what are the tricks to keep our wife happy?

@tenrajj (911)
Bhutan
August 3, 2011 9:32pm CST
Do you know a secret of marital happiness and well-being? I think it is simple: the main thing- a happy wife, and then she will take care of everything else. Well how to make her happy? Marital happiness is often compared with honey cells built by two bees, and the more they work, the sweeter honey is inside. The main condition understand between partners. They should be united by life. Lets discuss some of the ways to make our wife happy. I think we both should have common views on life. Try to help our wife at home and try not to pay attention to some shortcomings of our wife, and always remember that her dignity and noble qualities will hide minor shortcomings. If we do not like one quality in her, then we will be pleased with another one. We must be gentle and tender towards our wife and have fun with her. Listen to criticism in our address form our wife with patience and magnanimity.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
4 Aug 11
Thank you for being considerate to us wives and promoting what can keep us happy. To sum up, basing on my experience as a wife, i feel so happy when my husband gives me importance and due respect. When he honors my opinion and when he too is happy , i am already very happy. Simple things but they matter a lot to me.
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@tenrajj (911)
• Bhutan
4 Aug 11
It is nice to know that you are a happy wife. At the same time it is important that you keep your husband happy. What we discuss here applies to both husband and wife though I have written as wife as I am a boy. We must be kind to our wife and children. IF we are good to our family members, they will also treat us kindly, filling our life with joy. We must let our partner feel that we appreciate his or her happiness most of all, care of his or her health and is ready to sacrifice much to cure her illness.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
4 Aug 11
As they say, Love begets Love and hate begets hate. So let's always give love to one another.
@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
4 Aug 11
Very well said Tenrajj! I think we ladies still want to be wooed even if we are already wives and mothers. We still want to have that happy feeling when our partners give us flowers, surprise gifts even if there is no occasion. Keep the fire burning! Even if you are already married, take some time off to be alone with your wife. Go on dates. Plan new activities that both of you can participate. Keep the relationship interesting. Communication is vital in any relationship. It doesn't mean that you only talk but as important as talking, listening to your wife's sentiments is important too. Your wife should know what is bothering you because your wife is not a mind reader. I think there is no problem that cannot be solved without sitting down and talking about it. Compliment her. Any person would like to be appreciated for their efforts. A thank you for a good meal, or a kiss will really warm your wife's heart. Always make her feel that she is the most beautiful person in your eyes. If she's angry and you don't want to be nag at, just hug her and don't let her go. Hugs and kisses will work. (Usually works for me) When everything seems not to go well, remind yourself why you fell in love with your wife in the first place. I hope you have a happy marriage!
@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
4 Aug 11
Hi Tenrajj! Thanks for the BR! The thoughts were based on my personal experiences as a wife for the past 6 years. I have such a very terrible temper when I'm angry and disappointed and I am very fortunate to have a very cool husband who doesn't meet my bad temper. I tend to be very defensive in an argument that I sometimes raise my voice unknowingly. It is his advice not to raise voices in an argument since there is nothing that cannot be solved when we sit and talk about it. My advice for him to calm me is just hug me tight and never let me go until I'm calm and let my emotions subside. I love it when he gives me flowers after a misunderstanding, how he cooks for us on a weekend and how he plans our annual trips in a local destination. Our marriage isn't perfect at all but it is a work in process. The only constant in this world is change. Even person's attitude change over time. Sometimes we can't recognize anymore the person we married. It is because of these differences that makes marriage a challenge. Married couples should work hard to make the marriage work.
@tenrajj (911)
• Bhutan
4 Aug 11
Wow! you too have great ideas about how to keep our partner happy. The sentence "when everything seems not go well, remind yourself why you fell in love with your wife in the first place", has got a great meaning. We must also try to give our wife an opportunity to receive education. If she wants to obtain a license in any industry, support her, unless it does not prevent her from carrying out marital duties and domestic affairs. Every time she succeeds, encourage her. Listen to your wife attentively, when she starts talking, because it helps pouring her heart and getting rid of many emotional problems. Avoid charges of lying during of conversation. There are, however, women who like talking too much, gossiping about husband's families. In such cases it is necessary to deal wisely with them, be calm, warn them of such conversations, and their unintended consequences. Our wife should always feel safe from any trouble, be confident that you will never leave her. That is how we will enjoy the married life.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
4 Aug 11
Woman wants to be pampered,and make them feel important. Little things means a lot to wives. A kiss and a hug before leaving to work. A short call or message when you were having office break. A flower or single stem of rose once a week. A date if have some extra budget. Sweet nothing when you were in bed.... those were simple things to make a wife happy and made her feel she is always important. jaiho®
• United States
4 Aug 11
I have to agree, it is the little things that make wives happy. Picking up after yourself, offer to do the dishes once in a while, bringing her flowers or candy... These things go far with my wife. Men, things like working hard at work, working on the house, telling her that you love her... These things are expected. To impress your wife, do the unexpected. That's what will keep her in love with you. http://www.villageads.net/
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
4 Aug 11
Wow! great question my friend but I always happy so my husband not use any tricks on me because on my face always smile are there but my husband is always in tension and angry so tell me tricks how husband can happy hahahah. Friend if you wants to see your wife happy then talk with her because communication is the best solution of every things and see which she want. Dont annoy on her for a small event.
@tenrajj (911)
• Bhutan
4 Aug 11
Communication is really important not only in relationship but in each and every aspect of life to lead a happy life. I would suggest you to treat your husband the way you would like him to treat you. Visit his family and relatives, keep good relations with them, full of love and respect. Coming out of the house, ask your husband to smile for you. Coming back, do not go home unexpectedly. Allow him being ready to meet you in the form he wants to appear in front of you, especially if you are returning from a long trip. That may make your husband smile for you as you does for him. His anger may vanish.
@omchesunche (1755)
• Indonesia
4 Aug 11
Hi mates, it's really interesting topic..To keep our marriage in harmony and happiness, we should always maintain understanding between family member. Sometimes there are conflicts and ended up with fighting between couples, but that was normal for any marriage. The point is we must know how to treat wife like a friend since women are using emotional rather than logical thinking, so if husband could listen more and try to avoid fighting..they will be happiest woman on earth..
@tenrajj (911)
• Bhutan
4 Aug 11
As you have pointed our it is important that we maintain understanding. You must allow our wife to feel that you will always provide her happiness, no matter how rich she may be. Never try to seize her inheritance, got from her father. Do not save money on her, even if she is very rich, because she needs a sense you really replace her real father. Your love to your wife should not prevent you from loving your parents or relatives. Each of them should get their share of your love. Love all, not forgetting anybody. This will ensure harmony in family relations.
4 Aug 11
Wow u seem like a really good husband. Um all i kno is that my mom likes it when my dad does stuff to make her happy everyday, like he sees something she might like, or sees that the dishes need to be done so he washes them. Also hes always there to protect her, like a superhero, thats his nickname :D Idk it depends on what type of woman she is and how she sees what love is, my pastor calls it love language, most guys think its insinuated, so they dont have to say it, like by going to work that means he loves you. Some women need to be told they're loved, or that they r beautiful, others like things done for them, or gifts.
@tenrajj (911)
• Bhutan
4 Aug 11
That is a cool relationship. It must be like that with full trust and full understanding. But understanding human mind is one of the most difficult task in this world. It is always important that we keep our active eye on. He or she may change mind in the moment. We must assure that it does not happen. We must always be calm and never go mad, because anger- a source of hatred among people. If you offend your wife, apologize immediately. Do not go to bed being angry with your wife, while she is offended and crying. You must try to understand why you are angry. It is something small, not worth your wife's tears. This tricks will really help to have a happy married life. I am atleast hoping for it.
6 Aug 11
lol you are great! But be careful if your too understanding it could annoy her. Just listen to when u have a fight. Thats where a lot of ppl go wrong. I totally agree with that never go to bed angry, in general thats terrible for your health.
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
4 Aug 11
I agree with you that every wife wants her partern to share her work and if her partner does it, she feels thanksful and happy. One should be considerate towards his wife.
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
5 Aug 11
You are on the right track already. From a wife of 56 years - the most important thing you can give your wife in addition to your love is respect. Respect her ideas and her efforts.
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
4 Aug 11
For me yes very good and I have add it in you if you have a law to implement don't be dominant.
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
4 Aug 11
My Uncle and Aunt have a very happy marriage and so does my grandparents. My grandfather told me that whenever he did something wrong and my he knew my grandmother would get mad, he would scold his own self right in front of my grandma before she could ever utter a single word. Whenever that happens my grandma would just laugh instead of get mad. My grandfather lavished her with so much love and attention and he was very honest with her. He tells her everything including the mistakes he made and apologizes immediately. He treated my grandma like a queen. That's how i want my husband to treat me as well. Like i'm his one and only queen!
@tenrajj (911)
• Bhutan
4 Aug 11
It is good that I am hearing lots of news of happy marriage. We must lead a happy married life always and we must know what keeps our partner happy. To Keep our partner happy, we must not remind our wife about her physical shortcomings or mistakes, especially in front of strangers. Do not reproach her. We must watch our behavior and try to transform, educate ourselves becuase not only our wife is obliged to do so. We must not keep our old bad habits. We must also avoid anything what could cuase anger in our wife, even if its is just a joke. We must try to adopt positive qualities of our wife.
@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
4 Aug 11
I think the simple formula to keep our wife or any other person happy is to put their interest first, that means ahead of our own. Have a nice day my friend
• India
4 Aug 11
Hi tenrajj,as a hubby ,I try she feel comfortable with me.and always help her in house hold work.and take care of her feeling and emotions, because she always take care of me and my family without any terms and conditions.I take care of her wishes and opinions and try to full fill it.and the main thing ,I give my attention and love to my wife.
4 Aug 11
i think just remind her how you love her so much and by showing her that you respect her needs and not cheating with her is enough for a wife to become happy, but of course its a bonus if once in awhile you bring her out on a date and give her some gift once in awhile too.
• China
4 Aug 11
You have made a very good statement. I agree with you. Women are more caring than men in general. So we need to care them more to let them feel that we love them. Try to share the housework with her may be a good way. Try to watch TV with her together. There are many small things that we can do to make our wife happy.
@tenrajj (911)
• Bhutan
4 Aug 11
Yes it is true but we must be clear that it is not only husband doing for wife, wife must also do for her husband to keep him happy too. We must allow our wife feel confident. Do not make her your shadow, which should follow you. Encourage her to have her own views on life. Consult her in all cases. Listen to her, if you see she is right, and tell her about it. If you do not agree with her, they try to convince her politely. Every time she is worthy of praise and gratitude, say her kind words. One important thing we should not compare her with relatives you admire.