If my hubbys computer has a pu$$y he'll never get out of it!!
By princess8881
@princess8881 (1630)
South Korea
July 25, 2011 1:49pm CST
Hes really getting on my nerves now.. whenver he has free time hes using it all to play his game.. ( well he told me his playing because he wanna earn extra money and I know he does make money from it) but after playing he will complain that hes tried his eyes are painfull.. blah blah..etc..etc...
I always told him to take it easy have a rest, and make a little bit time for me, I even make him coffee... whever he calls for coffee like 10 or more cups a day..
Everytime we get the chance to talk.. he always talks about his games and his computer.. but still I do listen because it is important for him!!!
I was so bored so tried to sleep when hes playing but then hes saying that Im sleeping too much and he dont like it... well how about me I told him so many times that I dont like him playing computer games.. and Im bored I dont know what else to do...
As faR as I know were financially and totally fine... He has a regular work and me too...
We even actually madeour $ex schedule because I told him he keep forgetting about it.. but thatsit.. after he wake up..eat.. go to his work.. and then when he gets home he will start playing and I dont even know what will make him stop...
after making love he'll be bck to his computer again and talk about his game again... I told him so many times that Im not against him playing computer but dont do it too much!!! uurrgghhh I dont know what else to do,,
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@gptvaibhav91 (366)
• India
25 Jul 11
As a gamer I also don't want to tell anything about your hubby's gaming. ;) However, I can only suggest you that try to make him understand that it'll become a serious addiction & will never be stopped. He's making money from gaming is very good. I also admire that I play games only for waste time & money, u know but a little entertainment from that too. You told that he wants 10+ cups of coffee per day & its very serious. He's getting addiction of game as well as coffee.
I only play games 1-2 hours/day & don't need a cup of coffee while playing. I need it only when I wake up or about to take a nap. If he play games for many hours, god don't do, but he may get many physical problems as well as psychological problems as well.
You should help your husband to regulate this addiction. God bless you.
@princess8881 (1630)
• South Korea
25 Jul 11
yeah thats what iM VERY WORRIED ABOUT,, hes been playing that game for 4 years now... I told him too.. not to drink too much coffee I can make him tea or honey but he just want coffee..
We got 3 desktop computer now in the house plus two laptop and hes still planning to buy another one.. yes he could controll those three computers all by himself!!! thats how addicted he is..
I dont know if Im being too nice.. I dont know sometimes I am thinking to do it the hard way.. and smash all the monitor.. (but I have to keep lots of effort before I could tried that one, its been like this for 4 years now... hmmm)
@gptvaibhav91 (366)
• India
25 Jul 11
Ghhhorsh..... Do something seriously to get him out of all these. Playing games is not a bad thing but to play same game for 4 years is very bad.:P ;) Does he play different versions of same game series? Check that. There are so many games that look like same but their gameplay & missions are totally different like world of warcraft etc. So check that out that he's playing a series of missions or single player games.
@anantcool5 (275)
• India
25 Jul 11
I guess its not those pc games. Its must be an online game cuz it pays. An online game can get very addictive specially ones with social games! I play one in facebook and it can get really addictive...i've been playing it for the past one year and you sometimes feel you can sit there all day long! So, imagine what a game that pays can do!
@topffer (42156)
• France
25 Jul 11
He is a game addict and it looks serious. There is no magic solution but a first step would be to help him to be aware of this addiction. Going out and not staying in front of a computer would be good too. Maybe your friends can help you. We are in summer : why not some holidays away from computers ?
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@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
26 Jul 11
Any kind of addiction is difficult, but being aware of the addiction is definitely a good first step. Going out is very good advice for several reasons. First, if he is not home, then it is easier to avoid the source of his addiction. Second, getting outside generally makes people feel better, especially if they have been cooped up inside in front of a computer ... it is about fresh air, sunshine and chemical reactions in the body (endorphins) that are triggered by exercise and sunlight. Third, the exercise of going out, even for a short walk on a regular basis, will help with his weight issues, which might also help boost his confidence and make him want to go out more.
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@princess8881 (1630)
• South Korea
26 Jul 11
Before we used to go mountain climbing or jogging together.. maybe I should really pursue him more:) he likes being with nature...
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@princess8881 (1630)
• South Korea
26 Jul 11
Ive been trying that for years now.. and he dont think hes addicted he thinks hes makin money out of it so he consider it as his part time jobs.. and yeah about going out this summer he doesnt want to because of his weight.. I even told him its because hes always sitting in front of his computer.. I also told him before to go see a doctor to help him!
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@anantcool5 (275)
• India
25 Jul 11
You've done your part pretty fine and there's nothing much you can do about it except i have a plan. You can start taking extra care of him and go with it that you're really interested in his games, cuz as it is he will talk only of it, and it can be like falling in love again for him. You need to show your love and he'll prefer a human then...
I'm not a woman. I'm not married. But have some experience with partners. You can try. The only difference a married relationship and a not married one is that, in a married case, people stop trying...that's what makes it tougher but you're good. You'll do it beautifully... :)
@TheGreatandMightyL (54)
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25 Jul 11
Hmmm relationships are meant to be about mutual recognition and respect,
Your advice might work, but I would say having a hobby or seeing your friends will be a better option, Its like chocolate factories, they say you can have all you can eat because they know that after the first few days you no longer want it because its constantly available and not a treat.
@princess8881 (1630)
• South Korea
25 Jul 11
Well actually before I tried to play with him.. because I wanna know how does it feels, I wanna help him and both enjoy what he likes to do.. but then its too hard for me.. and he started to gives lots of demands about the games too.. he even told me if I am using my feet instead of my hands when playing, and when Im sleeping he will even try to wake me up.. just to help him kill the bos... So now I let him play by his own.. but honestly I dont really enjoy playing it.. I just tried doing it fo him... hmmm well thanks for the advise I guess Im not giving the best that I could to understand him... hhmmm
@princess8881 (1630)
• South Korea
25 Jul 11
well I dont really have lots of friends..even one I think... maybe thats why I am craving for his attention,,, because after moving to his country and being married I cant make time to go out with my girls.. I used to before I got a couple of friends but they move away too to other country...and most of my co- workers are men.. hhhmmm :(
@Jamie911 (104)
• Philippines
26 Jul 11
well i think you can tire him out with making love if that's the only time he gets away in the computer, i think it's really tiring and even if i'm a game addict i sleep because i'm tired even coffee won't help... haha and of course you are satisfied too, well it's up to your skills haha
@princess8881 (1630)
• South Korea
26 Jul 11
I wonder why he gots lot of energy lol... very good suggestion.. lol but yeah its up to my skills..hmmm 
@princess8881 (1630)
• South Korea
28 Jul 11
Babies..hhmmm he doesnt like babies.. were planning maybe more five years,,, or never it depends on him.. I dont really wanna rush him..
@Shankerj (241)
• India
26 Jul 11
Hey! Is your hubby was like this earlier also or is it a new passion.
If it is a new passion, he will come out it in some time, I don't think he can keep playing games always.
Keep patience and take care of yourself and you hubby.
Do you have a baby? Usually babies can easliy keep there father busy and away from PC
@princess8881 (1630)
• South Korea
26 Jul 11
No we havent have yet were planning to have baby after more 5years.. 
and about the baby thing sometimes he always jokes around of playing with his child to be..lol its not a new passion hes been doing it for years and years now...hhmm
and about the baby thing sometimes he always jokes around of playing with his child to be..lol its not a new passion hes been doing it for years and years now...hhmm @TheGreatandMightyL (54)
•
25 Jul 11
Games tend to be addictive because they give the sense of achievement that we all crave.
If money is not really the issue maybe going to the cinema/bowling/restaurants etc a few times a week or the cheap alternative go to a park when the sun is out.
I used to spend way to much time on computer games but one day I realized that I wasn't actually achieving much in life and I canned them overnight, Might play a game 2/4 times a month but really I don't see the appeal anymore.
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@princess8881 (1630)
• South Korea
25 Jul 11
thats the problem he doesnt even wanna go out... evrytime I will ask him to eat out he will tell me just to call.. he feels better that way...
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@princess8881 (1630)
• South Korea
25 Jul 11
after we got married he started to gaining weights continously and because of that he lost his interest going out.. he doesnt even wanna go to sauna anymore or swimming during summer.. he told me hes working out but I could barely see the result.. I told him so many times that hes not fat... hhmmm guess I have to convince him more,,
@TheGreatandMightyL (54)
•
25 Jul 11
Sounds like he could be depressed and hiding from the world, try talking to him and finding out first hand how he feels.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
30 Jul 11
Well, that is one complaint a lot of couples have is one person spending too much time on a Computer either playing games, spending too much time on Facebook, here in myLot, or in Chat rooms, etc. and not spending enough time with their family, etc. There actually have been many divorces come out of this as well. I do admit that I spend a lot of my FREE time when home online doing things, and a lot of it sometimes in myLot but I also make time for my husband when he wants me too as well.
Your best interest is try and talk to him, and let him know you would like some US time just to talk, etc. without it always be around you are bugging his game time or make money time. Are you spending a lot of the time he is online on another Computer here on myLot or something as well? Or maybe this is a thought when you are Bored.
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
26 Jul 11
Hello Princess, I don't think that a person will stop when a person gets addicted into playing games. In my opinion, i believe he should grow up and do other productive and fun games that is good for the both of you rather than for himself playing games. maybe some one needs to put a viruS[em]devil[/em] on that PC of his. you know that my brother was once an addict to paying facebook games. finally, too much abuse has caused the destruction of it's motherboards. months and years before they got another PC, by that time that his interest of playing Computer online games was NO MORE. better find a way to "BREAK HIM" away from that computer game habit so he can easily or slowly loose interest in it. Have a nice day. 
Princess, I don't think that a person will stop when a person gets addicted into playing games. In my opinion, i believe he should grow up and do other productive and fun games that is good for the both of you rather than for himself playing games. maybe some one needs to put a viruS[em]devil[/em] on that PC of his. you know that my brother was once an addict to paying facebook games. finally, too much abuse has caused the destruction of it's motherboards. months and years before they got another PC, by that time that his interest of playing Computer online games was NO MORE. better find a way to "BREAK HIM" away from that computer game habit so he can easily or slowly loose interest in it. Have a nice day.
@princess8881 (1630)
• South Korea
26 Jul 11
Thanks for sharing.. and yes I will continue finding a way.. and I dont really wanna put virus on our computer for sure he'll buy another one..haha
@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
26 Jul 11
I have to agree that he sounds like he is addicted to the game, but it also sounds like he might be having other issues as well, such as low self-esteem (regarding his weight) and maybe even depression. I know that it might not make sense, but sometimes people immerse themselves in things to try to make themselves feel better or just to avoid whatever it is that is causing their depression, although it does not really help as it does not address the real issue.
I also do not understand how someone can make money from playing a game. Is it real money that you could use offline to buy food or go to a movie or something like that or is it just "gaming money" that you can only use to buy things within the game, such as upgrades for your character or weapons and such?
@princess8881 (1630)
• South Korea
26 Jul 11
yes purplealabaster that game money could change into real money :)
and mike197601 I know what makes you laugh in this story...
@omchesunche (1755)
• Indonesia
25 Jul 11
hmm... this is really tough problem..besides above solution to make you deeply involved on his world of game,maybe you can try offer him to change his computer to laptop. Hence, you can ask him playing game on his laptop but while lying on the bed with you.Not sure about what kind of his favorite game his addicted in.. However,you can ask him about any adult game and you can playing together with him on the bed..I am sure you will be more closer and closer to him..what do you think??
@princess8881 (1630)
• South Korea
26 Jul 11
I already told him that before.. but laptop wont do it.. it will be too slow.. and when he plays he takes it seriously laying down wont do it... he even change his mouse or keyboard any seconds he wants when he feels uncomfortable.. even though they are totally fine... now theres a lot of keyboard and mouse in the storage room... that he used before I already give some of it to some of our friends I even shift it too for my brother and sis... believe it or not there are more like 15-20pcs of keyboard and maybe mouse in our storage room..urrgghh he told me to throw it away but I think I can use them again when times come...
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
25 Jul 11
I read your discussion -- ok - one place u have stated that he makes money by playing game. I have not heard about any site wherein u can make money while playing games --unless it is a sort of gambling site. In that case he will earn and also lose. Keeping that as one point u tell him u shall not play more than 30 minutes per day. ok. nice idea.
@princess8881 (1630)
• South Korea
26 Jul 11
its not really gambling but yes hes spending money too to buy items he needs for his character..hmmm his paying for the games every month.. and yes he finds more than what he pays everything that goes in out through our account, I can monitor it through internet banking...
he even told me he will pay me every month if I will play with him 6hrs a day..he is that sick.. and he told me if I really wanna find money I will play his game and stop mylotting...
I hate to say it but his very good at it.. I tried playing it before but I couldnt find the same amount of money his finding...
@ckciasigurl (2081)
• Italy
26 Jul 11
hi princess your hubby is addicted to a game but that game he is earning some money so maybe he like to earn more money for you and for the future, i think you need to talk to him and try to understand him.
@princess8881 (1630)
• South Korea
26 Jul 11
Yes we actually did lot of talking about it.. I think were financially fine but he doesnt think so... well I actually admire him for wanting to save more money for our future coz till now we still dont have a baby were planning to have it after more 5years.. but Im just worried about his health,,hhmmm
@BannedHelsing (693)
• Philippines
26 Jul 11
It's my first time to hear someone setting schedule for s3x. It won't probably work for me because I would feel to be force to make my staff erect even if he's not in the mood.I'm a gamer too and I play a lot of online and LAN games. I think this has also been an issue to my partner before but not anymore. Unlike you, it's the gaming that we had set the schedule. I think that makes the difference. Good day to you!!
@princess8881 (1630)
• South Korea
26 Jul 11
ahaha I know its funny he the one who set it though... and yes me as another stupid person agree with it.. and good for you guys you made it to schedule the game..unlike my problem he dont know when and when not to do it...
@Navoptimus (172)
• India
26 Jul 11
Well if he annoys you, you too annoy him. I know this sounds ridiculous, but play games, show interest in his interests and do this extremely so that he gets tired of your playing games and finally decides to spend time with you.
I hope this works, but beware I haven't tried this. So think before you go for it.
Hope it helps.
@princess8881 (1630)
• South Korea
26 Jul 11
ahaha I already tried this one.. but he plays for too long for straight hours sometimes his not even sleeping..and I just cant compete with him for that..lol thanks for sharing 
