She Is So Strong For Being Able To Deal With This...

That's so sad. I really feel for her. My boyfriend's cousin has autism. I've never met him but I have spoken to him on the phone. He just repeats whatever you tell him to say, or he says his name. I agree with his mother's way of looking at it. People don't understand and therefore judge with the assumption that the child doesn't have a disability and is just badly behaved. Your discussion has made me think though. Sometimes I get annoyed when a child is really loud and is misbehaving. Although I never say anything about it I don't think that autism could be one of the causes of that behavior. I automatically think that the child is just badly behaved or spoiled. This will make me think twice about judging the next time I encounter a child behaving this way.

ahhhhhhh now I understand the other discussion about people not having the right to tell parents how to parent. Yes, I have worked with severely autistic children before, and it is very sad that they miss out on so much, and that people do not understand just how difficult it can be. I am glad that the mother is doing all that she can, as I know many many parents of autistic children who just give up, and ok, I am childless, but I do firmly believe that if you're going to go ahead and be a parent, you should make that promise to do the best for your kids, never give up on them and get any help if you ever need it. If I myself had an autistic child, I'd still probably go to support groups for help. Even though I have lots and lots of experience with childcare, and especially that of special needs children, I've never had to provide that round the clock care, so I'd go along and accept any advice graciously. I hope she keeps up the good work, and she's right; they dont know what its like to have an autistic child, and they probably dont even realise that he is, so its best just to ignore them and get on with it.

She is strong, because even with a father, I'd never be able to handle a child with autism, I am not that patient...As for the judging, the people will probably get theirs later because I heard a story of this women who said the same thing before she had kids, how she judged others when their kids misbehaved, not realizing it isn't the parents. Sure enough her third child, though I don't think he was autistic, he had some kind of behavior problem, like major Hyper activity disorder. She knew that her judging other people had opened her up to what they were going through..

Hi! There was even a case here in our country when a woman with a child with mental retardation who was told to get off the plane and they're not allowed!!! Being a parent for a child with any kind of illness is really challenging. Also, it's hard and sad for them specially when they think of who would take care of the child if she is gone. We have a friend and she has three autistic children. They are so hyper active and they would jump and jump but they are great children. They are sweet. I think people who are not in that situation don't perfectly realize how challenging their situation is. But that's people should learn. We should try to put ourselves in other's shoes before we say anything. We don't even know the whole situation so we should not say bad things unless we understand fully. I think those people don't know the child is sick. I hope she remains strong for her child.

Of course it is very mean. She must have gone through a lot with these kind of people treating them like that. Can't these people realize that they could have the same experience if their children were autistic? I can't imagine how people do that to other children when all children are angels. They should have been more sympathetic being fortunate enough not being in her situation. What a useless father her husband was. He could have been a big help for their child's improvement. He was so selfish. It isn't the child's fault. It is nobody's fault. I wish everything will be better. Just tell your friend to ignore those rude people. I am sure her being so strong a mother will help her handle things well. Best regards to both of you.

It's really hard to take of a child with autism. I know it because I have a cousin who has the same condition. They really create attention to people especially when their sickness attack. I remember once I attended a mass. The little girl began to create noise. and her mother couldn't do anything to shut her up. Her epilepsy attacks. They are really drawing attention. I can see the reaction of the people during the mass. Some are mad because they can't concentrate. Some are feeling sympathy. I, had a mixed of emotion. First of all, I don't really like taking care of kids. It's none of my interest. But, i don't like to be called as judgemental. It's just that, when you are with your kids in public. It is your duty, to avoid them from making too much noise.

Back in the day , any child that acted up got beat. A child acting up made a parent look bad. So parents made sure their kids weren't the ones to do it. And back then an autistic child was put in a hospital, out of sight. Now many parents don't even try to discipline their kids in public. They have been told they can't spank them so they don't even try. So Many non parents and others see a unruly child and think badly about the parent Not knowing about autism. And some even wouldn't understand if it were explained. So from the outside Little Man looks like every other unruly child. How can people be so rude? People are Rude. It is rare to find people who can Truly understand.

I have come across this with my grand daughter being in Burger King. I didn't hear the statement directly, but if I did I would have taken a second to ask her if she knows what Autism is and if not, she should learn. It is hard to deal with children with Autism and them being in public. I have one family that I know and they can't take their daughter to any public event or even the store because of the severity of her disability. When there is a difference in people that people don't understand, instead of asking they judge. People are scared of the unknown. It is not fair and maybe we should start caring informational papers to hand to people like that and then they are the ones that will look bad. My grand daughter had a meltdown because I broke her sandwich in half and was going to tell her all she had to do was eat part of the sandwich and then she could go play. I even bought her a new sandwich and that did not help. I did not let her go play either. But I looked at the people that were staring and told them that she is Autistic, but she still has to learn to listen also. They understood. We were in the kid's zone, so if she screamed, who cares. You are a very good person to be able to understand this special child that you help take care of, not everyone can do it or understand it.

Its never right or fair to judge people especially if we haven't walked in their shoes but I can see how it might look like a child is undisciplined if the person looking is unaware of the facts about the child's condition I have close a relative with autism I've grown up with her, and she is now an adult, and I know how it feels to have handle, and deal with a person with autism, and it's tough sometimes but I love her enough that it's worth it also I could not imagine life without her in it, she is amazing and sweet person who deserves my love and care and I've learn to not care what others think but when and if I'm approached, and if I'm respectfully asked a question about her I'll explain that shes autistic but besides an innocent question or two, I tend to ignore ignorant people.

Sometimes people can be so rude. I am not saying that I am exempt from this, as I sometimes feel that I am being unfair to other people when I start judging them. But in reality, like you say, we really don't know everybody. And the sacrifices that they are going through. I agree that this lady is very strong. And I'm glad that his son is growing up in such an atmosphere of great love.