To wait or not to wait ?
By nerein
@nerein (283)
United States
July 24, 2011 10:19am CST
So there is this woman that I have been seeing off and on for over two years now. I care about her but there is a whole lot that I just can not deal with anymore. I can not deal with her attention seeking, I can not deal with her excuses for her and her kids bad behavior. She refuses to take her medications. I just can not deal with it anymore and she refuses to change. Here recently I told her that she needs to change if she wants to be with me. She once again told me that she would change but in the past she told me the same thing and nothing. So do I give her one last chance and wait for her. Or do I once and for all tell her that it is over and I can not be with her anymore. So is there anyone else out there that has been in this same situation that can maybe give me some advice.
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4 responses
@sunnystarfish (210)
• Philippines
25 Jul 11
It's really up to you. If you're not happy anymore with the relationship then go. There's no sense in staying if you think you're not growing in the relationship. As for her, I think we should not change people for who they are. You met her that way, so If you really love her you should embrace the flaws in her. Let her change by herself. If she loves you and wants to be with you, she will realize that changing some of her bad attitude will make the relationship better.
@Amanda81587 (3042)
• United States
24 Jul 11
Change is a very challenging thing to do. If you would show her some support maybe it will be easier for her to change. As for her children, you are in their life as well. She needs help if they are bad and as for you being an adult as well you need to help her raise them.
They are only as bad as their parents allow them to be. They need discipline! I feel that if you love her then support her and help her get help. It is sad to take a loved one from children and children always make the situation harder! If she is seeking attention then chances are you are not giving her enough attention or the attention that she needs. Make her feel special if you do then she would not have to feel special from everyone else! 
They are only as bad as their parents allow them to be. They need discipline! I feel that if you love her then support her and help her get help. It is sad to take a loved one from children and children always make the situation harder! If she is seeking attention then chances are you are not giving her enough attention or the attention that she needs. Make her feel special if you do then she would not have to feel special from everyone else! @alwaysluv7 (1)
• United States
24 Jul 11
I would break it off, it sounds like you have given her way too many chances and nothing so she obviously just doesn't want too. You cant change people if they first don't want to change within themselves.
