Do u want to be with him if ur boyfriend doesn't have ur own place to live?

Why should there be a problem to share an apartment with other families IF there is not the finances nor the possiblity to have your very own apartment or home or house. Why can not two wedded couples go together and rent an apartment as a start. Even if it is a small apartment they have a place called home. They can hopefully get an apartment with two rooms and one kitchen and a bathroom. Then each couple have a privacy in their one own room. I think if you really want to have your own home and can make an agreement with another couple to share the apartment as a start it can be beneficial for them financially. Do they have a child they can babysit for one another. As the time goes they can try to get their very own apartment or home for themselves. I have since 7 years lived in an apartment of one room, a kitchen and a bathroom with my 11-years old daughter.

I know it exist. I am from Philippines and I could say that it does exist here especially Chinese. They're particular with that. Maybe that is their culture that has inculcated for many years. I could not judge them for that. I know Chinese works hard to be stable so if the guy is hardworking, there's no reason why he couldn't afford an apartment. As for the side of the parents, they just want to make sure their daughter is in good disposition in marriage.

Until now I haven't met any who doesn't have a place to live yet. Two of them whom I had relationships lived with parents. So it still called home. I wouldn't want to get with one who doesn't have a home. How to survive? If you don't have a job you can still find one, but this is serious. Its like he doesn't have any more family.

Not everyone has the capacity to own one apartment/car or even rent a place to lived in. but for many parents,they want their children to stay with them even after marriage. This is common for parents who only has one or two kids and have enough space for them to stay. If ever my partner doesn't have enough money to pay for the rent,maybe we can help each other by working together and we will share to pay for the rent. I don't mind if it is not a good one as long as we are together. have a good day jaiho®

Well, I live in an eastern country, but even so, there's not that way of thinking. Many women live by themselves, so I don't see why would it be mandatory to find a man who owns an apartment when you want to fly away from your parents' house. Some men here who have a girlfriend move to their girlfriend's house instead too. I suppose that in China prices of houses have to be a really big problem to go to that point. I don't agree with forcing every responsibility on a man, but I have never lived in China so I don't really know how much of a cultural thing is it.

No, I can say that I am not materialistic, I'm just practical being in this manner. Why would I live with my boyfriend if he doesn't have the basic necessity we need? A home to comfort us... that is really important. It must be the first investment he or we should have before living together. It is hard if we will rent a home, it will cost us double. But if we help each other invest in a house, save money together, then it will make the most of it. And, with with the values that I have, I decline to live-in with my BF without a marriage yet. :D

In a way this is an unusual question in the US. It all depends on how old you are and how old the person is you're dating. If still in school you are not going to have your own place. If you are just starting out in life you may not have your own place. However, what counts most of the time for the middle class is how much potential you have to succeed and get these things. However for the wealthy and the beautiful having everything is everything!

I'm from the US so maybe I don't see it like Chinese people would, but it wouldn't make a difference to me. If its the issue of not enough money, two incomes is better than one. As long as you both work, it would be easier to pay rent and bills instead of only one person. I didn't let the problem of low income stop me from staying with my husband. And although we are poor, we are still happy and love each other.

I don't think material possessions like a house should be the reason you are with someone. For me, if you love the person then you will make a relationship work, whatever difficulties you have to face (which may well include struggling to find a place to live!) Sure, its a great bonus if the person you love is well set up and has a place to stay, but if that isn't the case, I don't think you can give up on what could be a great relationship! Maybe you can work together as a couple to find a solution. Maybe rent an apartment for a while - apartment rent is split in half if you are a couple sharing a single bedroom!