say goodbye to shy
By tenrajj
@tenrajj (911)
Bhutan
July 31, 2011 12:49am CST
It is important to boost our confidence and shine with self-assurance. Lets discuss here with some of the top tips to boost our confidence.
If you believe you are ok, the other people will believe it too. Tell you inner voice to shut up when it is saying negative things. If it is always telling you, you look fat; you are going to feel fat. SO ignore the bad stuff and don't give yourself negative message. Instead, boost your self-confidence by telling yourself how great you are looking. And if you feel stupid thinking,"I'm great", listen to your favorite uplifting tune before you go out. Sing it in your head before you walk into a room and you will feel like a million dollars.
If you are struck in a rut with your shyness, join a club or society where you can be a new person. Chuck off all the years you have been known as shy teen, and start again as someone confident and outgoing. Don't wait for a particular time to do new things. Just because your mom and dad have never been into amateur dramatics or whatever, it does not mean you can't. Learn a new skill, conquer a challenge and meet new people. Your confidence will soar and you will feel much happier.
What do you say? Any other tips that would help us to defeat our shyness?
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7 responses
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
31 Jul 11
For me just imagine the blind one no shy to ask because they work as a beggar then you have complete body you don't do that to make you shine.
@tenrajj (911)
• Bhutan
31 Jul 11
Wow! that seems to be good idea. Within families and sometimes even with friends you can be known as 'the shy one'. But just because you have been pigeon holed does not mean you have to live up to your name. There is a tendency to live up to the lebels someone else puts on us. But shake them off and try another one. Think of what you are good and use that skills to help build up your confidence. This self-assurance will shine through and replace the negative labels.
@edsss17 (4394)
• Philippines
31 Jul 11
Hi there!
honestly I am very shy and always put down myself the past few months and years due to some problems.. and I just come up to an idea to stop those things and just be confident. Like free as a bird..
Now, I always fill my mind with positive thoughts and views about life. Am glad its working. I also talk to myself positively like I can do anything cuz I have the abilities.. :)
@tenrajj (911)
• Bhutan
31 Jul 11
Yea it is good that you have finally defeated your shyness. Usually people feel shy while meeting people for the first time. Meeting people for the first time can be an odd moment, but it does not have to. If you are meeting new people and no one is really talking to each other, the best thing you can do is take the lead. You will get over the embarrassment far quicker if you make friends rather than dragging out an awkward moment. Take a deep breath, smile and say 'hi, I' xx, what is your name?' And that is it! If you still have time to chat, ask questions like where they are from and all. By making first move, you will seem self assured and be the person who impresses rather than the one who is forgotten. That is just what i think if in case you feel shy while meeting new people.
@bittudavis (256)
• India
31 Jul 11
I usually do to make my shy go away is by facing it. I was so much shy to face a stage. Finally I decided to make up my mind infront of the mirror and spoke a lot in the terrace of my flat and then finally joined a club in which each had to speak something everyday. I faced the situation with courage and thus got rid of my shyness.
@alishasmilez (68)
• United States
31 Jul 11
Hi Tenrajj! This is a great question. Don't let people put you down and be yourself. Do what you want to do and don't let anybody tell you you cant do it. Try to start more conversations and make new friends. Be nice to everyone and tell them that they look great.
@catof1 (683)
• United States
31 Jul 11
Many ways and it depends where the shyness is coming from too. If it is an age thing lets say in your tweens and teens most of it will fade away as you learn to socialize with your friends. In some cases there is a lot of teasing and humilation involved and that is where a lot of shy people get into trouble. Now only are they shy (I was) they are VERY sensitive at times. Some people just want to be left alone with their shyness while others are craving and scratching to get away from it. Meditation and a good support system is important too.
@tenrajj (911)
• Bhutan
31 Jul 11
Yes it is right.. and i think when we meet new people, the first 30 seconds are crucial as that is when we make our most important judgments about others. what you look like or what you wear does not matter. It is the way you walk in and meed the people that count. If we are shy, we must pretend to be someone else. Fake it until it comes naturally by imagining yourself as a confident celebrity. Stand up straight and walk in. Hold your head high, smile and make eye contact. You are gorgeous.
@diala84 (138)
• United States
1 Aug 11
Shyness exists because it can be beneficial to survival by avoiding conflict and attention as well as allowing one to become a good listener and form closer friendships and relationships when one finds them. However, it can also be a hindrance if your shyness make you feel worse about yourself.
In all honesty I feel pretty good about myself even though I am shy. I simply see it as a way of avoiding potentially dangerous, negative or scary social situation. I will talk with people when they talk to me but I do not attempt to initiate conversation or go out of my way to talk with someone unless they are family or a friend.
We are all different and there needs to be balance of introverts and extroverts, shy and outgoing, etc.. There is nothing wrong with being shy unless it causes you physical, emotional or psychological harm. If that is the case boost your image and do thing you like to do, don't focus on other people, focus on yourself and improve yourself. Shyness is only a problem if you see it as one.
@APSC_girl (118)
• Philippines
31 Jul 11
You are right. The first thing to prevent shyness is to stop the negative self-talk. That is mainly the root of lack of self-confidence of many people. And instead of that, we should just renew ourselves and change our negative self-image. You are also right that meeting new people and joining clubs and trying on a new skill and conquering challenges might defeat our shyness. Being successful in something will surely make us more confident.
