have you ever distanced yourself from somebody else, why?

hi chiyosan, Yes now I am keeping myself distant to someone who is desperately wants to be an Indian gal though she is a Filipina I am fed up because obviously she is using and stealing my knowledge when it comes to India and Indian, I don't want to be like this to her but I don't have a choice she s getting worst every time we are together so better keep myself away from her. happy mylotting

Yes, I do distance myself from someone in the past. Simply because he is not a healthy friend (you know what I mean). Everybody in the workplace never likes him. I am the one who tried to understand and reach out. But I guess everyone has limitations, and I reached mine; hence, I have to go.

staying away from some people are parts of our lives. Most of the times its for our good. I stayed away from few friends who judge me, who uses cruel words against me and do not respect me. Well, the reasons are deep enough for me to distance myself. I have better friends than them. :)

That's what happen to all my relatives. They only knew me when they have something to ask with me... That is why I am not always aware on what they told me. Because I know all of those good words have something to exchange...

Hi chiyosan, glad to find this discussion! Yes, I have distance myself to someone, an old friend. We've been friends for more than ten years now but sad to say I don't consider her my friend anymore. THe reason was, let's say she hit my achilles heel. She's been doing that since we were students, she always pinpoints my weaknesses. She put me down many times, she laughed at my mistakes, and she was my tormentor. I got tired because I feel like she was competing with me when there's really no competition to begin with. I got tired of her so I got rid of her as a friend. She texts me once in a while but I don't respond. I don't attend to her birthdays, or her daughters birthday anymore. I just want to avoid this feelings of hurt the she gave me.

yesi i did because i confirmed with careful analysis and observation that they are not truthful to me- full of lies and pretensions.

I think that there are many people in all our lives that we prefer to keep a distance from, but as a Zen practitioner, I have found that it is those people that we distance ourselves from that is showing us something about ourselves. _Derek

There was this male co-worker I used to have lunch with, and one day we got ice cream after lunch, and he started licking the ice cream in a provocative way and made a comment that made me feel very uncomfortable. After that I didn't have lunch with him so often any more,and usually only when somebody else would come with us.

I've had to distance myself from my own husband. It is a sad situation but I just recently realized that he is a narcissistic sociopath. Something else I just realized about him is that he is extremely co-dependent, even though he pushes everyone else away from himself and wants me to have no friends or family around me. He just wants me all to himself, like he owns me or something. Anyway, he has hurt me way too bad too many times so I have had to back away from him emotionally until I can get away from him physically. I did this so I would not be hurt by him anymore. The saddest part about this is that he doesn't seem to even notice that I've distanced myself from him. He does seem a little curious about why I'm packing my things up but he won't ask, probably because he's afraid of the answer that I'm leaving him. But, he won't do anything to even try to make the situation better, probably because he doesn't even realize that he has caused me to want to leave him; he doesn't seem to think that anything is his fault. Oh, well. He'll have plenty of time to reflect on this once he's sitting here all by himself wondering what in the world would make me want to leave him (even though I've told him right to his face). His loss!

Those friends whom you thought but never really a true friend. Those who say good things in front of you and say bad things behind you. People like that can't be trusted. It's better to have friends who say bad things in front of you, at least you know what they really think about you and tell you personally. Well, sometimes it just depends on how people share their feelings. SOmetimes they find it hard to let it out cause they might hurt the other but then, they didn't know they are hurting in anyway. Anyways, yeah, there are people who just remember you when they need money but then they don't seem to care if you are the one who needed it. really bad, isn't it? I hope they'll realize that they are doing wrong and unfair to other people. I think telling them that you didn't like what they are doing can be done. It's just that it depends how you say it.

Yes, I have. You made the list and it's all in that list except the boyfriend part as I don't have one.LOL Annoying co worker is a great problem but easy to overcome. Ignore them even if they are just beside me. Have a distance with them? Yes. Friends and family who makes me looks like just a shadow when they don't need me. Should I keep myself away from them?? At this moment yes!Yes!Yes!(^^)

I broke my relationship with a good friend because of money. This is a stupid story and she made a lot of stupid things at one moment of her life. She got a new home and began to spend more money than she could afford. She borrowed too much money from her friends. Finally I saw this famous credit crunch that happened in the US live, in my home town. She was about to lose her new apartment, she sold it to redeem a mortgage and she began to make mistake after mistake... This is really a sad story about a lost friendship.

Most people have distanced themselves from someone they were once close to...stating reasons that are only a small portion of the true reason. Usually we do so to protect ourselves from harm, physical, psychological, mental or emotional, or even a combination of them all. We usually begin this distancing emotionally. We find that the demands on our emotions too strong so we respond less and less. We find we start thinking of the person less often and in a less positive light. Finally we physically move away, either by relocating or no longer sharing space and time with the person in question. I, myself, have distanced myself from my adult children from time to time. Their behaviors toward me becoming intolerable along with the attitudes they present. I do this with them to preserve the remainder of the mother daughter relationship, waiting patiently for them to end their experiments in life. Sometimes we are very aware of the distancing we are doing, other times we hardly notice at all...for example we might suddenly think "I wonder where so and so is? I haven't heard from them in months." Leaving open the question just who distanced from who...yet we would discover that more often than not, if we examined this distance, that it was ourselves who ceased the efforts of holding a relationship.

I distanced a male friend on purpose. Because I found him a little liked me. And he even hinted it for several times. That made me uncomfortable.

I don't have any particular person from where I distanced myself as of now. But I make sure I choose the people I go along with. I am now an isolationist but I have always been a separatist. I don't go or associate myself from people whose lifestyle breaks my moral standard. I also keep away from gossipers, backbiters, envious ones and those people who tends to abuse my kindness.

Yes, probably because I feel very awkward when you are with that specific person. The reasons would vary but if there really is a reason for you to not want to be near the person then you will do that. It's a natural reaction among any living being. It does not feel good but sometimes you just have to do it.

I've take distance from some friends because the difference on preferences, e.g. there are some who likes to come late at the appointments, also they like to prolong meetings drinking heavily. Another reason, because the distance among friends, is the difference on politic views. There are many other reasons, altough we have to be tolerant as well. :)

This posting makes me smile and remember my past. :) Hehehehe.. Yes, I did! I decided to relocate myself just to avoid seeing my ex boyfriend. Hehehehe.. Actually, we didn't have a formal break up. I don't know.. I just feel like avoiding him and not see him. I'm miles away from him now. Hehehe.. And I'm so happy about it. I'm happy now with my life and with my new boyfriend. :)

chiyosan I have had to distance myself away from some family members for constantly asking me for money and not paying it back. I don't get any assistance from anyone all I do is run my internet business and they think that I and super rich but I am not yet lol! It bothers me to think that they don't even want to come and see me unless I give them something. Lately, I had a person harass me on facebook about getting a free reading when I thought they were coming to me as a friend and someone that would want to get to know me for me. Boy was I wrong.

a big YES! i already done that to my friend in way back my college years we are very close and our friends and classmate told us that we are inseparable and we are like sister because we enjoy the same likes...when it comes to foods, clothes, and many things... but thier comes this instances that she done this kind of thing that i could never understand her while she does that and she could make lie to her parents and us her friends.