wheather husband do house work or wife do housework??
By Elainerlily
@Elainerlily (27)
August 1, 2011 9:03pm CST
I like do housework!ther are many advantages for a woman to do housework.it can save time for a woman to do household.you can be good with your mother-in-law.you will have good fac that people think you are a good woman.but sometimes,when i get home after work ,i am really tired.i think man had better to do some housework to le me rest!
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@marguicha (222994)
• Chile
3 Aug 11
Housework does not have to be either a man´s job or a woman´s job. Each person does the part that he or she can do better, trying to help each other.
Years ago the men provided the money and the women stayed at home and did the housework. Now it is not so in many parts of the world and both should help each other in and out of home.
I don´t know what this post has to do with a mother in law. It is not always that she has to live with the married couple. I don´t think it matters what other people think of you either, as long as you are happy with your partner and he is happy with you.
@RBBantiles (347)
• Philippines
2 Aug 11
Household chores and raising the children should be a shared work between husband and wife.
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@Elainerlily (27)
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2 Aug 11
you are right,it is not only housework but also raising chlidren is very important thing in very family.
@djmarion (4898)
• Philippines
3 Aug 11
Whenever my husband is at home especially during his day-off he helps me with the household chores, he do some of the task that I have to do such as going to the market, cleaning our room and fixing things, he even do the laundry sometimes. I think everyman should help their wives or family for the household chores so that they would also know the value of women on the house.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
2 Aug 11
Household chores, doesn't entirely mean for the woman to do alone. There are household chores that could be shared with your husband. However, you just have to ask your husband lovingly, if he is willing to help you with it.
I think, if both of you works and there's just the two of you at home to eat, it would be better that you just buy cooked foods. That way, you save on gas , effort and time. And you will have bonding time with husband after dinner.
By it at least , you get a rest time, when you arrive from work.
@Elainerlily (27)
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2 Aug 11
as you say,shared things is important in very family,i will be with my husband to talk about this things!
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
2 Aug 11
Hi simplyd and elainerlily,
I agree with simplyd! Household chores should be shared. The house is shared, so automatically, the chores should be too!
I will usually discuss with my husband, what's to be done... Sometimes, if we take turns to do it... Sometimes, I will just refuse to do it if he doesn't do it... So that he knows that he should play his part too as the husband, especially the "Man" of the house...
It is a way of spending time together when we do the chores together. Especially when I clean the windows while he sweeps and mops the floor... After which we will chill and rest together.
Haha...
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
3 Aug 11
Household chores when shared with the husband becomes a bonding time for both of you. It would be nice, if you have music on the background while you work. Most of the time i put on danceable music.
That way, we are inspired to work and sometimes we work while we shake our body to go with the music. 
@minomarimat (372)
• Philippines
2 Aug 11
it's not entirely a woman or a wife's responsibility to do household chores. I mean, since you're both sharing a property built from love and commitment, aren't you guys supposed to share the responsibility of maintaining what you both own?
@pbbbsra (1214)
• Philippines
3 Aug 11
even if men can do housework it will not help if its not their thing. one man is different from another. i do the housework bcoz im the one stayimg home. my husbamd is working, but even if it will be the other
way
around... its
a
part of being a wife to look after the house and our husbands.
@Galena (9110)
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3 Aug 11
what about when housework isn't either of your thing.
it's not his thing. it's not my thing. but it needs to be done or the house will be a pigsty.
so we work together.
I don't beleive that being a wife means you're more responsible for housework than a husband is.
so you think that even if the woman works too, or only the woman works, it's still more the womans job to do housework?
that's daft.
@rawar31 (112)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
3 Aug 11
In my case I've found a rare gem! My husband almost literally hates for me to do anything in the house. He sees my role when I'm not studying( medicine) or working( nursing) is to instill good traits into our son, cook occasionally and satisfy his physical need. He literally does all the house work. I have to hide to try and do any cleaning. He tells me he didnt marry me to be his maid- but his companion( the sweetest thing!)and we've been married for 4 years now and been friends for almost 10 years before that.
In the age we live in, chores arent defined to the female- its all based on the individual couple, and compromise in many persons cases. I understand that my husband feels like hes loved when our intimate actions dont pass 2 days and he understands that I feel appreciated when people do things for me, so he decided to do it all and I decided to give him all:) no matter how frequently he wants it. Its a win-win situation and it works for us.
@Galena (9110)
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2 Aug 11
well obviously it's equally the responsibility of everyone that lives in the house. it's not anything to do with your gender, if you live somewhere you have a responsibility to keep it nice.
if one person works, regardless of what gender that person is, then it makes sense that the one who doesn't work should take responsibility for the bulk of the housework, but the other person should do some too.
if both work, then they are EQUALLY responsible for cooking, cleaning and keeping the house nice
in fact, I think it's disgusting that in households where both of a couple work, some men still think that when they get home they should be able to relax and do nothing, while their partner gets home from work, cleans, tidies, vacuums, cooks and washes up. they are not real men if they think that attitude is okay.
@youless (112481)
• Guangzhou, China
3 Aug 11
I think that the housework shouldn't be only for the husband or wife. Actually they shall share the housework together. Because the home is for the couples, so they are responsible to do the housework. Especially today there are more women who have work. So it will be unfair for women to do the housework only. A modern nice husband shall be considerate and help the wife to do some housework. He can regard it as doing an exercise and it will be good for his health. Meanwhile it is good for the relationship.
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@meenalkadian (348)
• India
2 Aug 11
Hi Elainerlily
Welcome you on mylot. As you said you do mist of the housework. Even i do all that. I am a homemaker and I stayed at home so I have to take care of everything including my two naughty kids. My husband sometimes help on holidays.
@Elainerlily (27)
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2 Aug 11
aha,you are a good wife,you and your husband must love eachoter very much.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
5 Aug 11
Yes there are many benefits for women to do housework. I don't necessarily mind doing housework. I think for me it's scheduling everything right so that I can get it done. I always say that we live in our home and so there always seems to be something out of place, or a dish in the sink. Some homes are always spotless and everything in order, I'm still wondering how that is done. My husband he doesn't do too much housework and that's fine. He helps when I need it or if I want him to do something in particular. For the most part though I keep track of organizing the house. I like to be able to care for my family in this way. I would really however love to master having it organized everyday all the time. I like my house to be straightened up when others stop by.
@flowerfest08 (1677)
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2 Aug 11
i think both man and woman can help each other to do the housework,or those who left in the house if ever there is usually do that. but if you are not tired and have time to still do some house chores maybe you could do some, like cooking or some cleaning perhaps.
@Fragab (128)
• Philippines
14 Aug 11
I guess I am lucky to have a husband who has no issues with doing chores like washing dishes, ironing clothes and tidying the house. Whenever he is at home, I never have to do things aside from cooking. I am not fond of doing household chose so I guess that is the reason I was given a husband like that.
