Being of less priority in your family

Ohh I feel very sad and I remembered my days when I also feel this the parents are giving me less priority than my sister. Always give attention for my big sister. Everytime annoyed on me when quarrels are occured between both sisters. I was crying everyday. But now I want to thank to God after my marriage everything is okk. Really why parents do this but I think this is only our thinking and for parents all child are same.

Hello, sad to hear something about this because I can relate to the feeling as well. I am the third child among the 7 children in the family. But since I was the first born girl next to my two older brothers, I had the chance of feeling special at all times - getting all the attention from my parents and all, yet it didn't last for long when my mom had 4 more children on the way! *laughing* In my part, I didn't have hard feelings anyway since my mom and my dad tried to reach each and everyone of us in the family. I could feel that deep inside their hearts that they love me and are proud of me. I think it's a universal thing for families and for children to feel less attention from parents. And I admire you for giving your attention to each of your kids. You're a great mom!

That's sad. I know how you feel, I'm the third child and I've always been a misfit. It's awful to go through life not fitting in anywhere and feeling like you don't belong or are not good enough or that something is "wrong with you" - especially if your siblings are getting more attention. I was often excluded from family events for one reason or another and so I have often felt as though I am unwanted, or unnecessary to my family. The thing is though, I like me better than I like any of them.

I feel that I have become the less priority in the family. I live with my daughter and my grandson. They are busy and I stay in my room most of the time. They quite often fix meals without me in mind, don't even ask if I am hungry. I am glad you spoke to your parents about this. They gave you the answer I thought they would.

I am sorry to hear this, but i feel the eldest in the family has to perform the role of parent for the younger members, the parents should not differentiate between the kids, they should treat all equally, guess there might be some special reasons behind what you have observed.. thanks for sharing your feelings.. Have a nice day ahead. Professor ‘@Bhuwan@’. .

Im sorry you feel that way..I do feel the same way before when I was still living with my family.. but after getting married I just miss them so much,my mom,pop,bro and sis.. and somtimes Im thinking if we could just have time together again..i will try to be better to all of them and to give more to my bro and sis... Honestly I am so jealous to my younger sister.. my mom always tell us that she has no favorite and she love all of us equally..even though shes very obvious..lol I guess its natural to parents to have their own favorite I dont know yet if Im right but when I have my own family maybeI will know the anwser too...

Yeah. I was born the third child out of four of us girls. I feel like an outcast or a loner though, really. I am so much different than the rest of the family. I am alot like my dad though and also like my mom too though. I just feel like the oddball though because my needs were different. I was such a tomgirl. I was not ever really feminine at all. I didn't want to play with dolls. I like hotwheels and race tracks LOL.

This is often the trial of the first child. I was first and then my brother came along, at that point I became the least favored. I deeply resented this but as I look back I see that it forced me to be the person I am today. I had to find my own value myself and not a value brought on by the imput of others. So count your blessings.

I'm the oldest middle child of 4 and i have now been so outcast from my family tthat i cant even contact my dad anymore. I dont know if he realises but hes too busy with hs other children to even pick up the phone and acknowledge my existance. Its really sad.

Much the same here,as the saying is,"eldest child suffers losses".My wife was also the first born child in her family.When she was seven ,she had to take care of younger brother and sister and helped her parents with household chores.

Yes, it is a practical truth that all children in a family do not get same type of treatment from parents. I was most of the time ignore in the family for being a sick child, but I was the most brilliant student not only of the family but of the region in those days. So my parents to make good use of me for glorifying themselves as worthy parents of a worthy boy. There is nothing to be taken so seriously in this. Ultimately, one deserves what he/she really makes of him/herself. So never mind, darling, and cheer up.

felt that too.. my father choose his second family than living us. It's so frustrating but i learned a very good lesson to that. So when i get married i make sure i made them feel loved at any cause... and you did the right thing when you turned yourself to be better than your parents. I don't say they are bad parents but it's good that you made to be a better mom because of what you experienced. :)