Have you said "I love you" to your parents?
By jdex_143
@jdex_143 (1093)
Philippines
July 27, 2011 12:49am CST
I just thought of this when suddenly I felt guilty of not being a good daughter to my parents. :(
I can easily say I love you to my boyfriend but not to my mother, personally. I don't why I just don't have the heart to say such things to my mother. (Well, I can't say it to my father now in person because he already passed away.)
If my memory serves me well, I had said I love you to my mother only once and it's in a way of a letter when we had our recollection way back my high school days. I felt like I'm not a good daughter. :(
How about you? Have you said "I love you" to your parents? How often?
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
29 Jul 11
I don't remember saying it in words to my dad but I do remember my mom telling me he would come home from a bad day and I would run and hug him screaming Daddy . It made his day. I lost him when I was 12. With my mom, I remember saying it once or twice but like my dad , I showed it in deeds. My mom and I were good friends I think she knew I loved her. I lost her in 2005.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
29 Jul 11
Wow! think back, did you make him smile? Was he happy to see you ? If so , then he Knew you loved him and Know he loved you . He still does. He may not be here physically but he is Here. Every time good things happen out of the blue, I think I have my own personal Angel, my dad, helping me. I say that bald headed Angel is working, lol! But I think in heaven he regained his hair. But when he was last with me , he was bald. So please don't dwell on it. I think every time we speak about loved ones we have lost , they can feel it.It is our way of saying we Still love them.
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@APSC_girl (118)
• Philippines
5 Aug 11
well, maybe that's just the way your mother raise you. Maybe she really didn't raise you to be so vocal about your love for each other? It's not her fault, and not yours too. My mother says I love you to me while I was growing up and she always makes me say I love you to her since I was really little. And now that I grew up I am so used to it, I can tell her I love you no matter how many times I want and wherever I want. While I can't tell I love you to my father, I only say I love you to him through text. You are not a bad daughter. If you really cannot say I love you to her directly, send it through text or letter again. That way, it's less awkward for you.
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@jdex_143 (1093)
• Philippines
8 Aug 11
Hmmmmm.. I think, you're trying to say that being vocal to express how a daughter loves her parents so much depends on how their parents brought her up. Yeah, I must agree with you on this notion. And it's not anybody's fault, I know.
Now, I'm thinking that if ever I will have my child, I'll make him/her say how much he/she loves me so that he/she will not feel awkward in saying those things like I do. Thank you for your thoughts. :)
@APSC_girl (118)
• Philippines
11 Aug 11
exactly that's my point. Like I said, I can't say I love you to my father no matter how I want because I'm too embarrassed and it's very awkward for me because I grew up that way. I didn't grew up saying I love you to him always like the way I do to my mother.
That's good. Me too, I am going to do that to my future children so they won't feel awkward saying I love you to me even when they grow up. Thanks you understood my point. :))
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@annavi23 (6522)
• Philippines
28 Jul 11
it's too sad that we find it hard to say iloveyou to our parents. well, it can be shyness or awkwardness we felt. or corny thing. no matter how it is, we can always show our love with actions. do something for them and hug them. but i say, it would also be nice to say those words when you feel it deep within you. for all we know, they are just waiting for us to say those words.![](/Content/images/emotes/wub.gif)
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@annavi23 (6522)
• Philippines
29 Jul 11
yes, i believe action speaks louder than words. and words can be differed from actions as well. don't say iloveyou when you don't know how to act it out and make it more visible for them. it's better to not say it and just show it by actions rather than saying it and not letting them feel it. ![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
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@miessy24 (235)
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
It is sad to know that you cannot utter the words "i love you" to your parents. Had you learned it before when you are still a kid, it would have been easy for you to say those sweet words that your parents would want to hear from you.
It is not yet too late to say how you really love your parents. Even on the tomb of your father, you can freely say anything to your dad how much you love and miss him. Pray hard and these sweet ways will be easy for you.
Me, as a child, we regularly say those words to our parents. And surprisingly, we rarely said it when we are getting older, maybe we felt awkward then to do so...but then we still say those words.
I hope you can tell your parents these magic words to them. God bless
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@jdex_143 (1093)
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
Yeah, right.. In fact, I get to envy those families that can freely say this words to their parents.
I think, the reason behind this is that I was not used to it. My parents haven't said these words to me as well. But evidently, even if they don't utter these words to me, I can feel their love for me.
I made a promise to myself that when I will have a kid, I'll make sure he/she will be used to saying those words to me and to his father.
I know, it's not too late, though.. I'll try my best. I think, I can first try it by just texting my mother. I don't have the courage yet to tell her in person. :(
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@thetis74 (1525)
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27 Jul 11
I grew up not being used to saying I love you to my parents. Perhaps it is because they have not taught us that as we were growing up. But there are a lot of ways to express it. I can't say I love you to my mother because I would be very shy, but I show it by buying her supplements or help her with the house chores whenever I can visit her or do errands for her or some other little ways that can show I care. But don't worry because I don't think parents can say that we don't love them because they are the most understanding persons in our lives.
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@jdex_143 (1093)
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
Hmmmm.. That's what I do instead. :) Sometimes, I help my mother in the household chores and offer my help every time I feel like it. Hehehehe.. I'm too shy to express how much I love and appreciate what she has done for our family in words.. Sometimes, I guess, actions would mean the same thing. I just hope she could translate it the way I want it to be understood by her. :)
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@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
28 Jul 11
This is a good discussion.
I think this is one way of reminding the children to not forget this important thing. Well it is very easy for a kid to say I love you Mom or I love you Dad but how come when they have grown old they seem to forget saying this four beautiful words already. Could it be because they have grown quite busy with their own world or could be because they believe this is a childish thing?
Well as for me, I admit I could not remember the time I said those beautiful words to my parents when they were still alive. Maybe I did when I was a kid but when I grew older I never did because I find it quite corny. Nevertheless, I show them my love by hugging and kissing but never to say "I love you!" I am not very expressive in words but I express my love in actions. Now that they are gone, I realized I deprived them of the chance to hear those beautiful words from me. How I wish I good bring back the time.
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@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
1 Aug 11
Hi jdex: I think that's really sad, specially because we only have a mother or a father. There's no reason to doubt about it. The moment is now, when you have your mother here with you and you can express all your feelings to her. I think I am a very affectioned person that always try to show his feelings, specially to the ones I care. My mother has a great heart so it's easy for me to approach and say to her i love you, in the case of my father, is more difficult but I still take care of him.
ALVARO
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@kaylachan (65344)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
28 Jul 11
I was never shy about telling my parents I loved them even when I was angry with them. Both my parents have passed away, so I can't say it anymore to them in-person. Though I'll occassionally say it out loud to empty space because I was raised to believe that when people and pets pass away they're watching over us. And, eventually I'll see them again which doesn't seem comforting at times, but it does in the long-run. So I do this to keep my Sanity. If I don't... then I'd probably loose what little I have left.
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@gengeni (3308)
• Indonesia
30 Jul 11
Hi,
Saying "I love you" to my parents, this is a must for us as a child who was always dutiful to his parents. For some people, words like that are not easy to say to their parents, I'm sure of it. I think the feeling of love should not be expressed in words. All good children will always love their parents even without words.
Nice day
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@xuyxuy (432)
• Philippines
31 Jul 11
I always make it a point to say "I love you" to both my mother and father whenever I call them especially now that I live far away from them. Even when I was still a kid I always say "I love you" to them. It's just a way of saying how you appreciate their full effort to give you the best of life and how important they are to your life. It's never too late to say it, your mother would love to hear it from you soon.
@igatiful_badass (1222)
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
Telling my parents how much i love them is one of my regrets ever in my life.
Never was i remember that i ever express it to them either words or actions.
And i can never tell anymore them how much i love them coz both of them were passed away.
Leason learn is i teach my son to express it not just in actions but also in words. It's so nice to hear my son telling me "Ma, I love you"
So to those new parents out there teach it to your children, i'm telling you it is really good to hear it from them personally.
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@jdex_143 (1093)
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
That's what I am afraid. Having not utter these words for my mother. :(
That's what I'm gonna do. I'll train my future child to express how much they love their parents and make them realize how nice to hear it from them. :)
You have a wonderful advice to the parents out there! Thank you for sharing. :)
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@nurseclare (2209)
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
I always say "i love you" to my mother, every time she calls me.
She's my treasure and I don't feel awkward while saying it for I LOVE HER with all my heart. And with my late father, i'll express my love for him while I'm praying.
I hope soon you'll have the courage to tell your mom how much you adore her. I think you're a GOOD CHILD. You're so bright and finished a degree. Since I've known you I always look up to you. I appreciate for being a top 1 in our batch. hahaha. I stil remember the things we expect, we end up losing our dreams. lol
Well, atleast i found you and I am so grateful.
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@diala84 (138)
• United States
27 Jul 11
I say it each time I talk to my mom or dad and say our goodbyes at least most of the time. I say it a little more frequently with my mom because I feel more comfortable with her and it is normal to talk with her in an emotional way. My dad on the other hand I have had some issues with in the past. I try to put it behind me but it is hard and I feel really ashamed of myself each time I talk with him about my life in general. I force myself to say it with him because even though we have our differences he is my dad and I care about him. I just wish he could stop using criticism and sarcasm so much of the time because it really makes me feel inadequate.
I'm sure you have reasons for not saying it much but you may regret not saying it when your mom passes away. Don't think about the past and what you should have done just think about showing your mom you care and working up to telling her you care.
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@jdex_143 (1093)
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
I would really admire those who can say "i love you" to their parents. I'm happy to know that you still say i love you to your dad even though you have had issues with him in the past. :)
I just don't have the courage to say it to her. You're right. For sure, I'll regret this behavior of mine later on. :(
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@kaysue4 (951)
• United States
28 Jul 11
I only have my mom left, my dad passed when I was 7. My mom is now in a nursing home and was in the hospital a couple of days ago and so when ever I see her, I tell her that I love her.
She adopted me when I was 3 years old. She was my grandmother then, but will always be my mother. She has been there with me through 2 divorces, my best friend kicking me out of my house when I had 2 kids and 8 months pregnant and had me move in with her. I would have been living in my car otherwise.
She was there with the birth of all four of my boys.
So, I always tell her how much I love her. I don't get to see her as much as I want to because of the price of gas and the distance.
What a good question though.
@csrthacker (48)
• United States
28 Jul 11
I tell my parents I love them nearly every day. We have always been a family that is very free with our affection. At every parting, we hug and say "I love you." I know there are many families who aren't as vocal about their feelings, but I don't think they are any less close for that. Different people show affection in different ways.
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@ptower76 (1616)
• United States
28 Jul 11
Both my parents are gone now and i seriously wish I would have told them I love you more when they were alive. It is not as hard as many of us would think. Take advantage while your mom is still around. Say it everyday if you can. You'll feel better in the long run.
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@naija4real (1291)
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27 Jul 11
I think it is good to appreciate one's parent because they cared for us right from the time we were a kid and now that we are grown up we should be able to attend to their needs and concern. During fathers days and mothers day we should remember them and also remember them always because they are really lovely.
@kyoshiro2256 (4)
• Hong Kong
28 Jul 11
ofcourse,I ussualy say that to may parent.Not only thur phone but also every morning I wake up :D
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