so what if you think i am ugly..grr
By tess_quinain
@tess_quinain (1149)
Philippines
August 2, 2011 6:46am CST
I am beautiful in the eyes of God but if you think i look ugly in your eyes i don't care. I don't want to waste my time thinking and hurting of what you have said. I may not be beautiful in your eyes but others may think that my beauty is simple and good. If you do not say anything good, please just don't say anything.
Have you experienced like that? I mean, has someone said that you are ugly? haha. Let's admit that we get hurt by hearing that but don't let those words ruin your world.. your life... Mean people are born to be mean. We just have to accept the fact that there are some people who are actually born to be tactless. Born to hurt other people's feelings. What am I thinking? I shouldn't be affected because I know I am not ugly as what he thinks.LOL! Whatever. Shrug it off!!!
We were all born beautiful!!!!
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22 responses
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
2 Aug 11
You're right, we shouldn't allow those people to affect us in anyway! Though nobody has ever told me i'm ugly right at my face i know for sure someone out there talks behind my back!
I really don't mind how people look at my physical appearance. I dress up for myself not for anybody, i try to take care of my skin for my own self-motivation and not for anybody else. If someone would tell me i'm ugly right at my face. I'd probably tell that person this: "Oh thank you for such a compliment. I keep hearing i'm beautiful everyday that i'm starting to get bored. Nice that you've cheered me up!"
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@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
2 Aug 11
Hi
I have encountered things like that. Yes, it is a big issue for other if you are ugly or not good looking. I tried to think about it. I say the real problem is not about me but with those tactless people. If I am not beautiful that is their problem own problem. If you are completely happy about yourself that is enough. You don't live to please them. And there is nothing you can do because that is how you are made by God.
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@Archie0 (5652)
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5 Jan 13
You are right. Even i feel sometimes that i am not good looking like other people around me. But now i think that i should not underestimate myself and believe in myself. I am fat and that is what always keeps me from going ahead in life. But few of my friends here have shown so much courtesy and let me believe that i look beautiful if not in anyone's eyes then in my own eye at least.
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
3 Aug 11
For me it is defends on the reaction of the people if it is so then yes but if you worship the only true God Jehovah you never said you are.
@bravobrino (70)
• India
3 Aug 11
yes our outer looks are all temporary and people won't remember our looks for ever.But will remain in people's heart is our good deeds and love for them.
@sanjay91422 (2725)
• India
5 Jan 13
You might have read this line "beauty lies in the eyes of the beholders.", if you have heard about this line then you should not worry about what others say about your face. It can be different for different people that some may find you beautiful and some may find you ugly.
Now it feels good to get the compliment but you should not feel bad if you get some comment, accept the fact that you are not beautiful in their perspective and it should not matter much to you. That is what I think about one's attitude to handle such situation. Now second thing is for the people who are blunt in saying all these things. I think they should take care that someone might get hurt, so they should not say such things. One should focus on the things or people they like, not on what they don't like.
There is a nice line by Bruce Lee "Keep your mind on the things you want and off those you don't want". I think same line applies here to these people and they should follow it.
@pbbbsra (1214)
• Philippines
3 Aug 11
i experinced that too. it hurt because
it came from someone i respect. but then i didnt care. that person told somebody m husbamd is too handsome for me. and i was there when she said that. im just lucky i have a husband who loves me and he said he has the world's most beautiful wife...haha. i dont really care on how people think. whats important for me is that me and my husband are happy. but id be lying if i say it didnt hurt. it did, but then it passed and eventually i learned not to care.
@JerryChan (13)
• China
3 Aug 11
yeah, you are so beautiful a guy.
in god's eyes we are the same, we all have beautiful heart
@rhane7315 (5649)
• Philippines
3 Aug 11
i have encountered that twice i think. the first thing was when my hubby's father (now my father-in-law) was against our relationship because of our races he told his son how can he (his son) love me since i'm ugly lol that time my hubby was furious with his father because he doesn't have a right to be mean if he didn't like me. but right now, my father-in-law and i were in good terms. then the second would be he sister of my father-in-law. she asked my mother-in-law who am i and if i'm their (mother-in-law) maid lol it's ok with me and i don't get affected by that and i don't care at all because i believe that every person has their own uniqueness when it comes in being beautiful.
@trisha27 (3494)
• United States
8 Dec 12
I've been told I was ugly when I was younger too. Now that I am older, a lot less people have told me I'm ugly. But I won't let it effect me the people's words anymore. Because like you have said, it doesn't matter if people think you're ugly. Not everyone is going to feel that way and no matter how many people told me that I'm ugly, I know deep down I'm not and my husband doesn't think that I am ugly either.
I also believe that it does not matter if you are beautiful on the outside or ugly on the outside. The most beautiful person can be really ugly on the inside while the most ugliest person can be the most beautiful person on the inside. So looks doesn't matter any way it all depends on how you are on the inside. Then that will shine through on the outside.
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
3 Aug 11
A pleasant day to you tess_quinain,
When I was still a child, my classmates also teased me out for not being a beautiful child. And since we are just living and having a simple life, so my clothes were also the simplest ones. During those times, I just end up crying. But, as time goes by, I really learned how to fight on this things. Wherein, I always bear in mind, that someday, I will be able to stand up and show to them that though I am not that beautiful, I will be somehow famous and be known.
What I did, was study hard and exert much effort to be a role model in our area. That, even we were not that rich, I have prove that I can still achieve my dreams. And now, whenever I get encountered with my previous classmates, they always told me that I look different now. As they saw a different person.
As they also saw me beautifully.
Thus, looks fades away. The most important thing is the attitude. Just think positive and all of the things will go on this way.
Have a nice day to you Tess.
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
5 Jan 13
hi,
yes that's correct,we don't need to waste our time to those kind of people,then what are they care if we are ugly and aside from that this ugly face is not is mine and not yours,i don't care to them if they look at me and tell i am ugly,because all i know is i am beautiful no matter what happen.
@bravobrino (70)
• India
3 Aug 11
We are all born beautiful.What makes us ugly is our bad deed and egos.No matter how much we make up our facials and dress up to make ourselves beautiful if our inner conscience is not clear it will show on you.
@formosa (10)
• China
3 Aug 11
When I was a student,I wanted to be more beautiful an draw other's attention.At that time, I thought appearance was very important.As time goes by , I realize that people's knowledge ,wisdom and heart are more important than appearance. Therefore now I just myself in my ways.
@jmay1226 (97)
• Philippines
3 Aug 11
Yes I agree we were all born beautiful on our own. We should love our self before others.Tactless people are just are just so mean... They should comment in personal bec. it can hurt.. They are so rude!!
@madteaparty (2748)
• Japan
3 Aug 11
Beauty is a very subjective thing. We are beautiful in the eyes of some people and ugly in the eyes of some other people, so I can't agree with the saying of "we were all born beautiful".
Beauty standards change as the world evolves, but even so not everyone will agree with those standards -I'm a good example of that-. I have been called ugly and pretty too. Who's right then? If they're trying to convey a fact or an objective remark, they're both wrong. If they're trying to convey their own opinion and a subjective matter, then they're both right.
@bamikalipal (588)
• Philippines
2 Aug 11
Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. Yes, it's a matter of opinion, but no one has the right to call anyone ugly. That would be insulting the Creator. God is love and God is beauty. All creatures, great and small are beautiful. We, human beings, are God's masterpiece. So, how can any of us be ugly. Mean people have an ugly and rotten attitude. I wouldn't waste my time worrying about what they say. You are right, tess. You and I and everyone else are beautiful.
@balaji85in (459)
• India
3 Aug 11
Hi friend. Till now i have not felt like that. No one told me like that in front of my face.. Even, if anyone told me like that also, i don't feel for it. coz i know i am beautiful in eyes of god. Also the person who blame that i am ugly also beautiful in eyes of god.. If anyone blame like that, I just take it easy and will move on.. If he/she blame me that i am ugly, God is there to ask them.. Why should i worry for that?? Physical beauty may gives some kind of attraction, But it will evaporate in few years.. So being a beautiful person mentally only gives us a real beauty..
@vivamir (671)
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2 Aug 11
Hi tess_quinain..
I totally agree,
The way I see it.. I am beautiful.. I am told everyday (*by myself*) LoL.. My Mum always told us when we were growing up- we were made the way we are and we shouldnt change a thing for nobody..
If someone wants to say something.. I let them, because all Im going to do, is bare a smile..(",) ha ha
@flowerfest08 (1677)
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2 Aug 11
i think everyone has their own beauty and i believe that God created all people genuine and beautiful, so if somebody told you that you are ugly just ignore them, anyway beauty is not only based on face,it's based on everything and not only in the outside because beauty on the outside fade through time, but if you are beautiful inside, then you'll remain beautiful as long as you live even if your skin sagged and you get old. those who only look on outside appearance is so shallow for me.