People think they have a talent they actually do not have?

Wow, this is such a tough question that you are asking! I think that most of us know someone like this. I have a friend who is convinced that she is a really good hockey player, and she has joined our social hockey league. She really is quite a useless player though, but she is completely oblivious to this! And when we are playing matches that are very important, like to get to the finals of the league, she will insist on playing even though we have better players that could make it a whole lot easier for us. I still think that I don't want to hurt my friend's feelings though - I would rather not tell her what we think because I know how much it will hurt her. And at the end of the day, if we lose a match or two its not the end of the world - definitely not worth losing a friendship over in any case!

I dated an American girl for a while, years ago, who had been a cheerleader and taken dance classes. She was convinced she was a great dancer. Perhaps in a flock of drunken, panicked flamingoes she would have been but as a human, she was awful. Since dancing is such a personal thing, I try never to judge - especially when people are having fun. Who am I to say if it's good or bad (especially since I'm no Michael Jackson either)? In her case, since she boasted about it and made such a point of telling people she'd studied dance, I probably should have said something. But I never had the heart to tell her she looked stupid. She was a horrible cow anyway, so I don't regret it.

Talk with them and see who in the profession they are so interested in that they respect and admire. THen have them see or send a tape or example of whatever they do and see what the person says. If it is favorable then maybe they have a talent and if it isn't you have something to work on to get them to try something else.

I don't even say anything to people like that! I have tried in the past but is doesn't do any good. Some people think they got talent,when they don't and they don't listen to the truth! So I don't even bother! Some people are so full of themselves! It even happens on American Idiol! It is crazy!

If the person was talking to me, I'd let the person demonstrate his talent first. If he really sucks then I'd tell him flat out about it. For these people, you wouldn't wanna keep their hopes up since they might become nuisances to other people besides you. It's better to let them know that they don't have it or that they need improvement than to lie to them.

I have been in the said situation I have friends which I usually don't have the heart to tell to stop whatever they are doing, move on and concentrate what they have naturally. Some of my friends are trying hard talents and they insists that their particualr talent is a somewhat akin or on the same level as a professional and a true disciple of the art. Though I admire their dedication (albeit in the wrong direction), I sometimes just shut and let them do what they want. It's their life and their talent anyway. Then, they always comeback to me, asking if why they have been rejected or why some people don't appreciated. That's when I had out all the tough love. I don't even know if I have a talent. I just know that I have a knack for a thing and people come to me because of that said knack. But it's appreciated by people and I learn how to live with it.

Yes, I know a few people like that. But generally they are not close enouugh friends for me to feel comfortable telling them the truth about their supposed skills. I know it would probably be better to say something, but so far, I haven't. I don't really think any of them have really embarrassed themselves yet though...

Well, I have such friends. They sometimes speak highly of themselves in certain aspect. For example, a female friend says she is good at singing songs with quick rethym. But actually she is not good at singing. She says so, in my opinion, because she knows she is not good in singing, so she does not expect much in singing. But she sings that kind of song much better than other songs. Then she thinks she has the talent she does not possess.

If you think that a person is not having a talent, or having some talent which needs improvement, then you should tell them what you feel. This will help him ultimately, though initially they may feel good about it, but it is ultimately going to help them.

I have a classmate that like that, she thinks that she's good in dancing, she even boast that she already won in some competition or something like that, but we doubt it because every time she dance we we're like "huh?" as in shes not good and we even think that it doesn't look good when she dance, but we can't tell her directly because we don't want her to get offended because she is not the type of person that accept criticism in a good way.