Way of Knowing Some One

That sounds very agresive, my friend. The word "hammer" itself is a weapon! It sounds as if you wanted to know someone by disecting him/her. I wonder what is truth and what is not truth in a person´s life. It much depends on the moment he/she is living. The past is always part of a person, as his personality does not change much. But I tend to think that deed and behaviour are only part of a person. There is thought and feelings also, and so many other complex things.

hello Ram, Knowing someone is not a matter of overnight talking and exchanging conversation. Not even those couples who lives under one roof will get to know each other for a year or two. It takes sometime to know the real person,not from the past or the present situation.. but from the heart and real intent. Naturally one's behavior will reveal the real he or she..inside and out. jaiho®

Rambansal this could be but for me when someone starts hammering at me I get defensive and grow cold and will not only not respond but may move quickly away.Not because I have a damned thing to hide but because I will feel this person whom I do not know seems to be attacking me.Normally I am an easy going person who has nothing to hide and will if apprached quietly answer truthfully all questions asked of me. b ut hammering is a technique used by police and teachers and other in authority. Its unkind and unwise and leads sometimes to fights too. oh I am sure evrery one that can take this method will tell the truth as they figure you might do something bad to them o therwise.but the method you subscribe to for some reason makes me very angry.Do you not see that this may lead the person to feel he is in court and on the witness stand, where you are asked to tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. I would not help you in any way were you to try this approach on me.

For me yes it has many task to do so be good and make all through by the time you are to be good.

you do have a point there rambansal... we can easily detect or corner a person's real intention when ask sudden questions face to face... however, some people are good in telling lies... some are trained in making stories, stories that you cannot tell if true or false unless verified to others... I know someone who can speak straight and look you in the eyes while narrating false statements...

It is certainly the events that you have been through in your past that have shaped you into the person that you are today. So yes, learning something about someone's past can often help to understand them in the present. Sometimes, however, events in the past serve as a force for change, and allow us to grow and become better people. So don't judge others simply on who they were in the past - who they are now may well be different!