Giving advise doesn't develop a person...

Hi. I think it depends on the advise, lol. If it's a good advise and the person listened to it then the personality develops.

Giving advice will definately not develop a person. The person themselves will have to take the initiative and do things on their own and make themselves stronger. You just cannot spoon feed a person and think that they will just become good and improve, they also have to do some things on their own. When we give advice to a person we expect the person to learn from that and also do things as they have been advised. The person can then judge for themselves what is good and what is not good for them. Yes at the same time they should not always be dependant on others but try to solve problems on their own and if they get stuck they should seek for advice..

Usually when people asks for advice,it's only for comparison. Seldom are those people who asks advice because they don't have anything planned or haven't made any partial decision in mind. They only want to confirm if theirs is a good or they need something to add on. Or,maybe they just want to hear other opinion and views to justify their decision. have a great weekend ahead jaiho®

You are right to an extent.We can follow your advise with our children and our friends and relatives.We can teach them ways to be self reliant.But in our work we interact with outsiders and colleagues.At these moments we can't tell them please be self reliant and learn to do things yourself.We have to guide them.In our dealing with outsiders we shall not encounter the same person again,instead it will be another with a modified version of the original question.In such a case we have to tailor our advise to suit the problem and person.

Me personally don't give advise to anyone who ask help. Coz the final decision would still be his/her. Me more on showing you bigger pics both negative and positive side. But in some how giving our feedback to his/her problem is somehow helping them to decide.

People's advices are not helpful unless the one being advised know how to deal with the problem already. I think an advice is only meant to strengthen one's thought about a certain issue.

Based on personal experience, when someone asks me for advice, it means that the person already has an idea of what he or she wants but just wants someone to erase the doubts in his or her mind. It's not that we're making them dependent on others because at the end of the day, it's that person who asked for advice who will make a decision. Like I always tell my friends, I'm just presenting the pros and cons, it's up to you what decision you will make. In the end, it's still them who will decide for themselves.

hello there! Yes, I agree with you xcyper! When we give advise we are only giving or sharing our own opinion. In that way, we are providing them ways or giving them choices. Now it's up to them if they take our advise or not. Some people tend to go on their way no matter what you do or say. In the end, it's their decision that will matter and we should respect that. Thanks!

You are correct. When we give advise, we only share our experience of how we solved the same problem. But we don't impose to them actually that it is what should be done. It is still for the person to discern from among the advises that he gets , what's the most viable solution. They weren't give to develop him but to help him discern.

I think if a person is looking for advise they usually have their own plan already. They just want another persons'point of view. If you are afraid you are getting people depended on your advise, first ask them about their own point of view on something. Then give them your point of view. In this way you start discussing the subject and you can help them un-cloud their mind and make things even more clear. It is better for a person to try solve things themselves but sometimes a little bit of advise is needed and advise surely never hurt anybody!