significant cultural difference. 
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@surekharathi (14146)
• India
21 Jul 11
No friend this is well manage marriage everybody is ready for this. This is not like business friend the boys family seen the girl and family is good and girls family seen boy and his family is good so they are ready for instant marriage. Thanks for response.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
21 Jul 11
I think there is no problem if both parties are agreeable and financially ready to hold an instant marriage. Afterall the important part is signing on the dotted lines. Celebrations can be a lavish one or a closed door ceremony where only close relatives are invited. In fact I've just spoken to my son to get engage with his girlfriend of two years and get married within a week. I have yet to receive an answer from him.
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@surekharathi (14146)
• India
21 Jul 11
Yes friend only close relatvies are invited and our father in laws all family is in the same town so no problem call everybody. You are right both the party is agree and financially well. Yes friend spend more money on marriage is not good. Thanks for your response. Celebrations is also here but in short.
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@rameshchow (4426)
• India
24 Jul 11
Send my wishes to your sister in law.
Happy marriage life wishes to them.
They both have to live like ram-sita without any struggles with good understanding.
Then you also be in contact with them by giving your valuable suggestions...
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@surekharathi (14146)
• India
25 Jul 11
Thanks for providing good wishes. Hmm Ram Sita but some years after they face lots of struggles. So this couple is link Abhishek and Aish no struggle till end of life hahahah
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
21 Jul 11
Hi surekha
Since I know in your culture they do arranged marriages right then I suppose it is the best way to go in this type of instant marriage. Since I am not accustomed to arranged marriages I don't think for me it would work.
But in all honesty love is love and if both puts forth the efforts to maintain a marriage then time factors really don't matter. As for me, well I like the take it slow and see, lol But again in my country we are not accustomed to arrange marriages.
I wish them a life time happiness and success in their marriage. Glad you had some fun today, you needed a bit of fun.
Since I know in your culture they do arranged marriages right then I suppose it is the best way to go in this type of instant marriage. Since I am not accustomed to arranged marriages I don't think for me it would work.
But in all honesty love is love and if both puts forth the efforts to maintain a marriage then time factors really don't matter. As for me, well I like the take it slow and see, lol But again in my country we are not accustomed to arrange marriages.
I wish them a life time happiness and success in their marriage. Glad you had some fun today, you needed a bit of fun.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
21 Jul 11
Dear friend 
This marriage is also arrange marriage but boys family wants to get marriage today they see the girl and then they see all family is good girl is good then they decided and share their views with our family members then our family members is also ready for it because boy is good and his family is also good so we are also ready. Boy and girl is also ready for this instant marriage.
Really I do makeup shakeup wear new saree and enjoy that moment. Thanks for sharing your valuable views.
This marriage is also arrange marriage but boys family wants to get marriage today they see the girl and then they see all family is good girl is good then they decided and share their views with our family members then our family members is also ready for it because boy is good and his family is also good so we are also ready. Boy and girl is also ready for this instant marriage.
Really I do makeup shakeup wear new saree and enjoy that moment. Thanks for sharing your valuable views.3 people like this
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
21 Jul 11
Yeah I am glad you had a great time at the marriage. You needed a little fun these days.
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
21 Jul 11
hi surekha,
Really?
I believe other culture and tradition well this is how they think is the best way but for me I rather know the person before I marry him it's not about what he had or what educational background he gets but the personality at least I will not regret it later.
I hope they will have successful married life.
happy mylotting
I believe other culture and tradition well this is how they think is the best way but for me I rather know the person before I marry him it's not about what he had or what educational background he gets but the personality at least I will not regret it later.
I hope they will have successful married life.
happy mylotting
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
21 Jul 11
No friend they never regret it later because we leave them for some time alone and they chat with each other then their and our family is ready. Because both are good looking, well educated, well settled. Yes should give with them for happy marriage life.
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@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
21 Jul 11
Instant Craziness, you say? This marriage must have been fun to attend! Imagine all those crazy people in one temple,and all at the same time! It must have been hilarious! Tell me what they were drinking? What was the rush? Was the bride or groom to-be, dieing of a fatal disease, with just a few hours to live? Who stood to benefit from this hastily hashed-up affair? The boy was not that smart, but after a few months of wedded bliss with an unknown female his intelligence should rise dramatically. Imagine hiring an engineer who could build an institution intended to last a lifetime in an amazing two hours?
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
22 Jul 11
Yes all carzy people are attended this marriage in a temple. Ohhh They take tea not drink any other than water. This is not as dramatically friend this is happened in real life. I will send you photo after two to three when photographer gives me. But really this amazing so it is called instant marriage. Thanks for response.
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@maidangela7349 (1191)
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22 Jul 11
I am not sure why this is in the religion section as it is a cultural thing rather than religious. I would suppose that as the culture in which the couple are brought up arranged marriages are normal then they will naturally accept that situation and work with it. In western culture it generally more acceptable for a boy and girl to meet in social situations and get to know each other and fall in love before they decide they will get married. I do have some experience with this as I have indian friends who had an arranged marriage and it is not without it's problems. There is the factor that if one of the couple decided it is not for them they are stuck with the situation or else leave and not speak to the family of the partner nor their own family so they would be isolated. So it is difficult to compare the two systems. On a lighter note I would love to try wearing a sari
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
22 Jul 11
Friend I have no marriage section because this interest is not included by me so I start in religion section and this matter is also related to community so I start. Thanks for your response and I am happy that I am wearing a sari. I love sari.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
21 Jul 11
dear sis,
Here in our country it's not the usual practice or if ever this happens,it might be just like having fun.
Most couples here are engage for years or months before getting married.
Knowing each family and also preparing or planning for their future,something like that...then comes the marriage plan.
Thu mosts of the youngsters here now get married at an early age and most cases are of girls getting pregnant,so,if both family's agree,marriage will takes place.
Or,sometimes,after giving birth..then marriage takes place (sounds funny..but it happens here,and happening)
good evening sis
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@surekharathi (14146)
• India
21 Jul 11
Friend in our community is the same but now girl is less so boy is always ready to marry if good girls is front of him. No friend here both age is proper 22 and 25. You are right some people get marriage in early age and face lots of problem. No friend not such type of matter here. Both are unknown to each other only they meet today when boy and his family came to see that girl. But here mediator is good so instant marriage is performed.
Good evening sisand thanks for sharing your view.
and thanks for sharing your view.3 people like this
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
22 Jul 11
For me not because it is culture only so i think it not matter so if they love each other then it will last long.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
22 Jul 11
Friend after marriage they love to each other. But before marriagen they not known to each other. God bless both from all mylotter thanks for very short resposne.
@umabharti (3972)
• India
21 Jul 11
Some marriages do happen instantly.,However as the elders and mediators all are known to each other the instant marriage happened.
@umabharti (3972)
• India
21 Jul 11
yes a little mylotting and doing some offers with some sites.So i made a short cut comment to your topic.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
21 Jul 11
You are right mediator was good and they known both the family so instant marriage is performed otherwise it was very difficult. Thanks for short response. Dont worry I think you are so busy my friend.
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@BannedHelsing (693)
• Philippines
22 Jul 11
Hello!
I never attended an instant marriage before. And I don't think I will ever see one in my lifetime. We do not do that here in our country. We believe in courting process and to-know-you-better basis.
Well, I hope it works and they get along well even if they don't know each other that much. Congratulations to them!
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
22 Jul 11
Thanks friend for Congratulations for new couple. But really in our community most of the time instant marriage is occured. In our Maheshwari community girls are less and most of the boys are businessmen so if the girls family found a good educated boy and boys family got a good girl then they immediately decide and do such marriage. Girls are more educated and boys are less educated so every girls wants more educated boy and mostly boys are businessmen. I attend this type of marriage second time. Thanks for response.
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@simplyphen12 (68)
• Philippines
22 Jul 11
hi surekharathi,
You know I admire this kind of relationship instant engagement and instant marriage. Why? Because not everyone can manage to do this kind of relationship. I have worked with some people having this kind of tradition but they are all happy couple. They do learn to love and respect each other and so they're relationship lasts.
I remember one of my supervisor when I was still working in Qatar. When she went back home here in Philippines she didn't expect that she will get married in just a couple of days. The guy chooses by her parents and because she is old enough (32years old) she agreed to get married to this guy. She didn't regret about this, the guy is well family oriented and they learnt to love each other as the time pass by. And now I can see them that they are happy and well contented.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
22 Jul 11
Friend but this couple is happy and look like such made for each other. Both are well educated, smart, less age (22 and 25), well settled so I think they will spend their life happily and after 1/2 an hour meeting both are decided then can marry with each other so family members is also ready for it. Yes your supervisor experience is well. thanks for response.
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@mrinalaha (2)
• India
21 Jul 11
That's not a good thing, I guess. After sometime, they will lose interest in each other and may opt for extra marital affairs.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
22 Jul 11
No friend they are well educated and well settled not small person so this chance is not to loose interest to each other. CA boy and Eng. girl and both are smart. Thanks for response.
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