marrages are made in heaven.....
By ritzz07
@ritzz07 (788)
India
July 26, 2011 3:00pm CST
hi friends
many people says that marrages are made in heaven, if this is true then there are people getting devorce........i think this is a biggest problem of twenty first century.....becoz of this people are getting many mental disoders as well, there are cases of esuizofrania and hallucination
what do you think please leave your comments..........
thank you.
have a great day!!!!
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7 responses
@mythociate (21432)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
29 Jul 11
I think one of the problems is that people continually shoot for 'fairy-tale happy, loving marriage.' Real life isn't like that
(I'm sure lotsa people will come on here saying that their marriage 'IS a perfect fairy-tale happy love.' I don't want to wake them up from that walking-dream, but a central skill that most happy marriages develop is that of 'not seeing anything wrong (coz they don't look for it)').
So to those in a 'perfect marriage' today; congratulations! but shut up ... now--having shut up--you may speak again when you tell us what to focus on (to keep our eyes/ears out of 'whatever is wrong').
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@ravisivan (14082)
• India
26 Jul 11
ritzz - there are differences among couples for so many centuries. But the divorce rate was not much because they practised tolerance and mostly women were not going for employment. Now that both boy and girl are employed more or less earning same salary and in a few cases girl earns more salary than boys -- this causes proudness in the minds of both the people and tolerance is very less. where tolerance is less even small differences may appear big. If only boys and girls learn to tolerate each other such problems will come down.



@ritzz07 (788)
• India
26 Jul 11
hi ravisivan
humm agree but i believe that love marrages are responcible for the devorces i mean my parrents are still bonded strongly and there are many arrange marrages which are long lasting in short i can say very few times arrange marrages are broken however love marrages.......the reason behind this which i found is when you are in love you do see only good qualities of your boyfriend/girlfriend in short you know about your boyfriend/girlfriend only what he/she shows you for one hour of dating time however you dont how is he in remain 23hours and when they get married after that they realised how the person is and they start to compare like "you were not like this before marrage ?" "you use to do this and you use to that but now you are not doing this " from here this starts.........
thank you
@ravisivan (14082)
• India
26 Jul 11
ritzz- superb this point if it is known to younger generation number of divorces may come down. arranged marriages are more or less successful because parents extend their support whereas in the case of love marriages parents do not extent support.



@singuri (571)
• India
27 Jul 11
Marriages are really made by god but the choice is given to the people itself so choosing a person into their life is purely self decision
.Divorce and all the breakup are mainly due to misunderstandings and lack of adjustments
.When a problem is raised between the pair first thing will be the arguments that leads to a fight that leads to all the rest. But if any one of them come-down at particular time and try to adjust problem will be solved
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@sswallace21 (1824)
• United States
27 Jul 11
I don't think people getting a divorce is the cause to mental disorders. I would guess that a persons mental disorder could cause a divorce. I also think that some people get married knowing their signicant others issues and think they can handle it. When all is said and done, they realize it's just too much. Best Wishes!
@chandru8957 (20)
• India
27 Jul 11
arrange marriage only the best for ever.80% of marriage going to finish divorce.
love marriage only best for working same office colique girls and boys.
@jugsjugs (12967)
•
26 Jul 11
I will say that i have been married now for over 15 years and i will say that we have had our fair share of ups and downs along the way.I think that every married couple do have a few disagreements as we are not all the same and we all have different ideas.I do think that there are a lot of young people that get married and they are the ones that i have noticed that have ended up getting divorced.I think that if you really love a person, then you will do all that you can to keep a marriage going and i think that marriage is a bit of give and take.
