He keeps on complaining..

I disagree that it's perfectly normal when the complaining is all the time. It sounds like he is exercising a level of immaturity as well as a certain level of selfishness. He is actually dumping on you. I understand that he now feels more comfortable to share his true feelings, but as adults we have the capacity view to things positively or negatively. We have the ability to control our behavior so that even if we are feeling negatively about something, we don't have to spread that feeling to others. It is a very heavy weight to have someone who is always complaining around you. That's why you can't relax or concentrate on your needs. I know people who are like that, who complain all the time and it is such a downer. My spouse is the same way, at least around me but when he gets around other people, he puts on this front that he is so cheerful and fun to be around, not a complaint in the world. If you can talk to your boyfriend at all, try to tell him in a gentle way that his complaining bothers you or help him to see things in a more positive way. Otherwise, you will begin to resent him completely.

That's what my friends tell me, that he feels comfortable and safe complaining to me but he does not understand that sometimes I need time to relax and think at least for my self, my work etc. What he want is for me to listen and focus on what he has in mind. Like for example when he can't install some apps on his android phone, he easily gets mad and keep on stomping and scratching his head and so forth. It's tiring.

yes, most of the times his problem is very childish and that is what's tiring and irritating me because he's acting like a kid and not a mature man.

I understand and I am counting your votes.. keep you updated..

I know he knew it but I don't even know if he cares about his attitude that is already irritating me. i don't know really.

well, I am now sure that I am not alone, we exactly have the same kind of man who loves to complain, I guess you need to read other responses from our friends here. :)

Honestly I tried but it seems it just worked for how many days and after that it's back to the old same thing again. See, that's why it's really tiring and I confuse in every decision I have now.

When it's my time to complain he would just listen and nothing happens. He would also answer me with his own complaints. And I noticed that when I try to complain, it it his chance to complain as well because he know I am listening to him at that moment.

he's sugar sometimes jump above normal specially when he does not visit the gym every other day, I never heard that a diabetes can contribute to his habit of complaining and this is quite interesting for me. I guess I will research more on this. Thanks!

yes, I tried to stay calm and patient but there are instances where in he is like forcing me to react and what I hate most is that he does not want to do or even try to do what I advice him. He always have reasons why he can't do it so I tell him to stop complaining if he does not want to look for simple solutions to his rantings.

I guess our men are similar because even my man seems like to complain all the time. And if there's nothing to complain about, he will start looking for something or someone to complain even if he knows that it is out of my reach. He complains about his work, the neighbor's dogs, complain about the shower that is not working properly etc. Oh my god..

I guess you are right, maybe I just need to be more strict. thanks

yeah, I can tolerate his attitude since I am not perfect as well, but sometimes it irritates me since I am always the first one to give in for us not to end up arguing. At times he make me sick.