Why didn't she see it being "single" is a blessing?

You're funny sometimes.. Ok . you are concerned and i understand. I think you are worried not only by her decision but because you dont have known this before. Maybe she likes to be privade about it...and only released when she was sure. You wish luck and happiness and hope it all works. and not exaggerate the concern : she will marry and not be hanged.

Jackie, Jackie, Jackie, not everyone thinks like you do, girl. Being single may be a blessing but if you have met someone special to share your life with, it would be even more blessed. Maybe she has known this guy for some time already and wanted it to be private. Friends don't tell you everything. Sometimes they want to keep things secret. At least she invited you to her wedding. Just give her your blessings and hope that her marriage would last forever.

Hi Jacklintan, Did she say how long she'd been seeing this person and how she met him? Is it possible that she has been seeing him for some time and just kept it to herself? Bottom line is that she is an adult and it is her decision and as her friend about all you can do is wish her the very best. I'm 55 and I don't find being single scary at all. In fact, I love it but I do know that some people really don't like being on their own. I would think that marrying a virtual stranger would be much scarier than being on your own IF that is what she is doing. But that's just me.

Sometimes being single may become very scarry for some people. They must be feeling acute relationship vacuum around them. They may feel that some relationship (even though it may not be very intimate) is better than having no relationship at all. Perhaps this may not be the case with your friend and she may be having a genuinely good relationship about which she might not have talked earlier. God bless her!

Hi Jacklyn, Singlehood is admirable, but not everyone can endure singlehood. Do read the following passage in the bible from 1Cor 7 and especially verses 1 to 9, focusing on verse 1, 8 and 9 for your answer. I hope some day you will also tell us that you are walking down the aisle, I will be most happy for you, my friend. Really.

There will come a time that all of us will look for a partner who will be with us forever. It's just that, your friend found it too soon. You know marriage is not just a piece of paper. It's legal and you can't just walk away from it and forget when you realize your mistake.She should think it many times before saying yes.

To many they Have to get married. Like back in the day , they actually think if they are still single by age 30 , they have failed somehow. But then again many have dreamt of their wedding since they were about 5! So by age 30 they think the clock is ticking , especially if they want children! So the dream is about to disappear so they are desperate to marry! It is sad. They see being single as failure. I think being single is good If you want it. I think it is tragic to be single when you want to be married And to be married when you want to be single. We all have different visions of happiness. Many Have to marry to be happy. Your friend is one. That doesn't make her any less than the single woman who Loves being single , Just different.

Hmm, I find it extremely difficult to come to a stand in this issue, because there are so many ways to approach this issue. For me personally, I would talk to that friend to try and find out more about the guy that she is marrying. If the guy sounds like someone that is marriage material, I wish her all the best and my deepest congrats; if the guy sounds dodgy, I'll try to get the friend to reconsider (as a genuine friend would ). But ultimately, the choice still lies with your friend and only she decides what she does with her life. Consequently, she would also have to bear whatever outcomes that result from her own decision, whether it be good or bad.......

I can certainly understand why you're concerned, and I think that you have a right to be. After all, she is your friend. But in the end, it is her decision. And her mind does seem to be made up. As difficult as it can be, sometimes, you just need to respect your friend's decision.

Sometimes these things do happen quickly. YOu just seem to know this person is for you. I would wonder too if I was a friend. I would think though that if you know this person very well you would be able to tell if your friend is really smitten or just likes this guy. What do you think?

Hi sis! Is she has the same age as yours? The reason you mentioned above could be the reason why she get married.Even if many ladies out there prefer to stay single in 30's there also some who care that so much and would like to end it as soon as possible.

Why is it when a person is still single wants to be married then when married wants to be single? Being single it not scary if you're enjoying life. I would prefer to stay single longer than married.

Being single is a blessing because you can do whatever you want and you can do wherever you want. .Many people scared being single because they says that theres no one who will take care of when they are old. .Yes you can get married but be sure to the person you love most and to the person who will accept you inspite of your imperfection. Not just you will get married because you're scared of being single

Maybe they've been dating secretly for a while? Either way I hate being single myself and consider it the last thing from a blessing. Maybe she feels the same way.

I don't think you have the right to assume that, because there are many reasons why she might not have introduced her to whoever she is going to marry. Maybe he's in a biker gang. Maybe he's a woman. I'd like to think that she fell in love so hard, so deeply, that she knew, after all of these years of being so picky, the perfect man has come along, in a very magical love story. That's what I'd like to think, anyway. I don't think there's really much that could be said about her without knowing anything. Is she attractive? Good with people? Or is she a crusty eyed, basement hermit who hasn't seen daylight for months? It's always kind of strange when a single person seems to never date. It could be because she's private, or really choosy, and unimpressed with her selections, or just never goes out and meets anyone. It's nice to have someone to love. It's not for everyone. But I think, if she really did hate being single, she would be in and out of relationships all of the time, I know plenty of people like that. Unless, of course, she was unable to find anyone. So it's very hard to say, there's so many things that could have been going on here.

Well, I have been single for years, and I am quite pleased to be a single person. Maybe it is because I did not receive much pressure from my parents. Many of my family members are still single, and we seldom talk about marriage or getting a partner in our life. I think some people may not be as lucky as I am. Their family members and friends always urge them to get marry, which may give them pressure and force them to make quick and irrational decision. They may just pick someone around them, and this person may not be the best guy. Although I did not feel embarrassed to be a single woman, my friends started to worry about my situation (but I am just twenty something!!!), one of my male friend even asked if he should introduce some of his friends to me. I rejected him, because I don't want to force myself to choose someone that yet. To think in another way round, I am proud of being single as I can learn to be independent!

A decision has been made. You're friend needs to be married. If she feels it that she wanted it. Being single is not bad you are enjoying life. But as we old we need also to understand that we need a steady life or person to be with. It is normal for the women to get marry before getting old.

Thats life. I give you a thumbs up with that. There is a big but on this, its her life wich makes her more filled-up by marrying that person. You have a point in caring about your friend a lot and its her choice. Moral support and understanding is the only thing a friend can give in that kind of situation. Who knows, in the end what may came out in their situation, and thats the only thing we can assure whats next and why's.