still in love with an ex?
By 7thspring
@7thspring (233)
Philippines
July 25, 2011 8:08am CST
here's the thing, i currently have 3 suitors:
1. a computer engineer-cute.
2. a criminology student--who's a martial artist (plays in the national team.hot.
3. a hrm student-consistent, looks like a local actor.
but then im still friends with my ex who is really good-looking and charming.we've known each other for 4 years, been in a relationship for more than 2 years and he still keeps in touch and i still go out with him despite the break-up. the thing i noticed is that, it's hard for me to just date anyone of my suitors (i mean i just go out with one of them whenever im bored or im not with my bffs) but whenever my ex texts me, im like yes all the time. im single for a year now, and i dont know, should i try to get back with him? he's single too.
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10 responses
@toniganzon (72516)
• Philippines
25 Jul 11
If i were in your situation, i wouldn't try to get back to him unless he makes the first move. This is just my opinion and i'm just sharing what i believe is right for me and they might not be right for you. I just want you to at least have a grasp of both worlds.
That's why they're called ex, because they're someone from the past and it's time for you to move on and find a better one. HOwever, there are always exceptions and that's if you're really meant to be. But still, i would still wait till he makes the first move because who knows, he might not want to get back.
Just a thought.
Hope you can decide soon.
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@svkishore1986 (18)
• India
25 Jul 11
Making life beautiful depends in one's own hands. Making love and leave for some one does not make any sense. Make the ex to understand her love. Is it such a love that even can't move him to getback to her? Be a great lover and be happier.
Be a live giver to you and your ex by making him understand how you are for him. If you go on choose people like you in a shopping mall, you can not be sold to anybody, rather make people come towards and admire your love. all the best. i hope you understand.
@7thspring (233)
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
thanks!.. yeah im kinda waiting for him to open and clear things up between us.. if he does i might just dump the other 3. sigh
@BannedHelsing (693)
• Philippines
25 Jul 11
You really can't move on if you are still dwelling in the past. Make that closure with your Ex. Ask him why is he doing this to you. Why is he not letting you move on. What is his real intention, if he want to be with you again or just being friendly. If he can't admit that he wants you back, then he's just playing you. Learn to say No to his invitations if that's the case, otherwise, it's your decision if you want to go back to him.
@7thspring (233)
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
hmmn yeah i think the best thing to do is to be downright straight about it and talk it over, thanks!
@7thspring (233)
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
i hope so too! :) im just gonna take my time.. hoping for the best pick. thanks
@jdex_143 (1093)
• Philippines
26 Jul 11
What was the reason of your break up, if you don't mind.
I think, you should make things clear up for the both of you. Why not try asking him his reasons why he still communicates and why he still wants to go out with you. Don't make the first move by talking to him and saying that you might be still in love with him. Have him make the statement that he still loves you and wanted to get back with you. And if he does, I think, that's the time that you could have a relationship with him again.
If he won't, I think he just want to get something from you. :) I hope you could make up your mind soon. :)
@7thspring (233)
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
the reason for us breaking up is his work.. he has to travel around the country a lot. but whenever he comes home he asks me about my lovelife, i say im single and we end up going out,. it's like were back to being in a relationship but truth is we already broke up. it's complicated. he shows some tell-tale signs that he wants us to get back together, give me things like a bracelet or a shirt he got when he went to a tourist spot... we keep in touch and he doesnt want to cut our lines of communication.
@zerd87 (301)
• Philippines
26 Jul 11
Well having a second chance is not bad. Try to have a relationship with you ex and do some rules in your relationships that it will help you not to have break ups once again. I think he's in love with you. Having a good time with him means you're happy with him. It is up to you to know if you need or want him.
@7thspring (233)
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
yeah im the happiest with him.. im kinda waiting for him to open and clear things up between the both of us, from there i'll be straightforward and frank about how i feel.. thanks!
@pepperpopper (376)
• Philippines
26 Jul 11
hang out together with him. watch movie or join a mountaineering club so it would be unique.
@7thspring (233)
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
yeah that can help a lot to rejuvenate our relationship.. it can provide a vent for us to talk seriously..
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
25 Jul 11
hi there 7thspring,
with regards to your main topic discussion, well, i can also say that until now, i am still inlove with my ex. if given the chance to go back to the old times, i would definitely choose those times that we are in each others arms. that, i would do everything, just to save the relationship that we have had during those years. but, what to do, the time has already end.
however, though our time has ended up, still, the love for my ex was still in place inside my heart. as he fills-up a small part inside eventhough i am already engaged. on the other hand, though my ex has still a small place inside my heart, i am not doing any infidelity to my partner, as i know, my ex is already a part of my past. and for me, he is one of the past people that i have known and would just remain special and cannot be revive again. as i need to face the one in present with my whole heart and soul.
@7thspring (233)
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
thanks! i can definitely make use of your insight later on in the future when i have another valued relationship with someone. it's true that your ex will always have a spot in your heart forever despite the relationships you will get into.
@koperty3 (1876)
•
25 Jul 11
I'm not in love with my ex however we still sometimes speak. I'm not able to go back to my ex because of two reasons. First: this relationship did not work and I don't believe that giving him second chance will change that. Second: I'm with happy relationship right now and I don't want to change it.
If you really think that giving him second chance will change anything so give it a go. However if you will wait a while I'm sure you will find someone more suitable for you.
@7thspring (233)
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
hi koperty3! there are always options but whenever i date someone, at the back of my mind im comparing him to my ex-- like how i could have had a better time with him instead of my date, or how my ex looks better, etc etc.. and i feel guilty because the person you're spending time with should not be compared to anyone from your past,.im too partial. somehow if i could not get back with him soon, im gonna have to find someone who can surpass all his qualities..
@svkishore1986 (18)
• India
25 Jul 11
Ofcourse, try to get back to him, simply making love and leaving or breaking doesn't make sense, even an ordinary person can do it. It is important for a person to express love and give love, but greater priority goes to the one who makes one's lover to understand how much that boy or girl is loving. Thats why a writer says making is love is easier than continue to be in love forever. i hope this opinion of mine would of little idea in your beautiful heart. all the best.
@7thspring (233)
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
im open to possibilities that we could get back together, but i will have to wait for him to make the first move.
