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Hello again my friend.. I am very sorry to hear of the suffering of you and your wife.. Perhaps I haven't explained properly, but the type of therapy I was practising was psychotherapy, where people would come to me on a one-to-one basis or sometimes in a group to deal with issues that concerned them in their life of a psychological nature. Most of the problems I helped with were like phobias and stress-related problems. Through the groups or consultations my clients would first of all learn how to focus into the roots or the problems and by subjecting them to awareness would then begin to resolve them. Some were more difficult to resolve than others as the karmic links seemed to go very deep into their conditioning. I have always been a Zen practitioner, but Zen is not therapy, or a religionn as such, but a path or way that is more like a learning process -learning how to deal with our karma, some of which goes very deep. I added the Zen principle of acceptance and focus to my therapy work and found it very effective. In my Zen, I follow what the Buddha said. He said that life is suffering and that the origin of suffering is desire, but that suffering can stop when we become detached - or have no desire. In zazen (meditation of just sitting, following the breath and accepting and witnessing our experience), I have felt pain and suffering at times of sickness etc. But focusing and witnessing in zazen these experiences, I have transcend my discomfort many times. I have found that as I get older, my body is wearing and there is more pain these days. It is natural for me to want comfort from pain, and I learn to accept and witness it, therefore, I get an inner knowledge (that is the best way I can explain) that this is where I am in my development right now, and it itself this comforts me. When it comes to healing others, I do not have any special powers or anything similar. All I do when asked is to bring a suffering person to mind in meditation and focus on a resolution for them. Sometimes I have heard remarkable coincidental stories of how they have improved, but at other times, nothing happens. I do not try to understand, as basically I don't believe our finite mind can understand what happens. I think we each have an answer in our minds, and if we practice looking within ourselves and just witnessing what our mind and body is communicating, the experiential answers that come to us, can be of great support. Zen deals with the moment of now. All past and future cannot exist now, so it regarded as an illusion. Zazen helps me to keep my mind focused on the moment. Whether there is comfort of pain, I focus on it and realize that whatever I an experiencing cannot last as everything on earth is relative and has a beginning and an end cycle. And there are cycles withing cycles and nothing exists in our world without this cycle, whether it be a cycle of a billion years or a few days, hours, minutes or seconds. Regarding my physical health, I study how I feel with regard to what I am eating in my diet. I quit all sugar produce many years ago, as I discovered my system wasn't metabolising it very well and I was always in pain. That worked to a degree. However, I also have athritis at the site of injuries I've had during my life, so I am learning to accept that now. I realize that old age and infirmity is not a pleasant thought, but to me, it may be inevitable, I don't know, but my Zen helps me to focus on the here and now. I hope you are feeling better soon my friend, and what I have written here is of some assistance to you and your wife. _Derek

Dear Derek I have great regard for you and i always honor your opinion, honestly speaking i am unable to understand many aspects of zen and distant therapy. You know, i and my better half have so many health issues, at times i am afraid, we may become totally invalid Can your therapy help us? Please advise. Thanks for this nice response in details. Best of luck to you Professor ‘Dr.B.Saraf. PhD.’

Friend Each of us have to pass through different stages and phases of life, have to face karma, no way out.. thanks for sharing your views god bless you

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