Love Is Killing Me
@sandeepmohapatra060 (38)
India
July 23, 2011 9:38am CST
HHHIIIIIIIIIIIIII Friends...........
I had a girlfriend who is very sweet.I loved her a lot & now too.We had a relationship of over 3 years.She was doing the AIR HOSTESS course for her future life.She is the girl who never even tell me a lie even if she do a wrong thing.She always makes me feel that I am the world for her.
Her friends go for modelling & participate in fashion shows but as i don't like these, she never attempted to do so.She had a atmosphere of enjoying in disco & living a like PAGE 3 type life in which there is drinking alcohol,going disco flurting boys & coming late night to home.
But she never did this.She always lived like a good girl who liked enjoyment but not those which exploit her.
She completed her course & selected to do hotel managementas its a part of air hostess training.She got the job & started changing.She started drinking,coming late home & attending high profile mini skirts parties.The girl who hated this came against me when i tried to change her.
She is now not at all interested in me & I think that I am losing her.
I am very depressed & nothing seems valuable.
PLllllllllzzzz help me out..............
11 responses
@agrim94 (3805)
• India
30 Jul 11
Hi sandeep,
I know i sound negative but love these days is not a matter of heart but who kicks who first. So stop listening to your heart and break up from her before she tells you to get lost. I have been through what you are going through and i can not beleive that my realtionship lasted 3 years too but but but.. so from my experience kick before you get kicked.
@eurekafemme (5876)
• Philippines
24 Jul 11
Hello there again.
I can understand your sentiments but there's nothing you can do now. People change. Sometimes, whether we like it or not , we have to accept it. It is what she wants now, even if she hated it so much before. You have to let go. Trying to change her without her realizing your good intention is not going to work.
Sadly, if you are going to lose her, let her go. Having spread her wings wider made her see what she really wanted in life. That's the bitter truth about making realization and it is so easy for her to do what she wants now because she has more options than she used to have while she was just a student. Give her freedom. And get yourself a life separate from hers... 
I can understand your sentiments but there's nothing you can do now. People change. Sometimes, whether we like it or not , we have to accept it. It is what she wants now, even if she hated it so much before. You have to let go. Trying to change her without her realizing your good intention is not going to work.
Sadly, if you are going to lose her, let her go. Having spread her wings wider made her see what she really wanted in life. That's the bitter truth about making realization and it is so easy for her to do what she wants now because she has more options than she used to have while she was just a student. Give her freedom. And get yourself a life separate from hers... @nunezme (43)
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24 Jul 11
She is not the right woman for you. Don't waste your time, you will find other woman much better than her. Believe you me, it happens to me too and I did what my friend told me to do the same way what I told you. I never regret what I did and I feel so ashamed of myself looking at what I did. Be strong and move on, someone is waiting for you.
@blueangelwrites (149)
• Philippines
23 Jul 11
I believe you should find a way to set the two of you apart from work and friends to talk about what's happening in your relationship now. Tell her how you feel about the changes instead of telling her what to do. Tell her you love her but you are hurt because she is hurting herself and this relationship you built together for three long years. You had stated so openly in your discussion and I believe this is how you should speak to her. She might even be moved by the fact you sought help for the both of you.
@Yogesh2708 (454)
• India
23 Jul 11
It seems you are in love with that girl. First make sure that she is not under pressure of family, other social issues or something by which she is not taking interest in you or under that pressure she has to forget you. If she is doing this willingly then i don't think she is in love with you. Its very sad thing, that after her carrier and settling in her life, after becoming self dependant she is not liking you. I'll say she is not in love with you, and now its very difficult to get her back unless she loves you. One day say to her that i love you and only you, tell her everything what you were thinking about her and make her feel only she is love for you and how you've broken my heart, may be she'll move by this story and think over this and return in your life. Even i also don't know what i would have done in this kind of situation but i would have make her feel always that only you are my first and last love and still i am waiting for you and will be always waiting for you no matter how old i would be....
@Mysteria (209)
• Philippines
24 Jul 11
if you have different lifestyle. You have to ask yourself first: Is she the girl you want to be with for life? Do you think you think you can change her? Can you accept her quality of life now? if you have hesitation then there is something about yourself that can't love her completely. Nothing can be done but to let her go =)
