Before marriage - I love my parents After Marriage - I love my wife/husband..?
By siliguri
@siliguri (4241)
India
July 23, 2011 5:09am CST
This is the answer of many persons if you do the survey you will find this thing before marriage a answer of every human beings but after marriage who are my parents my wife is everything for me. So much hurting line may not for me but for me why the persons forget their parents in the love of his wife/husband i'm not saying that don't love your wife/husband but atleast don't ignore your parents who give birth to you and have done everything to make you a good human beings.. are you one of them..? This is reality of our society where we live..what you thought about it..?
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8 responses
@fritzlopez (12)
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23 Jul 11
I would say right now I love my husband compare to my parents. I know that my parents mold me being who I am now but that is part of their responsibility as a parent. My husband is my life now and I am starting to build a family of my own and become a better parent. I would say if parents abandon their children is a big crime but children abandon parents is nothing.
@benny2905 (42)
• Philippines
25 Jul 11
Are you saying that you are forgetting your parents after getting married? I can't imagine what kind of people will do this. You see, they are still our responsibility, caring them when they get old is one way of returning/answering the hardships for caring us when we still not capable of caring ourselves.
@benny2905 (42)
• Philippines
25 Jul 11
What would you feel if your own children abandon you when you get old? Do you feel happy? I don't think so!
@fritzlopez (12)
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25 Jul 11
We owe our life to our parents, yes, but we are not responsible of everything they do for us as their children it is their responsibility as a parent. In the end we will build our own family so that is why we love our wife/husband more than our parents after we got married. Our parents will not be their after 50-100 years of ourlives. I am practical that I would prefer to love my wife/husband more compare to my parents especially if my parents demand so much of our time, effort and money.
@benny2905 (42)
• Philippines
25 Jul 11
Good that you have realized that we owe our lives to our parents. If not for them and their care when you're still a baby or little you are not what you are today. They're the one who supported you everything, your food, sending you to school and bringing you to the hospital when you get sick. Those are only few things our folks have done to us. With all the hardships your parents had entailed in raising you, you can still afford to leave them just because of your wife or husband? Do you think other people will take care your parents? Common wake-up. Their lives are about to be end, why not giving them the care they deserve in their remaining days on earth.
@venkatachary (1165)
• India
23 Jul 11
Normally, after marriage,some couple love their parents and keep them along with them.But in some cases they do not care their parents. It is the attitude prevalent mostly with the son.But in many cases the daughter, looks of the parents at their old age.I looked after my mother when she was bedridden and after she recovered she lived independently nearby to my sisters house till her lost breadth.She felt comfortable to live independently supported my sisters who were nearby.
So, it is the desire of the parent and that should be cared for their happiness.
@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
23 Jul 11
Hi there!
For me before or after marriage one should not forget his/her family or parents. They are still our parents so the responsibility is still there. I can see that nowadays children are less caring to their parents once they have their own life. Sometimes you can't point a finger to the children as they might have some issues between them. But I strongly believe that parents are forever. We need to take care of them while they are still alive.
@benny2905 (42)
• Philippines
25 Jul 11
Yes, I agree with you. Because we are not here in this world if not because of our parents. We should be thankful to them and and one way of showing our gratitude is by caring them when they become old.
@Bannybanzie (1397)
• Philippines
25 Jul 11
HI!
Well, I must say that when two people get married, they first love should be God, then their husband/wife, then only parents/family. Why? First of all, when a couple loves God, they would follow His rules about family which would be of great benefit to the family.
Next, the husband/wife. Why? The Bible (though you may not be a Christian) states that when a man and a woman marries, they will become "one flesh". This means they will live as one, considering each other's feelings and needs and will treat each other the way they treat themselves, with love and care.
Next is the parents/family. Since a man/woman who has married is starting a new life, it is their responsibility to work on their relationship. The parents of either side should not get themselves involve when the couple has problems because they tend to support their child (even if sometimes he/she is wrong) and more than often that ruins the marriage. Parents are of course still loved and should be paid attention to. But when it comes to marriage matters, it should be the couple first to solve the problem. No need to broadcast to the family (of course depends on extent).
That's my view.
@benny2905 (42)
• Philippines
23 Jul 11
I think not all persons forget their parents after they got married. Here in the Philippines, we still love our parents. In fact, most of the parents here in country especially when they become old they live to one of their married children. Home for aged is not popular here in country and its been part of our culture to take care of our parents when they got old. So to summarize, not all people fall out of love to their parent when they enter the married life.
@Humanicon (328)
• India
23 Jul 11
Its the same in our country too.There are no home for aged in many places in this country.It is good to know that in many countries people still care about their parents.
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
23 Jul 11
For me yes it is the reality but if your parents are good attitude in you both then you love your husband and your parents too.
@anurag3786 (6267)
• India
23 Jul 11
Yes this situation comes at least in every person’s life when a person gets married. And after that his wife comes in his life. I think if there are understanding is good in your family then you can handle this very easily but otherwise some problem can happen. Sometimes wife blamed on her husband s that he is not time for her and he always give everything to his mother. I think this is a very common situation in a married person’s life and it is very hard to get solution of this problem. The only solution is that to understand your wife that you also care for her.
