dating with a friend xboyfriend
By meriel
@meriel (101)
Philippines
August 2, 2011 9:46am CST
don't know if it a usual thing now a days.. dating with your friend exboyfriend. how does it sound to you?
I have this friend who's been dating this guy for a months now. it so happened that this guy is her friend exboyfriend. at first she kept it secret to our group some might knew about it but they remain silent because they don't want to create rumors and misunderstanding within the group. my friend broke up with this guy a year ago. because the girls parent does not approved their relationship. and they don't like the guy too. after their break up we found out that one of our friend and her exboyfriend are having this what they call exclusively dating thing. at first she denied it. its not a date it was just an ordinary hang out she tells us when we ask her. and it happened only once. but most of our common friends had noticed them together, going out together. and now shes telling us that they are really dating she hide it because she is afraid that our friend might get mad at her which really happened now because she did not tell the truth and she lied to us maybe she still love the guy. our concern is that she should not lied to us. and did not tell the truth will not all of us because there are some in our group knew about it too. and that's the other story.
4 responses
@lampar (7584)
• United States
2 Aug 11
It is not cool for your friend to lie about her dating with a ex-boyfirend of her girl friend from you for so long, she may not want you to know her secret affair, she may be afraid you will destroy her love relationship, i think you can just take it easy since she doesn't really need your permission to date anyone, unless you think friendship means everyone need to get your permission for everything she did in her life. Cheer!@ 
@flowerfest08 (1677)
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3 Aug 11
i think dating your friends ex boyfriend is not nice... if she really treasure there friendship then she would not entertain him in the first place.
@astroversion (210)
• Philippines
3 Aug 11
She lied because she's afraid t be ridiculed by the group. Have you found yourselves in a group discussion and brought up the issue with her? She has to tell you guys about it to end the rumors. Keep the friendship alive it would sad to lose it just because of that relationship. Of course, you also need time to understand the her situation once she admits it.
@aimend13 (51)
• United States
2 Aug 11
I think that it all depends on how honest and forthcoming your friend was about dating her friend's ex-boyfriend. Since she hid it for so long, it makes it seem as though they've have something going on for a long time and that she betrayed her friend in the process. The problem with hiding is that despite the good intentions behind it, it still makes it seem as though they were doing something wrong.
Your friend should have been honest and upfront from the beginning, instead of hiding it. That way your friend and her friend could have had a mature discussion about any lingering feelings that might be involved. As it stands it's not looking too good for the two girls to keep and maintain their friendship.
