How to make my long distance relationship work?
By vishalssgk
@vishalssgk (269)
Malaysia
July 25, 2011 4:08am CST
Hello everyone...
Firstly don't demoralize me by saying that "Long distance relationships don't work".
I have the most wonderful girl of the world as my girlfriend and i am totally crazy about her. She has such a beautiful heart that I can lose my identity to keep her happy. We both are together in this beautiful relation of ours since 3 and half years. To complete our studies we both are in different countries. I love her madly. And even she loves me. We trust each other and are very loyal to each other. I just wanted to know the things which I should do to make this relationship even better. Because she deserves all the love in this world. I want to see her ebulliently chirping, always. What all should I do so that our bond gets even stronger and firmer.
Girls please let me know what a girl seeks in guy, so that i can try to improve those "values". I can do anything for her. Please keep yourself at my place and then imagine what you would do if your spouse was 6000 miles away, across two oceans. Kindly advice me. I want to do better in our relationship.
Good day and thank you in advance.
12 responses
@cont3ss4 (70)
• Philippines
25 Jul 11
I think the best thing to do when you're in a long distance relationship is to be more understanding, patient, make time to listen more, and TRUST. I've been to a couple of long distance relationships and the worst part of it is being unable to keep the level of trust that you both have. At one point in your relationship you start to harvest doubts which leads to jealousy, fight and eventually both of you get tired of the relationship. :) Don't let doubt and jealousy get the better of both of you and ruins your relationship.
@vishalssgk (269)
• Malaysia
25 Jul 11
TRUE, TRUE and TRUE.
I completely agree with you pal.
I fear such thing may happen in future. That is why I have written this post.
I want to avoid any such outcome in my relationship.
She means world to me. I can't afford to lose her at any cost.
I am very loyal to her but how can I show her that? Any tips?
@cont3ss4 (70)
• Philippines
25 Jul 11
If you really want a relationship to work out you need to exert efforts, and lose your pride as well in the process. There will be times that arguments will arise out of pitiful reasons and if both of you don't give up, the problem will only worsen. I've learnt to say sorry despite not being the one at fault. Just because I wanted the relationship to workout. Too much love is not enough to sustain a relationship, that I am sure.
@viju0410 (2286)
• India
25 Jul 11
The distance is making it all work for you and it is a very nice that you are keeping it long and wants to grow more in this relationship. Make sure you get even the micro info about your love and keep a note of it like her likes and dislikes, favorite color and food or her favorite ice cream. Also do not forget to discuss about your family and cultures in case you both differ the same. At the same time find out each others weakness and encourage each to make it a positive sign of your relationship. Don't forget to fight and argue a while as that will give you a 'closer' feel. I have a male friend whom I met a decade ago on a Chat site and never thought that our friendship will continue to a long long time. He's a family friend and our spouses and children also are aware of our friendship but we still await for a meeting in person. I would suggest to be a close friend with emotional support to her before mad love story gets deeper. take care and best wishes.
@vishalssgk (269)
• Malaysia
25 Jul 11
Yup
I need your wishes very badly. I never forget to "fight". hahaha
We fight many times and then we talk whole night accepting our faults and then we both realize the importance and value of each other in our lives.
Thanks for a fabulous response.
@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
25 Jul 11
A long distance relationship can work if you keep the communication clear and frequent. These days technology is on your side with mobile phone text messages, mobile phone calls, land line phone calls, emails using a computer and social networking on a computer. Sometimes a small gift can be sent by post and that would enchant your girlfriend. It is possible to send photos by email. Some people that live apart can visit each other one or two times depending on the cost. In that case there is a lot to look forward to. Hopefully there will be a future time when you two can be together always. If so you could focus on talking about that. Good luck.
@vishalssgk (269)
• Malaysia
25 Jul 11
Thanks a lot for your valuable suggestions.
I fully utilize the technology and use all means of communication to be with her as much as i can. In fact she at times gets angry on me for spending unnecessary money on calls, but my day isn't complete without hearing her voice.
Hope future will unfold itself in our favour.
@rhane7315 (5649)
• Philippines
25 Jul 11
i've been in that kind of relationship before but it hasn't worked out. the reason is that the guy is too immature for a relationship. he loves goofing around, being a happy go lucky, and the worst of all cheats on me all the time. loyalty, honesty, trust and a good communication will make your relationship grow even stronger. you shouldn't lie to each other because this might be the start of a ruined relationship.
@vishalssgk (269)
• Malaysia
25 Jul 11
Well I am glad I am not like that guy of yours.
So I can assume that my girl will never leave me.
Thanks for your response.
@BannedHelsing (693)
• Philippines
25 Jul 11
I like to read the comments in this post. Long distance relationship didn't worked for me. I'm thinking, if I have done the suggestions here maybe my relationship worked even if it's long distance. Just, maybe...
@vishalssgk (269)
• Malaysia
25 Jul 11
Its sad to hear that your relationship didnt worked out.
But I have faith in us and we will make it happen anyhow.
Good day.
@nurseclare (2209)
• Philippines
25 Jul 11
We had the same situation my boyfriend and I been together for 4 years and a half already and he left abroad for 1 year now. And we're going strong now, he calls me every week. I think it depends upon the both of you if you'll work things out. Just stay faithful and try to see each other soon. You have to make sure that you have definite goal for the both of you. Stay strong!
@vishalssgk (269)
• Malaysia
25 Jul 11
Yup.......
She is my ultimate goal. So I am ready to put more efforts into our relation.
I feel Nice to learn that I am not the only human whose beloved is at distance.
hahahaha......
But it doesn't matters that much because her heart beats in me.
I can feel her all around me. I have her aroma in me.
@nurseclare (2209)
• Philippines
25 Jul 11
Wow! good for you then..
You have to call her everyday if you can, that's what my boyfriend does. He is so sweet and i love him so much..
And put GOD in the center of your relationship.
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
25 Jul 11
Yes i believe that long distance relationship really works with Trust to each other and being positive always. This relation is hard to achieve if are too immature and don;t know how to trust. Because this relationship binds with doubts and jealousy. This will ruin the relationship you may have. Anyway just continue sending her all the sweet notes that makes her happy and trust her more on you. Just be sincere and there is no problem at the end. Just be honest.
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
26 Jul 11
Good day to you Vishalssgk,
Generally, it is indeed hard to handle a long distance relationship. But, in every general rule, there is always an exception.
Since we are now in a millenium age, technologies now a days truly plays a vital role in building communication gaps. As these innovations and inventions truly helps two people who are far to each other communicates like they are living nearby to each other. With the help of internet facility, two people can communicate very well. Hence, you can almost do anything with the help of internet. Not only communicating but also seeing her/him. Whether she/he is too far away.
Thru the help of internet, built a constant communication to have a more better relationship. Also with the use of internet, you can also send your girlfriend a simple keep sake sweet things via internet, since, now a days, there are a lot of stores where you can buy things on-line.
With our technology today, you can do almost everything in a snap of your finger.
@azeljeorge (56)
• Philippines
25 Jul 11
...well for me as a girl, it is really important that not all the work comes from us, meaning we also aim that somehow a guy can show us affection more and be more vocal on how they express their love to us, yah...i know that most of the guys are really not into that but it doesn't mean that they don't care. What i'm really saying is, in times that a relationship is being tested by distance then i think boys should exert their effort more on communication. It is good that in these era communication is really not a problem because of our technology. So a time for chatting, phone calls, greetings to special occasion and even ordinary days to make special is really a big thing in order to have a good relationship.
@mathgadiano (166)
• Philippines
26 Jul 11
Surprise her, visit her every time you the chance, do anything to be with her just for a little while then do it again. I know for sure that your relationship will last, thanks for being faithful to your girlfriend.
@pbbbsra (1214)
• Philippines
25 Jul 11
Long distance relationship work if you keep the communication open. My husband and I started on a long distance relationship and are strong enough to keep it until we got married. You should always find time to talk. Communication is better now than before and it is an advantage for long distance relationships. You should also have a whole lot of trust for each other. You should keep the faith and hang on to the same hope that in the end, you will spend the rest of your life together without the need to be far again.
@vishalssgk (269)
• Malaysia
25 Jul 11
Thats quite a cheering response.
We talk daily for numerous times. As I am in different time zone I have the chance of waking her up daily with my good morning call. I make sure that she attends to all her meals on time because she is always so busy. I write to her almost daily and we mange to have a few video chats in a week time. We have a blind faith in each other. So that's not an issue. We understand each other very well and we back each other when needed. Still I want to do more and more for her.
I am so happy that you both got married. I wish you both a life full of love and happiness.
Thanks for your early response.
@flowerfest08 (1677)
•
25 Jul 11
I've been into long distance relationship too, and it actually depends on both of you on how you make it really work, just be faithful and keep the communication open,don't forget to tell her how much you love and trust her everyday. and now you can send her flowers or anything by ordering online and deliver it on her doorsteps, maybe you could do this on some special occasions, well i hope you two will end up together in the end... goodluck:)
