My friend's nephew was just stabbed...
By jadking
@jadking (69)
Philippines
August 1, 2011 12:43pm CST
A few days ago, my friend texted me that her nephew was stabbed with a knife and rushed to the hospital. (I hate those street gangs. :( ) She asked for prayers, and I texted back that I'd pray for her nephew.
Last weekend, I saw her, and approached her to say hi, but she walked away and said that she doesn't want to talk about it. I waved at her when I left, but she didn't mind me. I sent her a message on facebook saying that if she needs a friend, she can always count on me. I doubt she received it though, because she only has internet during the weekdays.
Finally, just an hour ago, she sent a text to me, saying "today made me realize that I hate everyone. night." And I was shocked. At first, I kept wondering, what did I do to make her feel bad about me? Then I calmed down, and thought that she must be feeling really sad because of what happened to her nephew.
Now my question is, how can I be sensitive to her needs and be there to support her without smothering her and allowing her time to think and reflect? I don't want to seem insensitive, but at the same time, I don't want to seem too distant to reach.
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3 responses
@hoonwenting (99)
• China
4 Aug 11
After read your encounter, I felt very baffling.Why did she blame you? I think you are innocent.But it must something happen,not just her nephew was stabbed. I think you'd better let her calm down for a period time,then you can comfort her,to understand what's happen to her.
@jadking (69)
• Philippines
4 Aug 11
I don't think she blamed me. I think that it was just an outburst of her emotions at the time. I still can't perfectly understand what she feels, coz I don't know what it's like to have a dear one stabbed. But whatever happens, I'll definitely be there for her as a friend.
@charleychrizzy (86)
•
15 Aug 11
Just give her time. Its a pretty bad thing to happen to her nephew.
She just needs time to deal with what happened and sometimes,people deal with that kind of situation by shutting people out.
She knows you are there for her, so just let her come to you in her own time.
xo
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
1 Aug 11
It seems to me that your friend is deeply depressed over what happened with her nephew and that she is angry at what her nephew had to go through. It may also be that people have not been as receptive as they should be. Maybe texting her back and saying you love her and will be there when she wants to talk would be good.
