why some people do backstabbing?

I hate backstabbers and i don't have much time with them. They're usually my so called friends and i just feel so disappointed when they do that to me that i easily give up on them and don't give them second chances in our friendship anymore. I know i'm a bit harsh but i consider what they did to me harsher. So do i have to give them another chance when they didn't even think first before stabbing me at the back?

I had a lot of experience about backstabbing. And one of the most painful of all is when the one doing it is the one whom you learned to love already like a friend. Also one of the funny but irritating back stab that i get is when these two girls (they were the sisters of my boyfriend) were talking bad words on me not to mention that i was just there on their side. They're talking bad about me in a different language without knowing that i know their language, they thought i don't.And the funny part there is whenever i look on them they just smile as if they are smiling genuinely. I let that happen for several years pretending i don't know there language in order for me to know if they are planning anything against me and my pretensions really helped me.

Indeed, backstabbers are hypocrites. Nasty fellas with pretentious mindsets. However, the sad truth is, there are a lot of people in the society like this and we cannot do anything to stop these people. I remembered that when I was in lower secondary, me and my friend were also backstabbed by another 'friend' of his but we managed to explain the situation to our teacher and in the end, the backstabber got stabbed back by his own ways. Well, although we often see backstabbing occurring in TV shows, in real life, there are a lot of such incidents and we can't really spot it until it strikes us. So what we have to do is to be extra wary of people around us and most importantly, notice how your friends act around you, try reading expressions, that helps a lot in your decision whether to make that friend your true friend. Good luck!

It's very hurtful. You think you can trust that person and they use everything against you as a weapon. It's unfortunate that people have to be so mean. I have never backstabbed anyone and don't intend on doing so. I've experienced enough of this in my past as the victim. I can honestly say I don't have many friends because of things like this. Best Wishes

I hate backstabbers they do talking bad things about you in your back. They say bad things about you and when you confront the m they deny or reason out what they did. I was back stab by my friend and I confronted him on what he did, but he denied it. In the end he say sorry to me.

i experienced that before but my advise to you is just forgive them and move on. don't focus on the negative things. if you get angry, the person who will suffer is you. chill out, you're not the one who did bad things, it's them who gets bad karma. just continue being nice and happy no matter what other people are doing. enjoy life ^_^

Hi flowerfest! I am one that is very guarded now because of past experiences such as this. I am picky about the company I keep and I also keep personal interactions with people to a minimum. It is sad that there are so many people out there that will do things to others with no regard to respect or decency. The worst is when the form comes in someone that you really thought was worth your trust and loyalty. I am by no means a hermit. I have many acquaintances that I do things from time to time with but I find that level of friendship most comfortable for me. The ones that get past that and into my graces are those that I would do anything and everything for at the drop of a dime.

I think that you are right that even our close friends also try to stab us in the back.I have been told that there are a few people in the past that have stabbed me in the back, also was discussing what was going on in my life.I never get upset, or angry, as it is better knowing who not to trust, as that way you do not tell them things in the future and avoid them if you can, that is what i do.

For me yes but take the courage to be not good because Satan is influence more now than ever.

It definitely feels awful to realize that we were backstabbed by people in which we had complete trust and we never imagined they could harm us,but I think many people are by their nature full of envy and try to destroy everything in their path,and their souls are poisoned with evil thoughts which they manage to hide from us until they strike and hurt us deeply.I guess there is no cure for such behavior,all we can do is be very cautious with the people we like to consider 'friends',because those who truly deserve to be called friends and who would never backstab us are very few.

Of course i had.One of my college students is good at backstabbing.and yes,all the classmates both know that,her don't do backstabbing toward one stable people her cover all the person who got a award or whose grade is high and have got a praise.no matter her is evnied to others or like to be gossip like that,i have not good impression of her.in my view,whether one's good or no ,don't need you to comment.curb your tongue please.

Hello.. I hate back stabbers too. They will just give you an awful feeling about yourself. I wonder if back stabbing will bring them pleasure to themselves. I hope they will realize that when they back stab, when they talk about a person when they're not around, they are just displaying what kind of person they are. Insecured..

Those who about you on your back are afraid to tell you what they think or they felt threatened so they create rumors to bring you down. I experienced this before when a co-worker feels something is wrong about a project but does not have the courage to tell instead resolves to backstabbing for the results which is frustrating on your part. I call them cowards.

Backstabbing is an imbecile's hobby. Come on, think about it, you talk trash about someone for what again exactly? Indeed, there's no point to it. Although this one time I used to live in a dormitory with a lot of other co-ed college students who'd rather use their study breaks about gossiping and even the security personnel got involved with all the gossiping about yours truly, ME. I got so pissed off that I stayed in a different place for a week, came back, gained my vindication by showing them that I, for one, do not give a bloody hell about what they we're saying. You know the only way out this bickering is to not even feel that the 'gossip' is there, that it exists. I mean it's your life and maybe you want to live it that way, so for heaven's sake live it. Nobody could ever tell you what to do, where to do it, and most of all, how to do it. Never live up to somebody else's standards. Your own is enough.

Crab-mentality is very common nowadays so be careful. There are people who will do anything to pull you down. The best you can do is to ignore them and show them that you're not affected and that you're a strong person. I've experienced that and I just ignore it, the one that backstabbed me must have been furious because I wasn't a bit affected. I'm still fab! Lol

People backstab because they are insecure with themselves and they are jealous of you.They are so insecure with themselves that they have to make sure they bring someone down with them.