Should I just let her go even if it is painful for me?

Before I give my reply, I find your avatar controversial. Hmmm... Danzylop, if you're really tired, I'm pretty sure that you won't hope for her to come back or for her to stay. I guess you should let her go. If you love her, you'll always aim for her happiness. If her happiness is a freedom away from you, then give it to her. Anyways, it'll just be useless. She doesn't really love you that much. Find somebody else who can love you and respect you as a person. Don't waste your time for someone who's not deserving.

From your post it seems to me that the relationship is more about you and what you want. You seem to be blaming your girl for not co-operating with you, for misunderstanding you, rejecting you and misjudging you. You say she doesn't give time to see things the way you want her to. What about her? Isn't she important too? Do you take time to see things her way? Do you try and understand her and what she wants? A relationship is equally about 2 people...it's not about just one person.

I think it's better to talk to her and listen while she unveil what she wanted to say. The real challenge here is how were you going to accept it and let go if she does wanted to break up with you. Because I can sense that it's not easy AT ALL. But you know, if you stop thinking about the feelings that you two have, it will set you free. Because maybe Some how she wanted to be free also.there's a song "if you truly Love them,you gotta set them free, if she returns in time, you will know, she's yours." But you Decide. Just do your best not to linger for the past feelings from those moments that you have with her if she really does want break up... Besides, there's a lot of people who have gone through worse and they came here to mylot for comfort and advices we are always here if you need friends to talk to.

Sometimes our own fears pushes that person we love away. I've been there and when things like that happen i blame no one but myself. Now talk to your girlfriend. Have a conversation not a an argument. Try to accept what she has to say, listen don't complain. Let her finish before saying anything. If she suggests break up and nothing can change her mind at all. Let her be. YOur relationship isn't going anywhere and won't grow anymore. Maybe it's time to move on.

You said that your girlfriend doesn't love at all, then, why you want to continue your relationship in a crawling state. You should simply let her go & watch forward to your life. I can't get that thing that you want to love a person which don't love you at all. Is she's really in love with you she don't want breakup at with you. Try to make such hard decision that make your incoming life good. Live life with a partner with no love is not a good policy buddy. You just better have a love not fake love or attraction. You should think buddy about yourself & look forward to your family also. If you are upset & unhappy then that will become the same case with them also. I don't share my personal usually but now sharing with you because it seem similar to me. I had a girlfriend & our relationship discontinued after 11 month, more than you. I have same case with you but I don't want to continue. Reason is Misunderstanding & no love. I can't live with hatred feelings at all. She want to continue but I can't able to love her because of her doings & all. Its like stabbed my heart & then I walked away.

You should talk to her and tell her how you feel. Maybe it would work better tell her how upset you get when she tells you to leave her

I understand what you feel as I am feeling it right now. We never knew if there's something wrong in us,or the person that we love or the situation itself is giving us some trouble. We always try to understand and give consideration...but we felt that our effort is not enough. We lost hope and confidence and we really feel upset and down. We don't want to lost someone we love to dear...and it's so hard to decide I hope you will find the answer to your question...as I am also trying to find the answer to my feelings right now. have a good day jaiho®

in my opinion if she always suggests for break up even for just simple misunderstanding then let her do it to give her space and time to realize if she really love you she will do all things just to win you back and if she do really love you she will understand you

Oh, I'm sorry to hear that. Its really hard in your side! :/ Especially you love her truly! Well, if she's not happy anymore then you just have to let her go my friend. They say when you truly love a person, you should do everything to make her/him happy even if it hurts you! :) Be strong! :)

If you feel that nothing is working and you feel tired of this. You should let her go. If she is speaking about breaking up during arguments so it means that she is thinking about it. I understand that relationship is not always sweet and pink but you should feel comfortable being with other person. Relationship should not be tortures. Think about new possibility. You will meet person with whom you will create new bonds and you will be happy. I wish you all the best.

hi friend sorry to hear about that, may be you should try a last time to talk to her not arguing just talk, let her know how you feel, open your heart and let her in, be a book let her turn your pages hoping she will read between the lines and find the answer that she wanted and needed. hope you guys could make it happen take care

sorry about that. I can feel your pain. I know 4 months is not really long enough. Maybe it's best if you'll just let her go. And move on, you can find someone who will understand you and will not offer break up whenever you have misunderstandings.

Your break up with your girlfriend is a wake up call for you. Just a piece of advice..There are two things you have to bear in mind-1.That you have to analyze yourself what went wrong?What did you do? 2. Is it really worth fighting for?Am I worthy in this relationship? Sometimes, we can't force someone to like us or to love us. We just have to be ourselves for someone to realize that we are WORTHY to be loved and cared for.. Sometimes, we thought that we are capable to understand the situation but we are not. Sometimes, we thought that some relationships will last but we haven't thought that what If we are better as friends than lovers.. I'm talking just because of my personal experience :) Don't afraid to love again... Just make sure that your mistakes are the being used as support for a better relationship for the second time...

hem when the fainful is always happening in your realtionship with someone, what for your relationship continue, isn't you fall in love for your happiness?? So dont try,,

I would say that if she keeps offering to break up all the time, that is what she wants to do. I would say to go ahead and break up. She may decide that she does not really want to.

This is so sad Danzylop and I'm sorry that you're going through all these pain. I may not exactly know where you are coming from but I think my boyfriend and I went through a stage like that. I admit I am the "problem". Sometimes, when we had misunderstanding, I always push him off, suggest breaking up, tell him not to call me or appear in front of me. But I think, women just say that because they want their man to chase them, prove to them that that's not what they want, that even though the situation is very hard, they won't agree on breaking up. Sometimes we wanted to feel that way. But when my boyfriend talked with me one time, he clearly made his point that he is not happy with me doing it most of the time when we fight. He doesn't like me to push him away. He even said that one time, he wants to accept my break up, because he's hurting and he already felt that I don't really love him to do those stupid things. Deep inside, I decided to change because breaking up with him is not really what I wanted to do. I love him so much that if he gets tired of putting up with me, if he leaves, I will be totally mad at myself. Try to talk with your lady, remember, when it comes from the heart, she'll feel how sincere you are.

Take it easy. It had been 4 months already so just let it go. Buy a six-pack and down them all, maybe that could ease up the pain. But seriously, you should clear your head me her. There are a lot of girls out there, you should explore the whole damn sea and stop sticking with the pond.

If I were in your position, I'll break up with her. It's only 4 months, so little time. If you really can't understand each other then it's a waste of time continuing the relationship. There are other girls out there that will understand you the way you are. You don't have to force it if you two doesn't really fit. Another thing, she always threaten you for break up. She is controlling you because you are afraid to lose her. That is your weakness. Next time she tells you that, dump her. You'll never know if you will be happier with another person if you don't try. Just explore the possibilities. Hopes this helps.