How much do you argue with your spouse? Be honest!
By devideddi
@devideddi (1435)
United States
July 26, 2011 10:43am CST
What percentage of your time would you say you spend arguing with your other half?
I'm gonna say roughly 25%. We have been together a very long time so I believe most of the giant arguments are in the past. We got them out of the way right off the get go. lol
Now we are so used to each others ways we know what to expect and\ know what is important to each of us.
But.....we do still argue! We can have some loud fights sometimes. Mostly one of us are just tired or someone has misunderstood something and mostly they don't last long.
Maybe about money or the lack of...lol or we disagree on where it should go.
So what is your percentage? Tell the truth. :)
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@GemmaR (8517)
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26 Jul 11
I don't argue with him very much, because we both know how to solve our differences and we soon get on again. If we have disagreements, we'll talk them through rather than arguing because shouting at each other doesn't solve anything. I know how I used to feel when my parents behaved that way in front of my brother and I, and I would never want any of my children seeing my partner and I arguing like that because, even though it doesn't seem like a big deal to us, it is to the children so it wouldn't be fair at all.
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@devideddi (1435)
• United States
30 Jul 11
You are one of the lucky ones to have a relationship without arguments!
@pbbbsra (1214)
• Philippines
26 Jul 11
since you want an honest person then I'd say very rare and we don't argue on complicated things either. I can say that my husband and I complement each other and I am happy with that. If we ever argued... it could be I turned off the water dispenser or I changed the location of his phone charges. It cant be more than those simple things. And everything go back to normal five minutes after. We dont want sleeping mad at each other, if something is misunderstood, it will definitely be resolved within the day before we sleeo.
@devideddi (1435)
• United States
26 Jul 11
Wow! Thats great, not many people can say that.
I'm curious, how long have you been together?
@GardenGerty (160996)
• United States
26 Jul 11
It does no go too argue, he does not argue back. It is more like I sound off and gripe. I would say ten to fifteen percent. It is worse when I do not get enough sleep, or eat right. Money is an issue, always.
@devideddi (1435)
• United States
30 Jul 11
yep, I believe being tired and money are the top two reasons, at least for me anyway.
Thanks GardenGerty
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
26 Jul 11
of course, everyone i am sure that lives with someone else comes across differences of opinions but my mom always said they used to 'discuss' not argue. lol. my hubby and i have been married for 23 years and sure we have had ours once in awhile but we are usually pretty happy.
@devideddi (1435)
• United States
28 Jul 11
lol, thats what I say to my daughter, we're just discussing something!
Yea, we are mostly happy too.
@Cactus2010 (167)
• India
26 Jul 11
Rarely. Rather than arguments, I look towards solutions. In any case, time is too precious for me to be wasted in arguments.
@devideddi (1435)
• United States
26 Jul 11
Rarely? So that would be 1%? 2%?
Time is too precious but we are only human and its only natural that we argue sometimes.
Of course I would like to keep it to as little as possible and always looking for the solution.
How long have you been with your spouse?
@Cactus2010 (167)
• India
27 Jul 11
We have been married for over 25 years now. The time spent on arguments would be less than 1%. Actually in the long run, married life is much more than ego trips and pleasures.
@princess8881 (1630)
• South Korea
26 Jul 11
before we used to argue a lot.. because of the same old reason (him playing too much computer games) but I guess when I keep ignoring him there will be no fight at all,, when were arguing Im not even speaking anything.. but he keeps talking and talking and shouting sometimes.. after that when hes saying sorry thats the time I tell him what makes me angry lol... I cant tell how many percentage we argue its pretty random sometimes 10%-90% ahaha...
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@devideddi (1435)
• United States
26 Jul 11
thats a cool story, he starts to know you are mad, but he wants to play still then he sees you are really mad ...
Its good that u least get to finally tell him.
thanks!
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
27 Jul 11
I haven't argued with my guy. We have been together for over a year and we haven't argued!I know it is still new but We are in sync. If a guy started yelling , I wouldn't yell back. I would just turn around and start packing and leave. To me that is a sign the love he thought he had is gone so it is time for me to leave.And G-d help him if he thinks Flowers would make things ok, they will make it worse!
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
2 Aug 11
When I am in a fighting mood, I always argue with my husband! But later I regret that. I always realize that it is not good for a couple to argue. It is better to settle the matter in a peaceful way. Of course we can't always agree on everything but instead of disputing it is better to just give way all for the sake of harmony. As a wife, I know I should submit to my husband. He may not always be right all the time so I can always disagree but not to the point of fighting with him for after all he is a good husband and performing well his role as the head of the family.
@singuri (571)
• India
27 Jul 11
Its very common in arguing with the partner, as our thinking will be totally differs with the others.So when the unlike thing is happened obviously we will surely start arguing,some times the reason might be very small but the arguing makes it very big fights.Here comes the solution in compromising ourselves thinking that their mode of behavior and thinking is different to ours.We can simply over come it by telling them soothingly that we don't like the way they done .
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
For me 50% because if he in our home they always got me not correct in my all aspect as a wife but he tend to said sorry after all but if he work on abroad 10% because he only said in the phone and he missed me then no argument will be made more.
@busybee10 (3186)
• India
26 Jul 11
Well, life is just understanding...
But, because of misunderstanding the birth of argument takes and ald als produces children..
OK - it maybe because of money or love,it we (both) should understand the situations and behave.
Only then life runs smooth and happy.
For any argument there is no end...I hope you agree.
Better understanding is of utmost necessary.
I do not argue at all - and if anything negative arises...I just calm down and give a sweet smile to ward off the situation...
@devideddi (1435)
• United States
26 Jul 11
so what do you do if something negative happens and it makes you too mad or upset where you can't calm down right away? What if its something you feel passionate about? Or something is happening with s loved one and you knew it was wrong?
Never? You don't argue at all? ever?
@QeeGood (1213)
• Sweden
27 Jul 11
Currently I do not have a spouse, nor a intimate friendship with a man. But in my past two marriages and two longterm relationships during my past years the arguments in percentage was 15. We talked through many disagreement nice and peacefully. So the 15 % stands for when we were really upset agruing, before we could speak in a 'normal' respectful tone towards one another.
@devideddi (1435)
• United States
27 Jul 11
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@asyria51 (2861)
• United States
26 Jul 11
My husband and I have the same argument roughly every 6 months. it is the equitable division of labor argument. I feel that since I do 90% of the child stuff...getting her to and from the sitter, most bath times and most of the putting to bed, that my husband needs to be a little more lenient with the actual household work that I do and realize that most of my day is taken up with time with my child, and that if a load of laundry reallly needs to be done, he also knows how to run the machine.
That being said....i would say lately since we are in that arugment phase...it is about 25% of the time we are with eachother we are "discussing" it. The rest of the time, it is only about 5% of the time.
@toniganzon (72532)
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
I think 15%. My husband and i argue about differing opinions when we are watching the news. But it seldom happens that we differ in our opinion. The last time we had an argument was about apples and mircrosoft!
Sometimes our son serves as our referee and after the argument he would announce who the winner is!