Marriage
By balaji85in
@balaji85in (459)
India
July 26, 2011 9:29am CST
Hi all.. I would like to raise a discussion in the topic of Marriage.
Well !!!
Marriages are being fixed in the heaven and held at earth. If so, then why many marriages are being ended in divorce? Mostly love marriages are many in this sort. Divorce cases ratio is being increased day by day in India.. Many of my known people and also some of my friends are being affected in marriage life and waiting in the court now to claim divorce.. Reasons are Egos, dominations, etc like many reasons.. What is the reason behind this events which is being happened now a days.. My question is... Divorce cases are very very rarest cases before 20 years.. And also there will be a strong ground for claiming divorce which is really reasonable.. But now a days, for a very tiny & silly reasons are being placed to claim divorce.. What are the reasons for this remarkable changes in people's life style in now a days society
5 responses
@princess8881 (1630)
• South Korea
26 Jul 11
Believe it or not there could be a lot of reason..it doesnt mean when your already married you dont have to do lots of effort to please your partner..its still like your were just boyfriend girlfriend but legal...
Im not saying Im into divorce but if the case is due to physical tolerance then one should really do it!!
But again yes there might be people who wanna get divorce even though its not that big... and that maybe wrong if you didnt try to work on your marriage before giving up...
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@balaji85in (459)
• India
26 Jul 11
Thanks for your reply ! I agree that divorce is correct when the case is due to some physical tolerances.. I can understand your point of view.. Other than that any other silly reasons like misunderstanding, ego clashes are just like that problems and can cure it easily by speaking out the things frankly. But that also for few people only. Attitude is the most important one behind everything !
@princess8881 (1630)
• South Korea
27 Jul 11
I know good example of your saying are those celebreties jumping into marriage and breaking it so easily.. I dont like it like that..but somehow I feel sorry for them..
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@bholebaba19 (307)
• India
29 Jul 11
Yes friend you are right Marriages are being fixed in the heaven .but now a days people have lack of patience, and do not have mutual understanding, lack of conversation so divorce cases are increasing. But both husband and wife should take care of their relationship.
@balaji85in (459)
• India
29 Jul 11
Thanks for your reply. Now a days people have lack of patience, and do not have a mutual understanding.. So that patience becomes as a conversation and that conversation leads to hate speech and violence, then its eventually ended in divorce !
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
Marriage is fixed by heaven? What about fixed marriages or the so called arranged marriages done by the parents but no love between the two married couple? If incompatibility would arise, then how can such things be fixed. Just because you were married before the eyes of God with no existence of love at all doesn't mean you have to stick forever with that person when indifference arise.
The increasing divorce rate can be due to mental and physical abuse, psychological incapacity, incompatibility, infidelity, etc.
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@balaji85in (459)
• India
29 Jul 11
Thanks for your reply.. Of course it is not at all possible to live with a person without having a love. If there is no mutual consent, then there is no use of living ( stick ) forever... Also many marriages are being held by the compulsion of parents with no existence of love at all.. But i am not speaking about that kind of marriage.. Because many marriages are ended in divorce only in this kind of situation from the beginning itself and there is a reasonable reason behind this divorce..
Many Love marriages and Mutual consent arranged marriages were also failed now a days.. Like you rightly said, mental and physical abuse, psychological incapacity, incompatibility infidelity, etc are also the major reasons.. Thanks for sharing your view :)
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
26 Jul 11
yes. boys like balaji and girls like..., are very impatient. boys and girls get a lot of salary initially itself. they all feel that they only are ok and others are not. Tolerance level is very low. Love comes on seeing the other person without weighting other options. after marriage once he stays near and other aspects are seen it results in intolerance, divorce etc. This is the effect of globalisation.
culture is changing.
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@balaji85in (459)
• India
26 Jul 11
Hi Ravi sir. Thanks for accepted my friend request in myLot network and thank you for the response to my discussion too. Of-course you are correct sir. Really current generation people are impatient. You have the great point that boys & gals gets a lot of salary initially.. Moreover, Males and Fe-males are equal in all aspects in current society. So no one is ready to give up their ego at any cost. So tolerance is decreased periodically like you said.
Culture has been changed !
@menace730 (506)
• Philippines
26 Jul 11
Well Balaji85in...Your right, people are ending marriages for the smallest reason. I think that people always think the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. They don't realize what is right in front of them. My father taught me to cherish the women I am married to and to treat her like I myself would want to be treated. I love and cherish my wife with my whole being and I will do so until the day I die.
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@balaji85in (459)
• India
26 Jul 11
Thanks for your reply. Yes people never realize what is right in front of them. Also they don't want to be with a one single person if the spouse is not adjustable. Its really nice to hear that your father taught you to cherish the women and you are doing it perfectly as per your father taught you. Once again thanks for your nice reply
