When it's time to end a relationship.
By Pose123
@Pose123 (21635)
Canada
July 21, 2011 6:05pm CST
One of the hardest decisions we ever make in life is leaving a long-term relationship that just isn't working. When attempts at repairing and working out issues aren't working, it may be time to examine moving on. We are emotional creatures, and when our heartstrings are tied to those of another, separating from that person can feel like an act of courage. It is not something most of us will take lightly, and many of us will struggle with our desire to stay in a relationship that is unfulfilling simply in order to avoid that pain. We may question whether the happiness we seek even exists, and we may wonder if we might be wiser to simply settle where we are, making the best of what we have.
On the one hand, we almost relish the idea that true happiness is not out there so that we can avoid the pain of change. On the other hand, we feel within ourselves a yearning to fulfill our desire for relationships that are vital and healing. Ultimately, most of us will follow this call, because deep within ourselves we know that we deserve to be happy. Taking the first steps will be hard, but the happiness we find when we have freed ourselves from a situation that is draining our energy will outshine any hardship we undergo to get there.
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5 responses
@scorpiobabes (7225)
• United States
22 Jul 11
Not everyone wants to be married though. Maybe the divorce rate would go down if everyone didn't force the issue.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
22 Jul 11
People change and life can cause many ups and downs in a relationship, even long lasting ones have this. The mistake we make is thinking that another can bring us happiness, the only true happiness is one you bring yourself. As long as you are expecting others to provide this you are giving away your power to be happy and this never works for long. Life is such that we can lose sight of this while our attention is focused outside the relationship but in the end each is only in charge of his life. In any good relationship each party understands this and yet they find many goals toward happiness the same, as time goes on those goals may change and so the relationship also changes but never place the blame on the other person, it is always your choice. And do not fool yourself that you will find your happiness with another. It's an illusion, and a part of the mind grabs this because it becomes excited over the illusion. But in the end that also will fall apart and the mind will say what happened? If one can learn to be happy within one's self this will attract others who have also gained this ability and your relationships will have little or no pain within them.
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@williamjisir (22819)
• China
22 Jul 11
My sister-in-law on my wife's side ended her relationship with her ex-husband years back. It seems to be good for her to do so as she no longer loved him. She enjoys her present single life, free without any mental burden of being with an unloved one. She has been trying to look for her another half in life, but without result yet. I hope she will find one soon to enjoy a better life. Enjoy yourself, Pose.
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@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
25 Jul 11
Hi pose: this is a very difficult question, specially because when we start a relationship we try to make it last forever. Unless you are playing with someone feelings you try to give your best so it's hard to get to the conclution that all you have build is over and you have to go on but if you find that you have made everything to work out and you and your partner can't find a way to make it work it out and on the opposite, this relationship makes you suffer, I think it's time to go on and end up this relationship that is actually having a negative effect on you.
ALVARO
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@naija4real (1291)
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22 Jul 11
Ending a relationship can be challenging especially a relationship that has existed for a long time. This is because both parties have developed deep emotion and feelings for each other. I think ending a relationship requires a lot of maturity and the ability to manage the outcome after the union has collapsed.
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