Who is best?

I don't think you can honestly say either of them is better than the other. Because without one, the family would fall apart. You need on head of the family being responsible and bringing in the money. And the other head of the family needs to be managing the household (Perhaps even also working in today's society). They are two pieces that make a whole. Can it be done with one person? Yes, there are many families out there who have only one head of the family. But then that person is taking on both of the duties that you mentioned in this post. And since your discussion clearly seperated them into two different groups- Just one of these people, who only did one of the above mentioned tasks, isn't enough to get anything at all done. Both heads of all family have their places, and should be loved, and respected. Not poked, proded, and debated over who's the harder worker, or the better person. At least, that's this girls opinion. ^_^