How does the process of "moving on"
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
Philippines
July 29, 2011 8:55am CST
It's either Moving from a Love that will never spark
Or Moving on from a Break up that turns a beautiful dream into a nightmare..
I have known some people who had a hard time moving on from a relationship, two of them to be exact and another which has the capability to just Shut it off and considered them as yesterday's news
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There are some people, who are in a relationship but still hasn't recover from the last one and sometimes, still have reservations to themselves.
What makes it so hard for a person to have a Realization that It's not the same anymore and it's different than before. maybe I might experience something like this one day but to those who have been through or currently in the process of MOVING ON, how does it work???
Life is so short and It's easy to say when you don't have the feeling of despair. when that feelings are into you, the depression takes like forever to get over with. probably that's why people have friends and that's why we have friends in the first place.
Nice to know mylot is full of people who give advice such as these problems....
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There are some people, who are in a relationship but still hasn't recover from the last one and sometimes, still have reservations to themselves.
What makes it so hard for a person to have a Realization that It's not the same anymore and it's different than before. maybe I might experience something like this one day but to those who have been through or currently in the process of MOVING ON, how does it work???
Life is so short and It's easy to say when you don't have the feeling of despair. when that feelings are into you, the depression takes like forever to get over with. probably that's why people have friends and that's why we have friends in the first place.
Nice to know mylot is full of people who give advice such as these problems....2 people like this
12 responses
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
30 Jul 11
It is hard to realize the love is over but you have to face it , grieve and then slowly move on. I;m living proof , if you can do all this, there is true love out there waiting for you . But you will not be open to find it if you are stuck in the past. And I am not saying it will take a short time to get over your love.But it is necessary to go through the hurt so you can look for someone who will love you.How do you get over the person? By seeing that it is truly over and by letting yourself feel the pain. Lean on good friends. And try to find something you Like to do and go do it!
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
30 Jul 11
Hello
sarah,
Well,
it's not easy to move on, there goes the grief and pain when ever we try to start over. In my view it's not easy to get out of the past most specially if you had such a great relationship with each other. something that most of us are hard to let go to. our eyes and head knows that it's over, it's the heart that needs convincing.
sarah,
Well, it's not easy to move on, there goes the grief and pain when ever we try to start over. In my view it's not easy to get out of the past most specially if you had such a great relationship with each other. something that most of us are hard to let go to. our eyes and head knows that it's over, it's the heart that needs convincing.1 person likes this
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
30 Jul 11
I agree. It is never easy to let go. And it does take time but it does get better. After I mended my heart I found my True love. So It Is Possible. But it takes time And work.
@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
29 Jul 11
Wow moving on from the break up I had with my boyfriend was one of the most hardest things I did in life i think. It took the life out of me but i did it!! But the thing for sure is I wouldn't have made it across the bridge if it weren't for the support of my family and sis. They are my ricks and I'd be so gone without them.
I consider myself lucky coz I have the best sis in the whole world and the best friends one could ever get. They always have my back and are so very supportive.
I don't really know how moving on works but I sure know the path becomes less painful when you have support around you and good friends and people who'll listen to your rants day and night
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
30 Jul 11
Hello thatgirl,
When was that my friend? has it took long before you finally decided to let him go? Indeed family has always and should be considered our number one love instead. Besides, like friends relationships due to come and go for every single day or every time when it is letting go time, there's an assurance to move on with our lives. Have a nice day.
thatgirl,
When was that my friend? has it took long before you finally decided to let him go? Indeed family has always and should be considered our number one love instead. Besides, like friends relationships due to come and go for every single day or every time when it is letting go time, there's an assurance to move on with our lives. Have a nice day.@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
30 Jul 11
This was about 4 years ago! and i have to say, don't think I agree with your statement. For me friends are not just come and go people. My friends came and they stayed and will always be around when i need help
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
29 Jul 11
The truth is I dont know the process of moving on...... even though i have been there for so many times ups and down! If you've never been there well its not good to feel so better not to dream of it... lol! I am so depressed and almost not to eat and sleep really bad tsk! tsk! When I was in this situation all i did was to make myself busy not to listen the song that is memorable in me. Everyting that is goin to remind of him i tried to avoid. And all that and these and so on was made me sick! So really hard as i cant explain well like i cant express my feelings when i am in love. They are almost the same in feelings but different in category.Opposite in meaning and in feelings.. All I can say is it is hard to forget and move on in a short period of time. It takes time.
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
30 Jul 11
Hello Mods,
Well, that's good news So Do I, but some how I believed that getting over the feeligns that you had with some one is the key to process of moving. and another thing is letting go of the hate and despair we feel for that person, but that takes time and will to just move on. we all fear going to move and love some one again but it takes strength. have anice day. 
@zhawee (873)
• Philippines
30 Jul 11
For me so easily..Its hurt but i need to move on, they are so many effected i my life if i not to move on. First im going to mall together with my friends im act just like nothing happens. Im getting busy and no time to think of him.. so few weeks you will forgot him..This is my way to move on..
Good luck
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
30 Jul 11
Hello Zhawe,
Yeah, having fun with friends is the first thing that would distract you from the pain of the hurt. Nice to know that you are doing your best to keep yourself from thinking about him. have a nice and good luck as well.
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
1 Aug 11
Hi Letran Knight: I think that moving on from a previous relationship will always be a difficult situation because this person means a lot to you. It's something you can't completely control. There will be moments where you just want to think about him/her and that you feel his/her presence. One of the things you have to do is to try to focus on what you need, to talk to your friends and do the things that you love to do.
ALVARO
@whitewingspeak (888)
• Philippines
29 Jul 11
Hi Letranknight!
Moving on depends on the situation and support system.
It's hard if you do it alone without any support from friends and family. Sometimes, you need another "one" to replace and forget the old one hehehe. 
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
31 Jul 11
I have had to move on from several things so many times in my life. None of them were easy to do. I had to force myself to go forward alot of times. It was all for the better though.
@toniganzon (72277)
• Philippines
29 Jul 11
The process of moving on is a case to case basis. That's why there are some who have love on the rebound because it's their own way to move on. Others just go into depression and couldn't move on at all.
I have a friend and he's still single until now while the ex-girlfriend has a live-in partner already. He admitted to me he's still in love with her. But it's a good thing that he's out of depression.
MOst of the people would tend to distract themselves just to get their mind off to wander.
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
29 Jul 11
hi LK,
Moving on will never be an easy one
But life is too short to hold on to someone or something which is far from reality
When I had my break up with my EX I simply go to salon fix myself, go out with friends and shopping 
it was an effective one because after that hurtful incident I become more stronger and wiser not to trust that much and I can't hold on to someone for a long time even I want to because everything has an ending.
happy mylotting
it was an effective one because after that hurtful incident I become more stronger and wiser not to trust that much and I can't hold on to someone for a long time even I want to because everything has an ending.
happy mylotting
@an_kawai_614 (18)
• Philippines
30 Jul 11
The process of moving on is when you totally can forgive the person who hurted you so much.One sign also is when you can tell your sad story to someone who needs advice and seems like it's just a part of your past.Because you cannot tell your heartache if it still there inside your heart.But once that you can voice it out to someone ..you can say that you really move on.Very helpful to move on is to change your place or location.Never stay on the place that's full of your good memories...try to find someone,a someone that can catch your attention and can be easily love by you.Prayers are really big help to move on and learn to forgive him.
@koperty3 (1876)
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29 Jul 11
From my experience I know that break ups are really hard to move on from. My previous relationship was pure nightmare. It took me two years to recover from that. I found my current partner when I wasn't interested with relationship at all. But I'm happy now because this relationship got solid foundations. Moving on it's not easy and it can take long time.
@cearn25 (3456)
• Philippines
29 Jul 11
When you move on from your past, you should consider the fact that moving on is that trying to forget what happened and start a new life without that person. I know it is not easy letting go of someone and get on with yourself. In order for you to move on, either fast recovery or even it will take time, one must fully accept the fact that the person whom you loved will never be yours again and will never come back. One must make his or herself busy on things which will not remind of her past. It is something different and unique.
