Can you marry someone who doesn't love you?
By kingparker
@kingparker (9673)
United States
July 25, 2011 3:25pm CST
Here is the question, it might sound crazy, but it might happen somewhere in this world. Okay, you fall in love with someone, and he/she might not love you, he/she instead love someone else, but treat you like a good friend. He/she knew that you have such feeling for him/her, but out of some situation, he/she can't be with the person he/she in love with. Instead, he/she would want you to marry him/her. Deep inside of your heart, he/she has no such love for you, would you still marry him/her?
For me, I would not commit such marriage. Because it is phony, and even though I love that person, her heart has no place for me. I would never want that. What about you?
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23 responses
@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
29 Jul 11
Personally this is Wrong and destined to never last. Why anyone would marry someone that they know is not going to Love them back is wrong. I would never consider it as it is destined to fail from the start. Even if they are in Love with someone else that they cannot have, it is not you and what ever makes you think it would work?
@rgreentea (96)
• Philippines
29 Jul 11
I cannot marry someone who doesn't love me. First, marriage is a commitment. Second, love should be shared by two people in love. Why would marry a person when in the end this marriage will fall apart. There are cases that even married people who love each others separate because of other factors like incompatibility, money matters, among others, what more if you marry someone who doesn't love you.
@koperty3 (1876)
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26 Jul 11
I wouldn't marry this person no matter how much I would love this person. Relationship works when both people have feelings for each other. It doesn't work when someone feels love and the other person only likes you. I would have broken heart but I wouldn't marry this person.
@Jamie911 (104)
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
well if i love her that much i will still marry her. i don't want her to marry someone who don't love her so i'll marry her cause i love her. she will learn to love me eventually. its not true that love can't be learned but it depends to the one teaching her how to love. i'll make her love me
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
26 Jul 11
I could never marry someone who does not love me. I could not commit myself to someone like that. It would not last no time.
@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
26 Jul 11
Me too. No meaning at all although she treat you as a good friend.
@xuyxuy (432)
• Philippines
26 Jul 11
I would not marry someone who doesn't love me. Marrying someone should be fun and it's a lifetime relationship. One should be true to himself or herself about his or her feelings. If this is not met then why marry? It will end up to a lot of fighting, heartaches and eventually divorce in the long run. It's not healthy.
@viele21 (33)
• Philippines
26 Jul 11
even if you love that person, you will not be completely happy if you will marry him /her because you know that s/he loves somebody else..
marriage doesn't assure you with love..even if you are already married, the fact that your husband/wife loves somebody else will hunt you and that will make you unhappy with that kind of relationship..
@bholebaba19 (307)
• India
26 Jul 11
it is very horrible that you love someone but she don't.i definatly don't do this mistake because marriage is alifetime relationship for me .it is the relation of give and take.
@flowerfest08 (1677)
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26 Jul 11
on my opinion i think not,its better if both parties love each other, coz if not the marriage will not work, and in the end it can only make each one miserable.
@totallyundecided (3190)
• Philippines
25 Jul 11
I could never stomach the fact that I'll marry someone that I don't love - though it has happened to most of us who marries someone for security sake - like the guy/girl is rich and etc.
I'd rather be alone for the rest of life than marry someone that I don't love. The thought itself is likely trying to make yourself a pitiful one.
I hope arrange marriages will be abolished soon because I don't want that to be the case of everyone having to marry a total stranger in your life. 
@myfb2009 (8296)
• Malaysia
26 Jul 11
Of course not. No use to married someone who is not really in love with you. One of my ex-colleagues ever married a guy who is in love with another girl. But that guy unable to married his that girl because of family objection. So, he married my ex-colleague instead. But the weird part is, he seldom sleep at home and seems no love for my ex-colleague at all. He still continue his relationship with that girl. When the time my ex-colleague found out his affair with that girl, it is too late because that girl is pregnant with his child. At last, my ex-colleague make the decision to divorce him for the better sake of both sides.
@randylovesdar (4932)
• United States
25 Jul 11
I could never marry someone that I did not love nor someone who did not love me back. I had an ex-fiance who wanted different things out of our relationship and I was not willing to compromise. He wanted me to stay at home and raise our kids and I wanted a career. He wanted 8 kids and I only wanted 3 kids. I know in some cultures marriages are arranged, but I could never handle that.
@waflay (2737)
• Nairobi, Kenya
25 Jul 11
I just can't imagine it. Spending all time of my life writing down my worries, thinking of maybies that don't have answers and monitoring the most complicated creation of God is a burden that I can't let my fragile heart bear to carry. I would better stay alone in peace than to be an 'anyway' in someones life.
..love is so silly, fragile and shapeless.. If you force it it breaks, if you grab it it slips away but if you tenderly hold it..it lights your true happiness..
@uzunova (75)
• Bulgaria
25 Jul 11
At first thought I would say:no,Ican`t marry someone who doesn`t love me .But hippotetically I will,may be.It depends on how deeply in love Iam.You know ,love make you do some crazy things.If I am desperately in love with someone I can marry him ,hoping he will start to love me when hi knows me better.It`s complicated question.
@dgmcclaf (1)
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26 Jul 11
That would be, just as hypothetical the question is, hypothetically CRAZY. I could never marry a friend just because I loved them; simply put, if they didn't love me, the point of the marriage/relationship completely fails. It would be phony. In this hypothetical situation, I'd stop having contact with the person I would love in order to stop loving them.
