Does This Annoy You? Or Do You Laugh It Off?

I had a teen at the library tell me that i needed to discipline my child. The reason she said it was because she was singing the itsy bitsy spider. we were in the children's department which has its own floor. My child was not running around. She was sitting at a table looking at a book and singing. Really?!?!?!? My child is almost never this well behaved at the library and this teenie bopper had the audacity to tell me that my child was misbehaving. All I said was thank you, but i will handle my own child.

I'm not a mother , I will never be a mother so why in the h@ll would I tell you How to parent?! That is so dumb and arrogant, the two traits I have no patience for! If I were a parent , I wouldn't stand for it!

Well I'm not a mother and I'm definitely no expert but I do remember how I was raised when I was little and I'll most likely be raising my child that is if I ever have any I'll be raising them about the same as my parents raised me I'm also the aunt to a now 2 year old, and I have often baby sat with her and when I'm with her I try and use the same or similar methods of discipline that my parents used on me of course with the full permission of my niece's mother With that said I know that having, and raising children isn't easy because I've witnessed my parents struggles, and now my sisters struggles, and by struggles I mean financial emotional struggles because having children is beautiful but it's also very stressful especially if your a person that does not have money or the perfect job, and has to work crazy hours and worry about things like money for day care, diapers clothing, food, rent, and so on. I know it's hard so I try not to judge mothers too harshly because I know it's tough sometimes, I know that I don't have kids but I'm not completely clueless about the struggles of motherhood, and parenting I'm sorry that you have had to deal with overly judgmental people. To answer your question when anyone approaches me with unwanted advice, and judgments on anything, I ignore them I don't let what others say bother me and I think that applies to motherhood too, meaning as long as you know in your heart that your being the best mom you can be that's all that matters who Care's what other people think.

I don't think I've ever encountered anybody say it to my face, but I've met a few people who are so into the 'right way' of bringing up their kids, that they can't help constantly proclaiming it. To a point that they make you feel bad because you're just doing it wrong. I stay away from those kind of people as much as I could! They're very annoying.

Sometimes and they also get into my nerves. I think there are no perfect rules to raise a child. Every rule depends on a child and every one is unique and can't compare. All parents wants the best for their so I don't mind them at all. I'LL LIVE MY LIFE THE WAY I want it.

I think everyone have their own opinion on how to raise their children, or how they will raise their children, But I think unless a person aren't a mother yet,they won't know how to really raise one,maybe those who are telling that is they just saying their idea on how they will raise their child when they got one.

I can remember when a friend had her baby, everyone in her family just seem to take over, it was painful to watch, it was like she had no say, no idea and they were all experts, hard to laugh as she was getting stressed iout because she didn't want to hurt anyone.

That reminds me of a situation on mylot a couple months ago. This girl that had just had her first child was telling me how wrong my parents were in a situation that occurred while raising me. My parents were protecting me, but this girl thought she knew all about how things should be done. I just kept thinking, just you wait until you actually have to make these deicions. My parents used to laugh when they would see newly married childless couples who would give out parenting advice like it was gospel. It's totally ridiculous.

Being a young mom I have gotten this all too often. I had my oldest just before turning 18. I now have 3 daughters and a stepson and I'm 25. When I go out with my youngest daughter who is 2 I get the 'look' and all the 'helpful' advice. I just nod my head when I don't mind. When it becomes too much to bare I just tell them, 'this is not my first child. I have 3 other children at home, thank you' and they usually walk away with a look of discust. So all in all I would have to say half the time it annoys me but other times I just laugh it off. I know they mean well but at times I think people should just mind their own business.

People who are not yet parents, people who have not parented small children in a LONG TIME, and people who have parenting philosophies that you disagree with all can make my blood boil when they start with their hapless 'advice' Special consideration is given to people who are not yet parents but spend a lot of time with kids, as in a preschool or young elementary teacher, a full time daycare worker, grandparents who are full time caregivers to grandkids etc. As far as new moms, I NEVER offer advice off the cuff. IF they ASK me, I might respond but I NEVER just give advice randomly. I don't think it is decent nor respectful to give unasked for advice. Generally I have seen a lot of brand new moms to be more insecure and not 'know it all' at ALL. I did a lot of reading and research while I was pregnant plus I have 3 younger siblings that I cared for a lot, so I was pretty comfortable when I was a new mom. I rarely asked for advice from people because I didn't need it. If someone offered something and I didn't ask for it, I usually just ignored.. .I do the same now and as long as it works, I'm cool. If someone insists I listen to them anyway, I'll ask them politely to mind their own business and then I go straight to stfu.

I can laugh it off because my children are grown. However, I can still remember what I thought I would do with my children before I had any children. Ha, ha, ha.

I'm not a parent but I'm not the kind who would say I know anything about parenting. I don't even know how to carry an infant. I think we can never understand how things work until we are in the situation. Since you are a parent, I know you have far more understanding in this matter than anybody who is not a parent. I think you should just laugh (and mock them inside??, just kidding). I mean, laugh at them and say to yourself, let's see when you become a parent (or experience it a little more longer..). Happy day!

I dont have a child yet, and I wont really tell someone to do this or do that If I havent done it myself. And if I am in your place, I will not care on what they say, I will listen to give respect, but I will do and decide according to what I know, as a mother, you know what's best for your child.

Very annoying but then again I'm annoy when anyone thinks they know everything..lol In order to preach the lesson you must first walk the shoes, so how can someone with out a child possibly tell me how to raise one. I can't fly a plain but I don't go around giving lessons either. lol Nice thread! Laughing is the best thing to do...;)

Parenting is not something we learned from books, it is all through experience of having our own children that teaches us to be the parents we are. Nobody knows better than ourselves how to handle our own children as we know what is best for our kids. Yes, I do find it irritating when someone try to tell me how to raise my own children. It is non of their concern and should not interfere in my style of parenting. They seem to be undermining my capabilities of being a parent. When I get people lecturing me how to teach my kids when I know they are no better than me I will just ignore them while putting up my unpleasing look.

hi lovingmybabies When I was a young mom yes those did annoy me but as my husband always said let them walk the walk then talk the talk in other words they will learn the hard way. Just like when older moms told me oh once they are past twelve the rests a cinch. I am now in my older age thinking oh yeah,nope then is when the fun begins. The teens are a whole new ball game for sure. In fact you never stop being a mom all your life. I hurt for my son as he needs a full time job and only has a part time job. oh you think well of course you are his mom.yes but hes now 52 lol no a mom is a mom all her life.loving don't let the know it alls get you down you believe yourself and your gut instincts and you will be fine. nobody but you knows your children like you do so remember that hugs from hatley

I am the woman who wishes she was a parent, standing back biting my lip as i see parents parenting who just dont know how lucky they are just to have the privelage of being a parent. I know its difficult to be a parent and all anyone can do is their very best. I often have moments where i disagree with peoples parenting but i keep quiet and let them get on with it. Not my child - not for me to judge.

Yes, I have met few people who are like that. They think that they've done their best and would boast that what they did was the for the good of the kid. I just listen them, only listen but will ignore what they say. By the time they're done saying things I just laugh it off. I should know better because I am the parent.

Well since its too early for me to even be parent . But i think everyone should raise their childeren they way they think its right . Its not about some people even expirianced telling you what to do and how to do it . It will be really annoying someone telling me how to treat my children ...