Could you forgive infidelity?

NO WAY! Once is enough! as in ENOUGH!

Hi nezavisima! I have experienced this once. With my second boyfriend, my first love. Well, I didn't really forgive what he did. I immediately broke up with him when I learned of it. But I forgave him eventually. Forgiving him and forgiving what he did are two different things, I think. Also, I think I will not be able to forget what he did. It's a really ugly feeling, the feeling of being betrayed. It's because your trust has been taken advantage of. I really hate being betrayed and I'm the one who has a hard time forgetting. Cheers.

I honestly would have a very difficult time forgiving infidelity, if I even could forgive. I have say that I doubt that I actually could forgive it. It's just one of those things that I would have to question.

I can only speak about me as I know couples who are trying to work through this and while some have been successful others are not. As for me, no I cannot forgive infidelity as I am a very loyal person. Therefore, I expect the same loyalty given to me as well. I don't cheat and expect my partner not to cheat either. Forgiving for me is one thing and forgetting is another, I don't think I can forget and therefore, makes the forgiving impossible for me.

Betrayal is not just the body but the soul. And I belong to the category of those who hardly or never forgive. And I often thought that point, if I can be as good as a person who forgives. Or if it must be love, betrayal and forgive you then move on. But I think it depends on each one, how can you go, how can you look to impose when it offers a second or third chance and again devoting, on the whole body and soul loved . And this power of sacrifice, if not too much to call it, believe it belongs especially to women.

above all forgiveness should be present, forgiveness will help you move on... though things will never be the same again.. once a trust is damage it will never return to its orignal state... i'm a believer thats why.. hehe

To me it's not a matter of forgivness, to me the trust is gone, you can't get it back so you have to learn to live with that or forget the relatonship.

Hi nezavisima, I don't think everyone being cheated or victim of adultery. Yes some become victim. In my case I would not forgive a betrayal. I shall give that person proper reply.

As for now I dont know it depends on the case... but for me if your partner or you tried to look for another one... and you both find out.. I think its better to settle on the second one.. because you will not look to others if you are contented in your situation now..

I think this is a tough situation to be in. Each individual has to make their own decision. Each person's decision will affect their own lives and so it has to be carefully thought about and considered. A couple may have children and the children have to be thought about in a decision like this, because it is often the children who will be hurt the most when parents separate or divorce. I think for me personally this would be a heartrending situation. I could see myself forgiving one time. I feel if it were to happen again that would personally be the last straw for me.

I have never forgiven, and will never forgive a betrayal. That's just me.

When your loved one betrays you in such a manner. The most people will decide to try to forgive him and not let the relationship go shatter. However this is the case when the batrayal happened once and it almost never happens once. I said try to forgive because you want to forgive and forget but in reality this is hard, very hard, almost impossible. Everytime you have a fight, your feelings about the betrayal come to the surface and you probably will keep trowing this in his face. Once this trust is gone, it almost never comes back. At least not the blind trust you always had. I would try to forgive and forget but I know from experience that I really cannot! I can not go on living with someone who kissed another or slept with another, while I was trusting him with my naked, fragile heart. When this would happen to me again, I would not even try anymore, I know this will just not work anymore for me. When this trust is gone, it will never, ever come back like it used to.

I don't think i'll be able to do that. It's close to impossible. Although, as a child of God, i'm taught to forgive. Maybe i'll be able to forgive, but i won't be able to forget. So if ever my future husband cheats on me, i may be able to forgive him when a long time passes, but i won't be able to forget it, so i won't be able to get back with him anymore. I wouldn't be able to look at his face anymore.

Never! I can forgive everything,but forgiven't cheat. This is very bad for me. I am a man,for me that's implausible.

Absolutely not!! Cheating breaks trust, hurts people, makes a person feel bad and not good enough and most importantly someone who cheats risks bringing back a deadly disease to their spouse and jeopardizing their health which is completely unforgiveable.....if someone ever jeopardized my health and well-being, they would be sorry they ever met me....no one has the right to do that to another person!

I'm not able to forgive infidelity. Me and my partner have the same opinion about it. As we are both grown ups we think that if one of us will be infidel so it means that our relationship stop working and we have to go separated ways. Personally I'm not able to forgive infidelity as If I had to the rest of my life I would think that my partner still got affair.

NO.. once the trust has gone..its gone.. I couldnt forgive that..if I can remain loyal- why cant he?.