getting married
By angel_kaycee
@angel_kaycee (1112)
Philippines
August 4, 2011 4:36am CST
have you felt anxious of getting married? when you feel you wanted to get married but you can't. simply because your partner doesn't seem to feel the same way about your relationship? well im feeling a bit like it right now. we've been in our relationship for over 8 long years, but still no plans for marriage. i wanted to tell him how i long to being with him, how i long to wake up in the morning beside him, cook for him, prepares all his needs for work, sleep with him, watch t.v with him, eat dinner with him. but it seems i have to wait until he stops enjoying his sweet bachelor life. i even came to the point i was so sad and desperate about it that i told myself not to expect anything about marriage... i'll just be happy and satisfy to whatever we have right now. but i don't how long can i withstand it. what should i do. sometimes i thought of breaking up with him. this is not just the life that i like. i hope someone knows how it feels and tell me what to do... thanks!
10 responses
@katrinapaz (2436)
• Philippines
5 Aug 11
i agree with everybody here, 8 years is already a long time and you should talk with your boyfriend if he really has plans for the both of you because age does not move backward and the womans age is important for her childbearing. i think you should reflect about it.
@angel_kaycee (1112)
• Philippines
8 Aug 11
yes you're right and i feel a bit expiring already! haha. well we're not that really old but he won't propose in 2 years we're out of the calendar. thanks.
@janevi (888)
• Philippines
5 Aug 11
That's quite long. Enough time to get to know one another.
Generally men are afraid of a life time commitment. They don't express it openly but the way they delay or postpone some important decisions in their lives can tell. They wanted that once they have decided it is really meant for a lifetime.They want to be sure. It's quite unfair on your part or in any girl's part. But that's how they are. They just wanted to be accepted the they are. Just have patience. The proposal will come.
Why not give a clue. May it will work. But as the saying goes, " true love can wait".
Good luck and have a happy life. Don't be miserable about it. Enjoy your life while you are still single .
@angel_kaycee (1112)
• Philippines
8 Aug 11
you're right, men really are afraid of commitments. well i guess i'll just have to enjoy whatever we have right now. im avoiding myself of thinking about marriage lately. it just makes me sad. anyway thanks!
@wangchunxia (701)
• China
28 Aug 11
yes, when i do not married, my parents push me everyday , make me do not want to go home, i must listen to them when they chat with me about the marriage, i feel so sad ,
@tess_quinain (1149)
• Philippines
4 Aug 11
Hello Angel Kaycee!! You are not alone!! I exactly feel the same way as you. We have the same problem. I also feel like getting married with my beau. But still no marriage plans has been mentioned by him. Haha. It's alright. I guess they do have plans to settle down but probably they are not perfectly ready for that financially. We have been together also for 6 years and I long to be with him everyday. I am also desperate about it. But i think we need to understand men at this point.Breaking up is definitely not a good idea. Talking to him is much better. We girls want boys to talk about marriages, love, plans and etc..But men are naturally not as expressive as we are. Just be more patient. Talk to him. And if he doesn't respond then you have to tell him the feelings you have for him. And if it gets worst and you don't understand each other anymore. That would be the time to think of breaking up.
@angel_kaycee (1112)
• Philippines
8 Aug 11
thanks for your response tess. i guess you're right, men are like that. i also thought that maybe he's getting ready financially too. and i realize that i was being a little selfish by thinking of breaking up with him just because i was avoiding myself from being hurt. thanks a lot!
@princess8881 (1630)
• South Korea
4 Aug 11
wOW eight years.. I understand how you feel and I think you should talk about that to him..or if you are shy why dont joke about that?
I know its really hard to open up that topic he might feel like you are rushing him.... tell him that you just want him too know what you really feel :)
I hope everything will be better soon.. goodluck :)
@angel_kaycee (1112)
• Philippines
8 Aug 11
well that's exactly my fear is, making him feel im rushing him to marry me. that's why i can't even joke about it. anyway thanks for responding!
@lbygyh970855 (237)
• China
5 Aug 11
Can you tell me what's your feeling towards your partner? Do you think he loves you, and to what extent? I think if he loves you, he would be very happy to hear what you have said above. If not, then what is the reason for delaying the merriage. You must get all the things clear. Good luck to you. Don't be so easy to think of breaking up.
@stanley777 (9402)
• Philippines
4 Aug 11
I guess 8 years is long enough for both of you to know what is right.And I think your both enjoying your relationship and also experienced what a real couple have undergone.
I guess you should talk to him about your plans.Since you want to be with him all your life, it's better to know in advance what's in his mind for both of you..
@nitabanerjee (44)
• India
4 Aug 11
getting married ------ befor married every patner make a good friendship than after getting married.
@flowerfest08 (1677)
•
4 Aug 11
i think its better if you ask him whats his plans about the two of you, because 8 yrs of being boyfriend and girlfriend is not a joke, you surely are serious with each other, so ask him maybe he is only waiting for you to do that, well nothing to lose if you do that. goodluck!
@hanjianbo615 (149)
• China
4 Aug 11
hi, i can understand your feeling but eight years is not easy to the relationship between you and your boyfriend. sometimes we may think about breaking up becasuse of something couldn't be solved,however,you could forget the memory you mentioned above if you broke up. i think you should talk to your boyfriend and tell him what's in your mind and get a result. wish you a happy life.
