At what age or what is the age group when children are more attched to parents?
By pringu
@pringu (151)
India
July 31, 2011 1:41am CST
Hi friends, I have often asked this question to myself several times! Frankly speaking, still i haven't had a right answer to this. When do you feel that, a child in his/her lifetime, is more attached to his/her parents?
In my opinion and from my experiences, i feel, children need the care and affection of their parents the most when they are in their teenage or in other words, during the ages 13 to 20 when they are in the process of knowing and understanding the world around them.
Once they get through that age, then, probably they could stand on their own feet to some extent and take up the challenges of the world although, parents play a vital role after their teenage too!
How do my fellow mylotters opine on this? Or how have your own experiences made you feel?
10 responses
@pepperpopper (376)
• Philippines
31 Jul 11
they get attached from the day they were born up to college. But after school, when they are getting paid already by their job, they tend to spend most if their time with friends, colleague and partners. But when their parents reached the age of 80, the end of their time, their daughters/son find ways to make things out with their parents.
@sam3m1 (190)
• United States
31 Jul 11
we are in our late 60's and our 4 children are 48, 45, 45,and 42. the closeness with the kids has varied, but i think that now, with them being mature, with families of their own and understanding the difficulties in child-rearing, is a time when we are the closest. there is also the factor that as we age, they are more protective of us.
@jpso138 (7851)
• Philippines
1 Aug 11
I think from the very moment they are born, they are very much attached to us parents. Its just that we cannot feel it much considering that they still do not interact, they do not speak, just laugh and cry. By the time they reach the age of 3 up to 12, I find the attachment more. Buy the time they reach 13 going up, their attention now is divided between us and their friends...
@sreesai (215)
• India
1 Aug 11
Hi pringu,
Children were attached to parents at all age, but the way they show concern toward parents are different. As child be wants his mother/father as they are the world to child. When they have siblings, the child wants his mother/father to me more with him than with the siblings. But at these ages they can not understand parents. And by growing older and older, the child understand parents, how much they love the child, how caring they were towards him and the child knows to express back at the age of 20 and from then the child parent relation will be stronger.
@EstiiBabii (685)
• United States
31 Jul 11
I think there is no correct age group for when a child is more attached to their parents. I use to think that children between the ages 1 to 10 are attached to their parents and then the years after that we start to disengage ourselves. But, that's not the case for some people. Some people appreciate their parents as they get more older because the maturity starts to sink in and the relationship becomes more stronger.
@czarina_tabek (19)
• Philippines
14 Aug 11
the age group when children are more attached to their parents is the age group of toddler (1-3 years of age). Caring for a toddler is one of the greatest challenges of the parents that they need to focus. The Toddler is more attached because in that age they are dependent to their parents. And the toddler they know that their parents are the one of the best thing gift of the God.
@QeeGood (1213)
• Sweden
31 Jul 11
I believe we are individuals needing our parents more or less depending on what's going on in our lives. During our entire life we need parents as parents can need their children.
@flowerfest08 (1677)
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31 Jul 11
I think children up to the age of 10 is still attached to their parents, after that they begin to detached theirselves, maybe because they are beginning to get shy to say what they feel, and they start to learn to stand on their own, already trying to discover new things about growing up.
@anuavadutha (14)
• India
31 Jul 11
Hi all,
In my view children irrespective of their age should be attached to their parents.As a child we need their protection and care.As we start growing we are in need of their constant attention and advice .And as finally we grow up it they who need our care and attention.So this whole process does not function well if we are not attached to them and do not share a special bond with them.So my friend do not restrict your attachment to your creators for a stipulated time period,love them as much as you can.Because we owe them for this beautiful gift of life.
@francesca5 (1344)
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31 Jul 11
I think that children are always attached to their parents, but in different ways, depending on their age.
so they start off as babies, totally dependent. then as they become toddlers they start to develop a little bit more independence, and then as they get a bit older they want a bit more independence, and so it goes on.
so the relationship changes, and as they get older our job, as parents, is to help them gain independence, and to help them to be confident enough to go out into that big wide world, but still be there to support them when they need it.
and then, i suppose, as we get older, they become the independent ones and we start relying on them for help, but i prefer not to think about that!
so they are always attached, but in different ways.
