if a woman slept with another man - should she tell him(his boyfriend)?

Well if your guy cheated on you, would you want to know?

This is very complicated situation. Let say,the girl can keep it from her boyfriend,but the question is how she can keep it as secret? And how about those people/friends who might have known the situation...how sure that those people will keep their mouth shout? If i were in this situation,i would rather take the risk of telling the truth,than being judge by my boyfriend if ever he will find it out from other people.

Personally it is Best in any relationship to never hide anything, but when you the woman who has cheated decides to tell her boyfriend, or sometimes spouse even she better know she is safe and he will not want to retaliate as well. Many times it could just be a mistake and something that happened, but it could be from lack of affection going on where it need be as well. But if you are willing to bring it up and talk about it it can be the factor to see just how much each other really means to each other as well.

the guy has all the reason to know for he is her boyfriend. if the guy will accept it and will understand the situation, it will be good for her. if i am the guy, with the reason you mentioned as accidentally, i will accept her and will understand.

This won't happen to me.. But anyway, if you'll ask my opinion, I think, I won't tell my boyfriend about what I had done. This will just cause me trouble. If the guy which I had s*x would let my boyfriend know what we did, I will simply deny it to the best of my abilities. Not admitting something that can destroy a relationship is much better than lose your loved one forever and worse, deal with other people's criticisms. :)

I think she should tell her boyfriend. she will sleep better at night and if they make it through it without breaking up their relationship would probably be stronger due to her honesty with him.

She shouldn't tell her boyfriend what happened, because he won't be too happy to hear what she has to say. Instead, she should keep the secret to herself and see the bright side of things.

When you cheat sooner or later the truth will come out. if you are deceiving your partner they have the right to know. If you are going to do the crime, you have to be willing to do the time.

Well, it is crystal clear that this girl cheated his boyfriend. If her conscience can carry it, well then, keep it to her self. But I still prefer that she tells her boyfriend and all the stories behind it why it happened and let her boyfriend decide should he will still accept the girl. Should she be dumped, well it her fault!

If it's accidental or without her consent, she should tell it her self and not wait for others to tell him.It's really hurting if he knew it from other people.For being her boyfriend he have the right to know.I think being committed to her boyfriend she had no right to be with another guy, much as well sleeping with that guy. And if she did it so, she must tell the truth disregarding the consequences it may cause.

It is so sensitive situation that when a woman slept with another, to tell with her husband or with her boy friend. It depends on her boyfriend's character and behavior, if he is a good person to excuse her, then she tell.

I don't know but in the first place I won't let myself caught in this kind of situation. I'd rather not tell him and tell myself not to do it again. If it's only one mistake then better not to say it, because you don't really want to do it but it's different if you really want to have a relationship with him already.

hi chiyosan if i slept with someone i rather not to tell to anyone and have it secret because it is difficult to trust another people , i would rather tell to the boy not to show her face to me and forget what happen last night. , i would also rather not tell to my boyfriend or to tell to the boy that i have a boyfriend so that he cannot set up me a blackmail.

well, if it may happen if i were the girl i should tell to my bf rather than keeping it secret. I'd rather to take the risk. But if he really love me he will accept it because not everyone is perfect. If he choose to go well i will let him go because i love him.

This is nothing but simple cheating! If you have a boyfriend and you are going so well with that guy, then, you shouldn't even in your dreams think of sleeping with another guy. However, the best solution for this is to, put yourselves into such a situation. Say, if your boyfriend would have done such an act, how would you have reacted? The feelings should be exactly the same if it was the other way round!

It's a very difficult situation. But the right path to it is to tell the truth. The girl will probably lose her boyfriend, but it's the consequence of what she did. She is the only person in the situation who could have saved the relationship by not letting anytning happen between her and the other guy. If I am the guy, I'd rather know. I'd really feel bad, but knowing it earlier is my right as a man. It will be between the girl and her boyfriend whether or not they will continue on the relationship. But most probably it won't, the man already lost his trust and it will not be same again. Sad story.