Lately, I want to spend time at home alone, is that unhealthy?
By kingparker
@kingparker (9673)
United States
July 28, 2011 10:01pm CST
I got a several missed calls from my good friends, and a couple of voice messages wants me to call back. When I want to call back and pick up my cell phone, I change my mind again. I was thinking, what I should talk to them about? I might pick another good time to call them back. So, after day and days of delay, I still want to be alone at home. I don't know why, but I just want to be alone and quiet. Do my own things, blogging on internet, watching DVDs at home, or even play video games. But want to socialize, or bragging about anything. Is that healthy mentally? I simply made my communication entirely through facebook or IM. I found it much easier. Also, it is not that I intentionally not answer those calls, I was busy on doing my own stuff, and I was lazy to call them back.
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21 responses
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
29 Jul 11
Sounds like me. Got two missed overseas call last night from a very good friend of mine. I just didn't feel like talking because first, i was too tired, second i don't have much to say to him.
I don't think it's unhealthy though. There comes a phase in our life that we just want to alone and isolate ourselves from others. It's just a phase or a stage which means eventually we'll spring back to our old selves. Sometimes it's good just to be alone and contemplate on life. I've been isolated from my friends for a year now. I do admit going out with them once in awhile but then i'm contented just being at home with my family too.
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@TrvlArrngr (4045)
• United States
3 Aug 11
Spending time alone is not a bad thing unless you are doing it due to depression. Everyone needs some me time.
@thaMARKER (2503)
• Philippines
30 Jul 11
believe me it's not hehehe.. i always do this most of the time. ever since i'm still in school, i keep myself from other people once my schedule is done with them. i always want to be alone. i wanna be on my bed once my last class is over. until now that am working, within 30mins after i'm logged out i make sure im already on my bed. i dont entertain text msgs if its not important.
for me, that way you will be able to keep the excitement of everything in your life. i get bored when i'm with the same person everyday as well as going out to look for fun. well being alone is fun for me.
@evemurphy (56)
• Canada
30 Jul 11
I don't think you are unusual in fact you are just like everyone else should not feel guilty for quiet time that you want to spend by yourself. I remember seeing a Star Trek episode where there was a plan that we are there where so many people they were actually shoulder to shoulder to me that was a nightmare beyond imagining as I am certain it would be for most people. Can you imagine a world so overpopulated that everyone had one square foot themselves and nothing more?
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
1 Aug 11
Hmmm friend you are not alone in your house we all mylotter was there so you dont want to go from the home. Some time I also feel this because I not like to go with friends or other family members then I say them no I am not coming I have some work and I spend my full time on net.
@butterscotsh (1012)
• Philippines
30 Jul 11
That is not unhealthy, that s just normal for every human being.
Every once in a while, we experience that. I experience that too.
There are times when I feel like I don't like talking to anyone and I want to be alone.
But if you stay like that for a long time, be wary. It might be a sign of depression.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
29 Jul 11
That is completely normal. People do that kind of stuff all the time so don't worry about it. You'll eventually feel like calling them back and spending time with them, for now enjoy you're alone time.
@angel107 (307)
• Germany
29 Jul 11
It is perfectly normal. I am really talkative and want to be around people most of the time but sometimes I need a time for myself. Sometimes I read a book in my room or go to a place I have never been to just by myself. I think everybody needs a time for him- or herself.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
29 Jul 11
So that's it, you were just lazy doing those things or maybe you are becoming already a homebody. Though, i can say that we do get into this moods sometimes.
Basing from my experience, when i was younge,r i used to be an extrovert. I socialize a lot and have lots of activities at home. But when i get married, they become scarce until i get older and now, i prefer to be just at home on weekends with my family.
Maybe you have come to the stage where you have experienced all kinds of enjoyments and suddenly you were tired of it. That's what i felt.
@igatiful_badass (1222)
• Philippines
29 Jul 11
In my own personal opinion that is just fine. Me most of the time i want to spend alone. Living in a very noisy city we really need to look for a place where it is very quiet. Sometimes home is the best place coz not much expensive than to do vacation.
Take care and God Bless!
@bouncybug (614)
• South Africa
29 Jul 11
Don't worry - this is completely normal! I feel this way all the time - it is sometimes really nice to be able to shut oneself off from the rest of the world and just take some time out to be CHILLED, and do what you want to do - some very precious me time! You certainly don't have to be sociable all the time! I believe we should have the right to do whatever it is we feel like doing, whether that involves some time by oneself or going to see all your friends, that is your personal choice.
@destructobgX (133)
•
29 Jul 11
Yup it is not unhealthy at all and if you want you can go out for like 3-4 hours then stay at home again :)
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
29 Jul 11
I don't see anything wrong with that at all. I feel like that alot of times too. We all have to have time for ourselves sometimes. It is not unhealthy at all.
@dodo19 (47317)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
29 Jul 11
There are times when I feel like doing the exact same. Sometimes, I just feel like being left home alone, not answer my phone, or anything like that. I don't really think that it's unhealthy. So long as you don't spend weeks and weeks doing this everyday. If you do this everyday for weeks and weeks, then I would say that it is unhealthy. But if it's only a day or two, every now and again, then I think that it's fine. We're all entitled to do this once in a while.
@myfb2009 (8296)
• Malaysia
29 Jul 11
I think there is absolutely nothing wrong being alone at home. I feel like that quite a few times too. Even when i was young and single, i am also most of the time prefer to stay alone. In fact, it gives me time to get to know what i wants in life and continue doing what i want later on. It is just not unhealthy at all, for your knowledge. Indeed we all have to have some time for ourselves in our life, to give us chance to relax and understanding ourselves much better.
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
29 Jul 11
A pleasant day to you,
Spending alone at home does not constitute to unhealthy life. Does there were really times that our mood swings and our mind sometimes needs some time to be alone. But, this does not mean, you are going unhealthy.
As you have mentioned, you just want to be quiet and alone. That attitude is normal. As this times do really comes especially if you are very busy everyday. As there were really times that you just want to be alone and dont want to hear any noise coming from your everyday routine.
@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
29 Jul 11
I get that way. Look, everyone needs alone time and time to do what they want to do, even if it means doing nothing. I don't see a problem with it as long as it does not become an every day thing. I like my down time or alone time. That is the time I use coming here or just surfing the internet. It is unhealthy if it became your way of life.
@Jelminrie (358)
• Philippines
29 Jul 11
NO that's normal for a person to spend his time alone, that way you can think of more deeper things, that you can't do when many people are around, me I can work lively when i am alone
