If your depressed over your money situation what can you do?
By thedataminer
@thedataminer (515)
United States
August 3, 2011 9:28pm CST
Tonight I got into a really dark state of depression. At the moment I'm feeling just a little better. If you have a household of 2 and your low income isn't even enough for 1 it gets very frustrating. And then you get into money arguments with the person you live with. I never get to go out and buy myself something I'd like to have. If I ever do buy myself something it's a piece of clothing at the thrift store. Continually the only thing I end up getting is a little spending money on very cheap food items and a drink. I'm not talking about alcoholic drinks although on occasion I might have a very cheap alcoholic drink and it's usually not what I'd really enjoy best but more of what I can afford that doesn't taste as good. I knows there's many, many people out there worse off then me but somehow that realization doesn't make me feel any better. Plus recently I had a failed relocation attempt and I can't even tell you how disappointed and depressed I am over that. I feel that my life is very limited and it gets more difficult to cope with all the time. I tried to go to the area mental health center but I couldn't get an appointment for 3 months. I have nobody to talk to about my problems for a very long time. I don't have any friends. Poor me; I feel very sorry for myself.
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@flowerfest08 (1677)
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4 Aug 11
oh that sounds sad, i think time will come and you'll be financially better. just be thankful now that you and you're family is healthy, just pray. there's no impossible in asking for Gods help. i wish you well!
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@thedataminer (515)
• United States
10 Aug 11
Thanks. I try to count my blessings and thank God (if he's there) for my blessings. I guess I'm mostly depressed (besides clinically) because I know my life could be so much better maybe. You and other people who believe in God need to realize that if God is there he wants us to help each other. People just don't get this. Jesus tried to teach us to help each other yet we are selfish people and we mostly just think of ourselves. There are a few really good and caring people out there but there needs to be more.
@uzunova (75)
• Bulgaria
4 Aug 11
Money is never enough,you know.You don`t have to be sorry for yourself just because you are not rich.Money is not the most important thing,even though sometimes it lokes like it is.Be happy that you have family ,and you and they are in a good health.
@thedataminer (515)
• United States
10 Aug 11
Thanks for your words. Yeah but having more money really helps. With money you can go out and buy stuff that you need. I need furniture so money would buy me furniture. Money buys people lots of things they need and even more. Yeah of course it isn't enough but it can help allot. Having money can even bring more people into your life if you use it the right way; if you use it to gain friends. I know I would.
@somethingbig (282)
• United Arab Emirates
4 Aug 11
We all have moments like that specially nowadays it is so difficult to earn money no matter how willing and how hard you work. I came to a point where i had no money left on my pocket. From then on I was able to see things on a different light. I see beautiful miracles everyday and I cannot count anymore how much blessings I am receiving everyday. Money is still difficult but with simplified life I was able to point those things that really matters. I thank God for HOPE because I know things will get better and even more abundant. Don't stop praying and hoping, a lot of people are also struggling just like you, my only hope and prayer is for you to be able to see also the beautiful everyday miracles in your life. :) God bless You.
@thedataminer (515)
• United States
10 Aug 11
I also seek God. I always tended to believe in God and Jesus but I can't say I really know they are out there for sure. I think it's good for a person to practise the teachings of Jesus Christ. I'm sorry money is difficult for you to. I try to do as you say to do but I still get very depressed. I feel depressed every day; I feel little or almost no joy in life. My doctor says it's because of vitamin deficiencies. I can't afford to purchase the vitamins he recommended. And I can't afford to eat that healthy either.
@starrose_ara (784)
• Philippines
4 Aug 11
It is normal to feel depress when we face problems especially if our love ones are affected if we lack the money to support them or buy their needs. Have been through that and have also experienced bounty that really overflows. It is easy to choose abundance and an easy life as something that we want for a very long time but it is not so in real life. The lesson that I have learn is that we need not give up even when life is tough and some things does not happen the way we envisioned it to be. God is always there to offer a helping hand in spirit or He will send somebody to help you physically.
@thedataminer (515)
• United States
10 Aug 11
Do you really think that God sends someone physically? I hope, I wish that is the case but I doubt it. We, as people, need to be looking after each other but we don't want to. There's a homeless woman I've noticed hanging around town and sleeping on the park benches all day and all night. I heard she got all of her money stolen but I don't know if that is the truth. Nobody seems to care about this woman. I tried to talk to her once but it wasn't a pleasant experience so I didn't dare try again. She is mentally ill; I'm not sure how great of an extent. There are people who could help her but they just don't; they don't care.
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
4 Aug 11
I can understand how you feel and i cannot blame you for self-pitying. There's no solution that i could offer you other than saying that just hand in there. Try to remind yourself that life is like wheel, sometimes you're down and sometimes you're up! I know that it might feel that most of the time it's down but i wish that you won't lose hope at all.
Someday i'd like to read a post from you that you were able to finally get over it and you are happy already!
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@thedataminer (515)
• United States
10 Aug 11
Hi, thanks for caring. No I don't lose hope. I don't know how to make my life better. I'm so depressed I can't get myself to do anything. I can't get myself to act. If I'm not depressed I'm having a tmj migrain headache. Some days of the month the headaches are pretty bad. Sometimes I have to go to an urgent care center. But the urgent care I went to about a week ago the doctor gave me a shot that hardly worked at all. And I think they didn't give me much pain medicine in the shot because usually these pain shots will take the pain away for a good 24 hours or more. I won't go back to that same place again. I don't lose hope; I almost do but I still hope. I hope for happy moments.
@cow_boy29 (236)
• United States
4 Aug 11
hem i just cry, and try again how to get a lot of money,, :)
@thedataminer (515)
• United States
10 Aug 11
Thanks for your words. When I get very badly depressed each day I will get to a point where it's the worse but then I'll get to feeling better for maybe the rest of the evening. If I go out and walk I will feel better for some reason. So I know what you're talking about. Yes that's what we all must do; keep trying. And never give up.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Aug 11
hi thedataminer I am getting there too. first off I had a diabetic problem so was sent via ambulance to the hospital. first bill came fromt this last usage and I have paid down fifty dollars on the 150 copay okay in feburary I fell and was rushed to the er twice then to a rehab hospital more ambulance usage., so today I get two bills, one for the one I am pay ing on now, and one for the earlier and its also 150 copay. I get left over 125 dollars a month for personal expenses after monthly room and board taken out here at Gold c rest retirement center. so how am I to pay 150 dollars and 100 dollars in total not to mention the phone bill six dollars, twenty dollars on med copay and forty dollars a month for the net. I do make an extra 10 dollars a month on mysurvey.com and her this month will get 23 dollars so that helps but I cannot pay off the ambulance bill in total. so am going to have to keep paying down each month. so me I am depressed too as I am 84 and life should be easier not harder.I cannot give up the net as I need it for mylot and any other money making place I can find. so we are both feeling blue together here. lol lol lol
@rosiesdad (5)
• Chichester, England
13 Apr 16
Hi,
You do have a friend - Me.
Struggling with finances is always depressing especially when the appears to be no way out of it.
I see you live in the U.S. so not sure what support networks you have there as I am in UK.
We have the Citizens Advice Bureau here which help people with all sorts of problems for free - do you have anything like that where you are?
I'm not sure if your working but you can earn a bit of extra cash online on sites like this, Online Survey Sites, Microjobs,,etc,etc- you wont get rich but it will give you another income stream.
I have suffered with Social Anxiety and Depression for a number of years and still have some things I find very difficult.
Luckily I got help from a local Mental Health team which helped a great deal with various therapies.
The one that helps me the most is regular exercise, it gives me a feeling that I have achieved something positive during the day if if the rest of the day has been cr*p.
I dont know if your into things like Running,Hiking,Cycling, Walking, Weight Training,etc but its definitely worth giving it a shot
