Slowly losing my confidence

I know how you feel. Think of it this way: you've been a part of someone for the last four years. All of a sudden, you're no longer a part of them, and you're standing alone. Of course it could shed some confidence from you. But believe me, very soon, you're going to enjoy being single. You're going to be able to do things you weren't able to do before. You'll be able to enjoy anyone, and ANYONE's company without making anyone else mad. You just have to laugh with your officemates and not take things personally. Don't push yourself too much on trying to get back into being a part of someone. Enjoy the single life. Eventually you WILL get married. And then, it's a different story. See a movie that you've always wanted to see. Go online shopping. Buy art materials and make papier mache, or paint an oil painting. There are absolutely so many things that you can do in your life. You don't have to find the ONE. He will come into your life whether you like it or not.

Hi keihimekawa! Don't feel bad! You're not the only single lady out there. There's one over here, too. I've been single for a few years, I mean, unattached, without a boyfriend. And yeah, it makes me feel un-confident and sometimes, my inferiority complex feels like building up. But don't let it get to you! Instead of thinking about it, try and do things that will make you feel good and happy. When I feel low, I get a haircut. I dance, I exercise. I take care of my body. It raises my confidence. And I don't stop on enriching myself. I mean, I don't stop learning things. ^^ Trying out new things will help you feel confident, too. Ignore your officemates, people will talk but you know the truth. Enjoy being single for the moment, go out and have fun. You will eventually meet someone. You shouldn't hurry up.

I feel your pain, and hope for whatever it takes to make you happy... you find it. I am 26 and I am not the best with time frames or dates. I do on the other hand know that, my last relationship... was started 11/15/2007. She broke up with me right before our 1 year anniversary. Ever since I have not been able to forget her, or honestly move on. I have made very few attempts to move on, and the ones I did take, failed in one way or another. I went downhill fast in my life... and it's one of those stories I just say if I could go back and re-do... I would love to. I know I would do my best not to make the same mistakes. But I had to come to reality and realize that no matter how much I hate it, it is in the past. I may never move on... but I do hate being single. It is lonely to me and my dreams haunt me still to this day of her. I think we seek companions and relationships so we are not alone, but keep your head up. I hope and pray something works out for you.

Hi Keihimekawa and welcome to my lot. I know the feeling I am not beautiful or sexy and chubby and I am 58. I was with a man for over 12 years and he treated me like I was dirt. Then when we brought out land here in MO he got worse. I had been praying that God would show me a way out and one day while at a friends house hauling water, I met this man that treated me like I was just like any other person. He treated me with respect ( I weighed at the time 287). I said a prayer on the way home that day. I said God if I have ever done anything right in my life give me that beautiful man. And believe me he is sexy. Brown hair blue eyes 160 and younger then me by 9 years. I started walking everyday a few days later and eating special K and in 3 months time that sexy man is mine and I lost about a hundred pounds. We have been together for almost 4 years now and it is better then I have ever had in my life. Don't get me wrong we have our problems like any other couple it isn't a bed of roses. But when I was going to divorce him a few weeks back he faught with me and threw a fit and cried. In my discussions about it you can read why all this happened. My best advice to you my friend is pray and ask God to show you what HE wants from you and to send you a special man to share your life. Being single isn't a bed of roses either. Good luck and God bless!

Chill. Relax. :) you don't need to find love because it's something that happens in the least way we expect it. Let love find you, and while waiting for it, pamper yourself with love. Be the best of who you are. I too just ended a 3 year relationship a few months ago. And with honesty, I just prayed that God will help me make it through and to take care of me while mr, right is finding his way into me. Haha! Well guess what, I'm with someone right now whose trying to win my heart. I feel blessed because it's true that someday someone will walk into your life and then you'll know why you didn't work with anyone else. Believe in Him. Believe in love. He's just preparing the best for you

Losing once confidence is when a person hurl negative words to you, criticize you to the boot and demean you publicly. I guess you are just sad. Who wouldn't be if you have been into a relationship for 4 years? You are still young and is working therefore, go out with friends and enjoy restaurant hopping. If you want to be alone then go to salon and have your hair done. It never fails to boost your morale & uplift you. Available men are just around but don't pick them just because you are peer pressure but date him because you like him not because you want to spite your ex.

The last thing your should do is to allow those co-workers get under your skin. What you must do is have a change of atmosphere. Since you live in QC, try the UP Oval on a Saturday morning. Get into some sporty attire and walk the grounds. There are so many wonderful people out there that you wouldn't even feel alone. After a few months, I am sure you would tell me that you are not as chubby anymore. The important thing at this point is to make yourself look and feel better. keihimekawa, 24 to 28 years old is actually the age range when people feel they are at the crossroads. Don't feel depressed. It is a normal phase.

I know it's so sad when we lost our confidence. Right this moment I am also starting to lost my confidence. I trusted someone but it seems that s/he is not trusting me the same way i trusted him/her. i feel so bad and upset right now....really so upset

I think I know someone who has the same problem as yours. Listen dear, it all boils down to how much you love yourself. If you do love yourself, then you'd have the confidence in how you carry yourself and expose yourself to the society, then you shouldn't have any problems at all. Just keep smiling. :)

Being single and not being on a relationship doesnt make you different. That is not a reason for you to lose your confidence. your happiness should not depend on other people. I know soon you'll find the right one.he'll come soon. but for now, dont rush and pressure yourself. enjoy being single for now. go out. hang out with friends. be happy with your life and in no time, the right man will find you.

as i grow older, i don't care if i'm not in a relationship. based on experienced, it's better to be single than be in a toxic, unyielding relationship. when i was younger, i tend to please others but now i ignore men. i don't lose my confidence since i take good care of myself and i look so awesome fabulous to be single. girl, you need to realized that you don't need a man to validate your worth. love yourself and strive to be sexy and young by taking good of yourself.

Saying you arn't pretty shows you don't have good confidence. Make yourself more available go out with guys to dinner go clubbing you will find something gaureented

Hey, don't loose hope. I've been there once. I broke up with my 3yr bf in college. He was my life. We argue most of the time. I donnt want to loose him because 3 yrs is 3 yrs. And I don't wanna waste it. and what if, I'll never find somebody else. But I realized, If I'll focus on "what ifs", Im gonna miss "what is". And so we broke up after college. It's been four years now and the pain has gone. We're still friends and still communicates on Facebook. He already has girlfriend and I have too. I can't say that Ive found my perfect match. We used to argue also. I don't know if "he is the one". Nobody knows. But if ever, we'll get separated, I'll be brave enough to face it.