Excessive Foul Language

This is a subject that has been a sore spot for me mainly with my husband for the last few months. I personally do not use foul language and I really hate hearing it when other people do it. Of course I do realize that everyone is not like me and many do not find it offensive at all. I respect their right to be okay with it even though for me it's like running your fingernails across a chalkboard! However, I do not excuse my husband at all and here is the reason: When he met me he knew I did not use profanity and he never used it around me nor at me. We have been together off and on for about 20+ years. He would use it around the older members of the family and I imagine some friends but never at the small children (nieces and nephews) Now we have a 9 year old daughter and for the last couple of years he has made it a point to use as much profanity as he can muster up, but it's only around me and our daughter. We constantly tell him we are offended by it and he just ignores us. It makes me so angry that he has become so disrespectful to us in that way. It's bad enough having to hear it so much from other people but it's a shame to have to hear it in my own home for no good reason from the very person we should not have to hear it from.

Some religious, and non religious, but very proper people use phrases that I was taught were vulgar. At this point in time my most used expletive is "crap" There are some words, including the "f word" that I will not say, but I feel embarrassed about what I do say. I am a believer, I will not say religious, because religion is man's attempt to reach God, and grace is God reaching down to man. I always felt that using empty swear words is very un intelligent, so I do not do it.

I try my best not to swear, but when I am angry, look out..I also had a friend whose husband used that word in every other sentence at my house in front of my son and my friends son. It got to where I was correcting this guy so much, he ended up going outside and unfortunately my neighbors then got to hear his f-this and that.. It's disgusting... Now, as for the religious community, if any of my husband's church members are here,(which I seriously doubt) they shouldn't say anything, considering the crap they allow..

Yes i agree but know i am also a culprate. I try really hard now not to use bad language as i don't want to pass it on to my son. But this has in turn made me notice how much i actually do it. I have cut back on my swearing alot because of this lately. I don't hink it's a good habit and i know what you are talking about with finding it offensive because some people i hear swearing and i can't handle it. It is somewhat disgusting and must be a turn off to so many. Noone want's to be known as a gutter mouth.

Once in a while out of anger, I can really see that and understand. I mean we all have our breaking points and there is just some times where life is going to get the better of us. Therefore, we are going to break down and curse out a lot of the people to say the very least or times where something bad happens that we just blurt out something that we might not normally under any circumstances. There are a lot of times where a lot of people use said words way too often for my liking to say the very least. Especially when every other word is a curse word, than they kind of lose their whatever purpose they might say. Granted, there are many people who when the drinks get flowing for some people and their tongue gets rather slick. At least that is what I really think a lot of the time. So its fine if they slip out in anger, but casually speaking, you should try and avoid them, unless you really cannot avoid them, if that makes sense.

I'm gonna have to go with the opposite of what a lot of other people are saying. To me, words are only "bad" if you make them bad. The "f-word" really isn't different then any other word in the English language and if you were to take away the "bad" connotation, it's meaning would still stand. I will admit that I definitely swear like a sailor, but it's not because I can't find other words to express what I'm trying to say. It's just that I don't buy into the taboo of swear words and so don't feel bad saying them. Of course because of the society we live in I know when to tone it down and when not to, for example you can't drop an f-bomb in the middle of a job interview and still expect to be hired.

I'm with you on this matter in every way. You state things very well. I use the F word occasionally when I want to vividly colour what I'm saying, usually in disgust, distaste, disdain or chagrin. I only use it when I converse with my good friend. I used to not worry if I heard it on TV but you hear it so much now...that and mother f...ker and c..k s..ker and sometimes even worse. The new thing seems to be that I now often hear women say it on TV. I'm hearing it during daytime movies when there are likely to be littlies around. As for the other, I cringe or shudder inside when I hear people say OMG and especially the full version. You even here children saying it and I'm sure it's just thoughtlessness but people should realise that it's blasphemy and it's wrong. Has that message been lost somehow?? I seem to be shocked and disgusted more often these days...is it my age (58) or are the times changing and human standards going even further downhill??

LOL! Reading about this reminds me of an article I read on Yahoo yesterday. It happened in my country anyway, but I think it's worth to talk about it here. They were reporting about this university valedictorian who was appointed the speaker of the graduation speech. She was speaking with such enthusiasm and happiness that it was over, i mean, her university days are over, her studying and slogging days are finally over and you know what? At her concluding sentence, she just said it in a moment of jest, 'We f**king did it!' and everybody cheered out loud LOL!!! Wow I couldn't imagine what those professors will think but anyway, I think she's just too happy that's all. She didn't mean any harm but surprisingly, even I felt strange when she said that F word. LOL

I also don't like hearing excessive foul language. Whether it is just a form of expression or just a way to release their anger. I personally don't use foul language, probably because I'm not to used to it and I didn't hear my parents using such language.

I agree with you for the fact that swearing is very anti climatic in a conversation. I believe most people swear is because people tend to pay attention to the one swearing so often, but little do they know its not the kind of attention they want... I myself strain from excessivly swearing, because I believe only mature intelligent people use appropriate language in any situation.

I am offended when a person i am speaking to, speaks some foul language, specially when in an office. I think as you have said, it could be said when expressing disgust , anger or frustration. However, as much as possible i don't like hearing those foul words, because i feel like it's not a respectable manner to speak of it. Though, it's not directed to me, when i hear it, i still feel offended.

I will be the first to admit that I am completely at fault when it comes to foul language, when I am with friends or my hubby and we're just messing around. We do a lot of dirty jokes and have fun, so for that I am VERY GUIlTY. LOL But however, when I am at work, with my kids and other places, I always conduct myself in an appropriate and respectful manner. Like you said there is always a place and a time for that type of language, so if I am not comfortable with the people that surround me and/or I don't have confidence, my conversations are always civil and clean.

Your views show maturity when it comes to dealing with communication and good interpersonal relationships. I agree with you regarding the disadvantages of swearing, because such negative actions not only hurt other people, but it also destroys the self-image of a person who misuses verbal language. Some think that excessive swearing sounds cool and "mature", yet seriously, it does not benefit others. Most importantly, to have a harmonious bond with other people starts in discipline- whether thoughts, words, or actions.

LOL i am pouncing you now! i never heard my dad cursing & my mom only utters "lightning" which when translated to our vernacular language is the lowest amongst the low of cursing. We the children are following her too & sometimes it feels nice. lol And for me I added spice to that instead of saying "Oh sh*t!" I'll say: Oh shucks! (i am proud i am innovative hehehe). Except for the men in dad's side, women are swearing in every breath they take! Its weird & annoying.

My brother in law picked up a disk and on the cover it had a warning about strong language. He said it should be called weak language. I totally agree. I think it is horrible to hear excessive foul language. I don't like to hear someone using a swear word in front of children. I think taking a religious man's name in vain is wrong. I use words like bother, sugar and oh no. A person using lots of swear words has a bad attitude. Using just a few swear words could be the average person.

Masihi I am a C hristian of sorts but I sure do not belong to mylots religious community. However when I hear people swear every other word I begin to think they are either too lazy to use proper English or they really have a very limited vocabulary. Of course I have let out a few bad words when I was really angry or shocked but I do not pepper my usual ever day conversations with others with these bad words. I have a BA in English so try to make myself use proper words not swear or cuss words as for the F word I myself feel its ugly and demeaning to women and men. Making love should not be equated with cuss words not if two people love each other really. Also I do not ever take the name of the Lord in vain .As a toddler my mom and dad taught me that and its stayed with me now I am elderly too.

Like you i am not into foul words. I only use them when i'm really really mad and it rarely happens. I try to avoid using those foul languages and my tongue is not used to them. I have unfollowed people in my twitter who would utter those words every time they tweet. It's just a total turn off for me.

I am guilty on all counts I picked up a very foul language at home - both my parents cursed a lot; I picked up even more in my first job - being a sports journalist didn't help one bit; and even after I quit that job, I remained addicted to a particular football team, and going to the matches ever other week did not help either. I almost never curse in English - it's not my mother tongue, so it's no fun. I try not to alienate people I don't know, so I control what I say in front of strangers, but that's about it. All I can say in my defense is that I almost never direct a curse at a person - I just have foul things to say about objects, life, weather, towns, trains, airplanes and all sorts of things

I really try to refrain from four-letter words and cuss words. In fact, I tend to use diplomatic words. Of course, this may also cause misunderstanding, especially as to intent, determination, and force. So to make sure that the range of meaning is fully understood by those who must NOT misunderstand them, I will call the main party aside - person to person - to give emphasis and avoid any misinterpretation.

It is annoying to hear lots of swearing/foul language. It can be used in moderation like when get really pissed on something or you get hurt ( lets say you cut yourself with a knife). It ruins a good conversation when you talk around people sensitive with the remarks. Sometimes I find it offending and disrespectful. Everybody does not talk like a rapper (rated with explicit language content).lol