what do you do when you found the right person at the wrong time?
By xcyper2084
@xcyper2084 (152)
Philippines
July 25, 2011 10:15pm CST
I have a friend who is in a relationship they been together for almost 2 years. They are typical couple who have some problems. My friend told me that she was not happy anymore because the guy doen't not make her special she felt that there is no sweetness and joy in there relationship.And then she met someone who gives her joy and treat her well. She found the happiness that she was not able to found to her boyfriend. She knows that what she do is wrong that she is cheating her boyfriend. But she was happy and he thinks that the person is the right man for him ?
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10 responses
@princess8881 (1630)
• South Korea
26 Jul 11
hmm Im happy she finally found her happiness but honestly I think its unfair to her original boyfriend..
I mean she could talk to her original bf break up with him.. and go to the other guy.. cheting is nO GOOD....!!!
i kNOW its easy for me to say because I am not in that situation but if she still have something even a little something to her origianal bf..she has to tell it...
Hopes everything gets better soon to your friend.. and shell be happy on the result
@bulldog13 (7)
• United States
26 Jul 11
I totally agree with this point of view. She can't really help she found someone that treats her better, but she needs to break it off with her boyfriend.
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
26 Jul 11
You know i believe on love and i don;t care what other may say to me.. Yes right that we need to be aware about what we are doing especially if we are in a wrong path but this is case to case basis. For your friends case she is free to be happy and that he is only her boyfriend. Why she need to be a martyr feeling not happy to[ him while she meet her [new love. For me I advice her to go thru his new found love and be happy. The most important is her happiness not a sacrifices at her too early stage of life. Not now maybe she is goin to that stages of life to have sacrifice in the name of love for her family so by now just be happy to him. I believe on love really. Coz i can;t move without his love.
@abatencila (970)
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
I guess it is better that she tells her boyfriend about it. Don't entertain first the one showing you more attention. Your boyfriend doesn't know how you really feel, be honest to him, I think you can still work it out. You are just blinded by your emotions that's why you are not having a fair judgement. All relationships has its own ups and downs. It is not right that every time you have this problem, you will settle or look for someone who can love you more...that's the reason there are many marriages that are broken, try to discuss it with your partner and who knows you can still work it out.Love is not all about happiness. Good luck and God bless!
@jdex_143 (1093)
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
Really? I think she should talk to her boyfriend and confess that she doesn't feel happy with their relationship anymore. Does she love him so much? If she does, she must really talk to him so that he can make actions towards it. We might not know that if she leaves him and go with this new person she thinks right for her, later on, she will just feel the same way. The spark would be gone.
So, if she don't want to leave her boyfriend, she must decide to talk to him. If she wants to be with that other guy, she must let her boyfriend know so that her boyfriend would not feel so fooled by her. :)
A person cannot serve two masters at the same time. She should weigh things up and think of what her future would be in either of them. :)
@Dymo75 (340)
• New Zealand
26 Jul 11
First, make sure this appearance of love is serious, and isn't like what happened with her last boyfriend. Then get talking, and sort something out. Cheating isn't right, but neither is being unhappy. I think. In any relationship problems, communication always helps.
@ellebj (784)
• Philippines
26 Jul 11
i don't know if it is love or what.. each one of us has our ways of finding happiness.. If she is happy with that person, then broke up with her boyfriend.. I am sorry, because if she continue to be with that person, i pity her boyfriend because what she does it cheating. First and foremost, if they had a problem with her boyfriend and if she loves him, talk to him and share her sentiments to him so that he will know. there is always what we call compatibility in a relationship. So if she is not happy with her boyfriend, if she falls out of love on him, then better to let him go. and in the case of the other, she should seek first if she loves the guy and he is really her perfect match.
@nurseclare (2209)
• Philippines
26 Jul 11
That's nerve rocking, she's in trouble. Having two lovers is hard to manage!hahaha
I think it will not work, for i have seen lot of couple who cheated on the other one and chooses the new one, it usually fails. I have that kind of problem before and IT didn't work. Lot of my friends had the same situation and it never worked.
The best thing she must do is to tell her boyfriend things aren't working anymore and she's falling out of love and maybe they could patch up things. But if it will get worst she needs to end the relationship with her present boyfriend before she starts a new one. :)
@thetis74 (1525)
•
26 Jul 11
It depends on how wrong the time is because a lot of things can be corrected. And depending on the two persons determination how willing they are to correct it, then I don't think it is ever impossible and such a problem at all if they truly want to be together. And besides, they are not married and I can't seem to find any wrong time here, only the wrong people not meant for each other.