Have I truly forgiven someone if I refuse to forget the offense?

If you still keep the same offense in your heart then you have not truly forgiven that person. You should learn from Jesus christ the best way to forgive a person. It is in the lords prayer.

I think that you can forgive someone without properly forgetting. Well at least partially forgiving someone to that extent. There are a number of times where you try and forgive a person but the mistake is rather going to stick out in the back of your mind. Yet, life goes on and you really do need to let what is, be and really have a lot of times where its not going to be that easy to forget. Plus I think that while some people want to think the best of people, there is some feeling that if they did something before, they are going to really do so again. There are a lot of people who are repeat offenders with whatever we need to forgive them with. We tend to be on our guard a lot around people, sometimes is justified, sometimes its not rather justified. Still sometimes its hard to completely forgive and either harder to forget, depending on the offense.

Yes, as the saying goes, "Easy to forgive but not forget". We are human after all so yes, it would be really hard to forget a thing that really leaves a big hole in your heart. I think you did forgive him/her but not totally since a relationship is based on trust and trust is not that easily given if you've been burn again and again and you're only human after all..you got hurt and needs lots of time to stew and get over it. Your only human so don't feel burden by it. You know in your heart that all is forgiven but it would take you days or months or years to build the trust that you have on that person. Don't worry. Time heals all wounds and someday you'll be surprised that all is forgiven and forgotten already! :)

I don't think there is anything wrong with whatever you are feeling. I would feel that same way too. Before you know I have thought that I can be Mother Theresa, but I later realized I just can't do it cause I am not Mother Theresa.I am me. We all have different personalities that copes with human emotions. Sometimes we say we have forgiven the person, but in reality we are still in process of convincing ourselves that we really did forgive. I say , let forgiveness takes its own time to work for you.I must come naturally, when and how , nobody knows really.Takes time.

For me its not really about forgetting the offense because that's really hard to do especially if it concerns trust issues, you have already forgiven that person if you are giving that person one more chance. Things may never be the same again but you shouldn't treat it that way, treat it as another fresh start for the both of you, all the wounds and the painful feeling can only be cured by time. You should work it out together if you think that person is sincere.

people say that you should always forgive and forget and if you were unable to do both, then you haven't completely forgiven someone at all. But I disagree. You can forgive someone fully and whole-heartedly without forgetting about what they did wrong. I think that by not forgetting, you will both learn from the mistake committed thus, you can avoid such incidents from happening again in the future.

maybe you will forgive someone's mistake if you will try to forget it. And pretend like theres no wrong at all. But as we all know, sometimes we tend to forgive but we dont forget at all. I think it depends on the mistake.